Why do guys almost always do the driving of cars?

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by DugT, Feb 6, 2019.

How often do you drive compared to your wife or girlfriend?

  1. 0%

    7 vote(s)
    4.5%
  2. 25%

    15 vote(s)
    9.7%
  3. 50%

    22 vote(s)
    14.2%
  4. 75%

    46 vote(s)
    29.7%
  5. 100%

    65 vote(s)
    41.9%
  1. Nickadermis

    Nickadermis Friend of Leo's

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    I voted 75%. Up until recently I drove all of the time. Now I have my niece working for me and she drives me around most of the time. I can sleep that way, and I need sleep anymore. She is an excellent driver and she carries my bags for me into the hotel and holds the door for me and generally makes sure I make it through my daily life at work. She is organized, can follow directions and is just a darn fine driver. Being from Florida she has had a bit of a learning experience with these icy and snowy roads, but unlike her brother and mother, she has actually learned how to handle herself in inclement weather.

    She will make someone an absolutely spectacular wife someday.........far in the future............after I am dead and gone. I told her she can start dating when she turns 27, but they have to meet my approval first. :rolleyes:
     
  2. mrmousey

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    I do 99% of the driving, it's a gesture of love and appreciation ......
    On the other hand she does 99% of the cooking, as she's a "kitchen magician" ......
    Go figure ......
     
  3. Glen W

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    The car asks me to be the driver.

    Mrs W is capable of going from point A to point B. She is a cautious driver, and operates her new CRV for all of her appointments, etc., to return home safely.

    The poor car has to deal with the stress of a driver with absolutely no mechanical sympathy. "Oh no! She's turning my steering wheel all the way to the left, and we aren't moving!" "Oh no! I'm going from reverse to drive without stopping!" "Why is my gas pedal going up and down every second?" "Geez - now it's gasbrake-gasbrake-gasbrake every other second...will it ever stop!" :eek:

    So, before we are about to embark on almost any trip where we are both in the car, I can hear it quietly begging me..."please be the driver." :p;)
     
  4. Billnchristy

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    I drive trips, wife drives weekends for normal stuff because her car doesn’t use gas.
     
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    Last sentence is a reminder to poke my kids about dates. We are behind schedule for doing a winter road trip that we usually do. We go early to spare a night of lodging and be ahead of Chicago traffic. Then make sure we're driving by 5 AM Monday so we have an uncrowded late Sunday.

    Today's weather will be a lesson for some. It's been a mix of freezing rain and hail. My wife took my rig for AWD plus true snow tires. I'm hoping fresh air will be the only reason to leave the house.
     
  6. smsuryan

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    My ex wife was driving with me in the passenger seat and something happened in front of her (someone stopped suddenly, changed lanes, can't really remember)...what I do remember is her reaction: She SLAMMED on the brakes while taking her hands off the wheel, covering her eyes and screaming until we were at a complete stop! No defensive driving tactics, period. Just panicked. Thankfully no one was hurt and no one was behind us or we would've been
    rear-ended. Later she got mad at me for correcting her driving. We've been happily divorced for almost 20 years now.
     
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  7. tfarny

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    My wife is a fine driver but she appreciates my being willing to do most of the driving and says so. When I'm extra-tired or something she is perfectly fine to drive us around, but I do at least 75% of our driving. I think it's just a little leftover bit of chivalry for better or worse, that both genders seem to be fine with. more or less.
     
  8. blowtorch

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    YEEESH, it's frightening what silly hens they can be at times!
     
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    My girlfriend drives all the time, but then again I don't have a car and let my license expire a few years back.
    I miss the act of driving, and the freedom, but nothing else.
     
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    Miz Diane is a fine drover: I steer, she tells me when to do everything else. :confused:

    Reality: she is actually a very good and cautious driver. She's never had an accident, never a moving violation. We are not better drivers, we simply drive differently than one another. We share the driving load when on trips. We drive separately to work and back. Apart from work, I put on my chauffeur hat.

    Poor soul, she cannot drive in reverse. Very lucky to make it down the driveway every morning without hitting the mailbox. She will not even attempt it if I am watching...probably because of the distraction of me ROTFLMAO.

    She has never grokked that when I am driving, I am not seeing or experiencing thru her eyes. In traffic, with her in the passenger seat, it is like having a meerkat Sgt. on the roof with a PA system.

    I'm a good ignorer.
     
  11. Lonn

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    I like to drive, my wife likes to ride. Works for us.
     
  12. blowtorch

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    *Lights cigarette*
    ...go on, continue...
     
  13. Piggy Stu

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    I would expect most of us would prefer a driver to have sympathy for the vehicle and leave more thinking distance. I am delighted to be chauffeured by a good driver. That is not many people

    Common discussion w my gf is each of us wanting to avoid driving. She drives down potholes and brakes hard. I pay for the repairs to tracking etc as she bumps up kerbs
     
  14. davidge1

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    I did all of the driving for years. More recently, my wife started working less than 10 minutes away and I started working 30 miles away. That's my "excuse" to get her to drive when we go out.

    Any time we go a long distance though, like up the coast to see the in-laws, I always drive.
     
  15. Mellencaster

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    We both drive but I think she gets more enjoyment telling me how to drive.
     
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    I let her drive...and I was fine.
     
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    I'm the designated drinker, so I let her drive.

    No seriously, I let my wife drive most of the time, because I don't fit well in her car. She is short (5') and we shopped for a long time before we found a car that she is comfortable in and settled on a Toyota Rav4. But it sure doesn't work for me (6'), I can sit in the passenger seat, if I move it all the way back and recline way back. So if we go somewhere in the car, she drives. If we go camping, we take the truck so I drive. If we are going for a longer trip, we take the Harley, and I drive.
     
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    When we're in a hurry I never go fast/slow enough or take the most efficient route in her opinion, so in these situations we just avoid the whole debacle and she drives.

    If I've even thought about having a third beer, she drives. (She's not a big drinker)

    In bad weather, at night, or over long distances I usually do the driving. (Rain frightens her, she has poor night vision, tires quickly)

    There are times where I'd like to feel as though I'm assuming the traditional male role of provider, task handler, escort, etc. not because I feel emasculated or anything, I just wanna be a good husband. But it's not something we really concern ourselves with. She prefers to drive most of the time, so she does. Whatever gets us from point A to point B safely. One of the keys to a happy marriage is an effective division of labor.

    The older, more old school folks in her family tend to have more of an issue with it, but eff them.
     
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  19. muscmp

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    even tho i do most of the driving in our household, i've found exactly the opposite. men just jump into their trucks and bulldoze everyone while women, probably due to having kids in the car, pay attention to what is going on around them.

    play music!
     
  20. rcole_sooner

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    I voted 50%.

    I prefer to ride, but she wants me to drive sometimes.

    I hate driving and road trips in general. Just get me there and get it over with.
     
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