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Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by omlove, Jun 6, 2019.
My wife suggested a date night. I said Okay. She goes on Tuesday and I go on Thursday.
Well, you see, some women have made comments suggesting that since they have certain body parts that many guys are interested in that enables them (the women) to secure the attention of those guys and get certain guy body parts in return.
Really makes you think.
Oh gosh. Another case of quoting myself when meant to edit. Darn it.
What do women have that men don't?
In most cases anyway.
Rather than block a bunch of folks I'll just bow out of this thread and forum.
Groucho Marx probably had it right.
Being married the first time at 21 and divorcing at 32 and getting married again in my 40's my advice would be if you are considering it dispite the hesitations have a long engagement and go from there. but yeah life changes dude no doubt so be sure about what you want and don't drag it along if the intension is not truly there .
Do you think it's best not to be fully informed or question anything or weigh up the pro's and cons before entering a lifelong commitment with someone you met a year ago and is pressuring you into it?
I have a buddy that lives on a ranch off the 166 about forty miles from here, that says from his own experience, "they ought to keep all the girl cows, in one pen, and the boy cows in another, until they get to be about thirty years old." I'm not sure he was talking about anything to do with ranching!
He's a great guy in a lot of ways and has done a bunch of really significant stuff on nuclear security. Smart, funny, curious--he's also an extremely selfish guy, no doubt. My point is just that he blames everybody but himself: the judge, his ex wife's lawyer, his ex wife. My first wife cheated on me and abandoned our son. I've seen both men and women do it. I don't even blame people for cheating: people are human and make mistakes, though I've never cheated. There's cheating and then there's leaving the marriage, and they aren't necessarily the same thing, but yeah cheating is pretty much throwing a bomb in the room.
Agreed. Cheating rarely ends well.
Now, I've heard it said, you know talked about round the neighborhood, that this whole thing with BT being a little testy about marriage started out as just an innocent little exercise in fun one Saturday morning.
What you say is true. Women don't have the monopoly on being a-holes any more than men do. And I say that as a man who has had wrong done him by women in the past. And yes it was tempting to just shrug and say, "Ahh, they're all the same...."
There's a certain amount of comfort to be gained from sweeping generalisations, I'll admit, but it's ultimately false comfort. It just engenders bitterness.
It's harder for folks to acknowledge that everyone's different irrespective of gender, but then, since when was always taking the easy road the right thing to do?
Which I suppose goes to the heart of the choice the OP faces. Do the RIGHT thing, for YOU, whatever you understand that to be, not necessarily the EASIEST thing to do.
Here's to a day when mysoginy and misandry alike have bitten the dust.
And yes,I had to look up misandry before typing it, LOL...
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Why no look up misogyny?
Cos I thought I could spell it. Clearly one of them is spelt wrong though. Well spotted. [emoji106][emoji41]
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Heh, I couldn't resist, but +1 on the sentiment.
As a wedding photographer who has photographed over 200 weddings and relies on them to make a living, I say... DO NOT GET MARRIED.
These days, it's just not necessary. You can life happily ever after without marriage. And when that happily ever after ends, which it probably will, there won't be a need for a messy divorce, or paperwork, etc.
I'm not jaded. I've just been around enough couples and the true successes seem fewer and fewer. Times are different.
Perhaps it's for the same reason financial institutions pull a credit report before offering you a loan or credit. The best way for humans to predict the future is to look at the past, and even then there's no guarantee of a payoff.
I get what you're saying...drop it and move on. However, for most it's much easier said than done and biases play a big part in decision making and outlooks on life, relationships, etc.
If your experience with the opposite sex is that they're just a bunch of evil slags bent on destroying men, I'd recommend reflecting on these relationships for a moment and looking at the one thing they all have in common.
An advocate for your own obsolescence?