Would you forget and affair from your wife?

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  1. skunqesh

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    I do, in all earnestness, wish anyone who's committed to another person - all the best. It's been one of the most horrific and rewarding things I've ever done.
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    Seen cheaters twice in my family. In one case they worked through it but things were never the same. In the other she threw him out and his weakness pretty much destroyed a family.

    The Bible equates marriage with faithfulness and adultery and divorce with violence, an attack on the spouse. I believe from both personal and professional experience those things to be true. Forgiveness IS possible but that doesn't mean the relationship is repairable.

    OP, everyone is different so what can you say? "Take time to think and analyze rather than just react." He has the rest of his life to decide to leave her. Oh, and, "Whatever you decide you have to do, I remain your friend."
     
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    Hey, I'm perfectly proud of anyone who thinks they know what they would do in the question, but I think there are plenty like me that can't even fathom the possibility...
     
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    I think we're pretty secure too on the home front. I always get my wife's golf grips replaced when she needs 'em, and always say nice shot when she hits a good one, and ALMOST ALWAYS look the other way, and don't say nuthin' when she hits a bad one. I mean, what more could she ask for?
     
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    No one has brought up the heartbreak a young man can go through when he's having an affair with someone else's wife, and finds out she's cheating on both him and her husband.
     
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    Putting it up to a vote on a guitar forum is obviously the best course of action.
     
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    Already have.
     
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    Even if it's a crazy idea, it's been an interesting thread and is heading toward post #200.
     
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    If the guy ends up staying with the cheating wife I don't think you will see much of him in the future.

    I had a friend with young kids get cheated on by his wife. He tried to make it work but she kicked him out of the family home and hooked up with the local grocery store fruit and veg manager who was in his early 20's.
    My friend had to move back in with his parents at 40yo. About 8 months later Mr Fruit and Veg called him up crying because my friends ex wife had cheated on him.

     
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    Oh yeah, I really feel DEEPLY sorry for THAT guy...
     
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    A very individual thing, for sure.

    I know of a few marriages that survived this and either resumed their happiness level or actually got their problems faced and fixed by the symptomatic trauma. Amazes me, and I much respect those couples.

    But for me, no. No way.

    Second wife's infidelity ruined that marriage. The line was crossed.

    And the fact that I fell in love with the woman who'd become my (second) wife while still married to my first wife = first wife and I had fatal problems in that marriage. Otherwise I wouldn't have fallen in love with someone else. (Second-wife-to-be and I waited until I was separated, but, even so, emotionally, yep, I was unfaithful.)

    So, to me, infidelity is a symptom of the relationship already being dead. If you really care about, value, and respect your partner and your relationship with her/him, you don't cross that ultimate betrayal line.

    Trust is enacting appreciation. Without it, there's not enough there to (re)build on.

    Again, this is very personal, so I can't prescribe an answer for anyone else, though I have tried to foster emotional honesty in my kids so they know to end a failing relationship before they (or an infidelity-headed partner) blow it up.
     
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    I'd probably offer to be her business manager.



    (it's a joke. this thread is all about "what if's". So, what if she said "good idea!")
     
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    What if the hubby cheats ??? Different rules apply ???
     
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    Not in my eyes.
     
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    Get rid of them, what more proof do you need that they can't be trusted?
     
  18. skunqesh

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    Rite?
    I mean, if it wasn't for cheatin' hearts, and heart ache the vast majority of Rock, Blues, Country, - heck - almost all music everwhere, across the universe - wouldn't exist.

    So here we are - a rag tag collection of moosical hoomyns, brought together by a single purpose: How to turn the inevitable pain/joy of existence into something that can be communicated, preferably via six strings (give or take a few).


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    Once a cheater, always a cheater.
    split up the material stuff and part ways.
     
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