Aaaan...d +1 Actually I found this to be a interesting thread, I'm suprised at how many "nope no way" responses there have been. I grew up from a long line of people who were incompatable to say the least, I know both my father and grandfather had what were openly refered to as "girlfriends", my grandmother and mother were both bat crap crazy so it's hard to tell what they got up to. Neither man spent much time at home, nor do I; my wife has numerous "quirks" (her word not mine) that makes it best to limit time together, but we make it work, and yes it is work, just as my folks and other realtives did. Perhaps if i had seen different behavior modeled I would have stronger feelings, but where I come from, women sought a man to get out of the house, escape drunken/ abusive relatives, and get some financial security. When the reality of a long haul set in both parties, tended to seek their own path, but for a variety of reasons, remained tethered in a functional & legal way. I never thought of this as unusual, my in laws and most of their friends and family are the same, as is my sister in law, I understand TD's friend and his comment about the colt perfectly, to me at least, it speaks to the fact there there are other things in life, other people (not neccessarly lovers) other joys; life is to short to put all your eggs in one basket, and it's also too short to throw the baby out w/ the bath water.