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Why does this piss me off so much?!?!

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by chiefline, Feb 18, 2017.

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  1. Shango66

    Shango66 Friend of Leo's

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    Don't get caught between my GF and a grilled Lamb chop.
     
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  2. flathd

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    I usually feel like an over-stuffed pig with what they serve at most restaurants, and that's just the dinner. If anyone wants to hoard the appetizers, have at it.
     
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    I'm with your wife. Eating with people is a social experience of shared enjoyment, at least for me. You are wrong. Or rather, you are not seeing the experience for what it offers. Your attitude is frankly bizarre to me and you anger is somewhat disturbing. You asked! I mean no disrespect

    Although good manners, to me, dictates that I wait until someone offers me a taste of what they are enjoying, unless it's at a restaurant where passing the dishes is the normal things. I usually say something like "this is really good, would you like to taste it?" Apparently this would make you seethe with anger?

    I dunno, we are all different, but you could maybe consider dining with friends to be a social experience.

    Edit: I did have a friend like this, a guy from a very upper class WASPY background who was a very likeable guy but if anyone got near his plate he was, his wife said, and she was right, like a dog protecting a bone. It was odd
     
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    I don't mind sharing appetizers but I'm not gonna share my main course except for with my wife.
     
  5. studio1087

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    I think that the point of appetizers is sharing and ice breaking with a group. It's supposed to be casual and fun and shared.

    Your entree is your entree.

    I love sharing and discussing appetizers but when the entrees arrive I like to eat my food.

    That's my opinion. I think it would be antisocial or odd to choose an appetizer and eat the whole thing when dining with a group. I've never seen anyone do that unless if it's a petite woman who orders a salad and then an appetizer to be served as her entree.

    Just my observations & opinion.
     
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    Completely up for sharing plates. But have found now that restaurants bring out ridiculously small portions. Order octopus for a table of 6? No problem, you can have two tiny tentacles, let's see how you deal with that socially awkward situation
     
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    I totally get where you're coming from. I'm not opposed to doing the whole share dishes thing, especially at an Indian or Tapas place, but there's usually a conversation that takes place beforehand to make sure everyone is cool with it. Otherwise, I'm going to order what I like and happen to feel like on that night. And then I'm going to eat what I want, not some of what I want and other stuff I don't want. Some people see supper as this huge social event where constant talking and sharing is normal...and to each their own; but not me. Kepe your hands off my food our you're going to end up with a fork in one of them (again, unless we agreed to share). I might be exaggerating a bit, but that's pretty much my sentiment.
    I get where you're coming from!
     
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    Once I went back to my University to visit and ended up going to a Thai restaurant with a bunch of grad students, including one who had just arrived from India, and was a vegetarian. Turned out we ordered all vegetarian dishes and while he first stuck to the one he ordered, a bit suspicious, he loosened up and by the end of the meal tried all the dishes, like everyone else was doing -- you share at a Thai restaurant, right?

    So at the end I asked him which one he liked the best. He pointed to a dish and I said, "oh, the one with Thai whiskey". He replied, "Whiskey, whiskey?! I've been eating whiskey!" and hung he head like he was already dreading the lower status of his next reincarnation. So, maybe not sharing makes senses some of the time!
     
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    So the moral of the story is "don't get your fingers near the calamari when he's in a feeding frenzy". LOL
    (I keed, I keed)
     
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    It could have been worse!
     
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    Kinda just caught me off guard the first time someone took my food and started eating it. Hope the next time friends don't expect me to share the wife also. I mean don't want to be rude.....
     
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    Hey - who you calling a petit woman?
     
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    When I said share the love that's not what I had in mind. [emoji4]
     
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    if everyone orders 2 $15 appetizers, the bill is going to be astromical.
     
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    I share everything 50/50 with my SO. Everyone else can FO :)

    What really annoys me is when there's 1 person in the group who orders the most expensive thing on the menu, every possible side dish, a 3rd bottle of wine for themselves, and a pack of smokes, and is then the first to suggest 'Hey guys, let's just keep it simple and split the bill equally'. I like being generous to people but I want to be making that decision.

    Riiight, feeling calmer now
     
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    I was just talking about this with my GF, it does seem like often times the people who order one of everything "for the table" are just looking for others to subsidize their extravagant meal.And generally those same people are the ones boxing up the leftovers to take home. I much prefer cooking for people at our home even if with our group that means making a few vegan things on top of the good stuff.
     
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    Cooking for people at home is a great move. I get to feel that inner glow, and everybody gets something they like. As a lapsed vegetarian I know how irritating it is when everyone else dips into your meal and you can't reciprocate. Emphasising the lapsed part, I now appreciate the unifying and democratizing experience of a barbecue.

    All-you-can-eat buffets are an option too, but don't get me started on the mandatory service charge on self-serve place being the same rate as a full waiter service restaurant.
     
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    Wish I lived the kind of life where sharing appetizers at dinner with friends was a notable concern.
     
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    For most people, having too much food is the real problem...

    I always thought the point of going to a meal with people was to share things - food (where cuisine-appropriate), conversation, wine etc. If that's not you, then don't eat out with people.
     
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    So OP, it appears:

    1. You are not alone.
    2. But you are maybe a minority.
    3. So if true, most people you eat out with will expect to share.

    You've gotten a few strategies to manage. Hope they help.
     
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