My shorthand is "sound," "vibe," and "shape". When I think about what guitar+pedals+amp I'm using, I call that the "sound." EG, I'm going for a "surf sound" so I use a Strat with lots of reverb. If I switch from one reverb to another reverb, I am tweaking the "guitar sound." So I'd say, "I'm going for a fuzz guitar sound, but the bass sound should be nice and clean. You should break out the bundles for a more alt-country drum sound." When you tweak the EQ I call that changing the "shape." "I need to tweak the guitar shape on this song somehow because the two guitars are sounding muddy." There's overlap between "shape" and "sound", but shape is tweakier and sound is broader. If I'm talking about what style to play, that's the "vibe." "I'm going to do a solo with a laid back melodic vibe. The bass should be root-five all the way through for that 'head-nod-along" vibe. Let's do a floor-tom, Lust for Life vibe." To me, "tone is in the fingertips" is execution. "My execution is off tonight, I'm throwing out clams all over the place and I can't get the finesse I need to sell this solo." I never parsed it that much but I always assumed "tone is in the underpants" meant "tone is how well whatever you are doing is connecting with attractive members of the audience." I might call that "mojo" if I could actually bring myself to say that word since musical instrument marketers got a hold of it. I rarely say "tone." You know how some people can't stand the words "moist" or "puberty" or whatever? That's pretty much where I am with "tone" these days.