Tough love

[uriah1]

Had to practice tough love on New Year’s Eve. Nephew showed up at door saying girl friend kicked him out and walked a few miles to our place. He has had drug and alcohol issues and probably a continuation. Girlfriend his keys and Wallet. Kept him at door as his mom my sister tried to contact mate etc etc. Regardless I would not have a abuser stay. Also possibly suicide inclinations which I am not qualified to talk. Took him to homeless shelter. Hope all works out. We do Alanon for other issues since my daughter died of od . Hope all works out and he gets help. Just nice ending to 2022. Just another day.

 

[telemnemonics]

Sorry to hear that, very sad stuff and indeed one of those times that may be the only right answer.

At my home group a member shared a couple of seasons ago that her son who was "in recovery" overdosed in her living room on a Christmas visit, and she made a simlar hard choice to throw him out after EMTs revived him.
She and I had also gone to the same Naranon meeting.

For myself I can say for100% certain that until family stopped helping me out of one jam after the other, I kept using.

Only when they all said "we cannot help you any more (unless to get you into a program)" did I get help and stick with it.
That was Christmas 1997.
Clean since May 1998 because it often takes a few rehabs and falls.

 

[bobio]

Sorry to hear, that has to be one of the toughest decisions to make.

 

[Kandinskyesque]

Tough situation to be in at this time of year and (imho) preserving your own sanity as a priority is the right thing to do albeit tough.

Prayers that your nephew has hit bottom enough to find the gift of desperation.

I've a big debt of gratitude owed to the Friends of Lois W for preserving my family's sanity.