There’s a huge hole in my heart

[Cpb2020]

I’m so very sorry for your loss.

I was very close to my grandmother who I lost when I was in 5th grade. She got me more than anyone else did. I feel simultaneously lucky to have known her for as long as I did, and cheated for not having her longer.

To this day I can close my eyes and see the dress that she was buried in and the wrinkles on her skin.

Write the memories down while they’re fresh. I wish I had.

 

[stxrus]

My condolences

I would consider finding an artist to convert that still picture into a still life painting

 

[schmee]

So sorry for your loss. I was young, like 20, when mine died. I have sure wished I had more time and asked more questions...

 

[Stubee]

Way back when my father came into our bedroom to tell us our very elderly great grandma had died, and he broke down while saying it. As a young boy I’d never seen my Dad cry, and it was a complete surprise as Great Grandma seemed so old & frail to me. I learned years later that Dad’s parents had divorced when he was 3, his parents both had to work to survive and he therefore lived with his grandparents until he was grown. My little Great Grandma meant the world to him.

My mother-in-law became my “2nd mother”; my own mom died when I was 24. I, too, learned that “you’re never ready for this”, no matter the circumstances. I’m sorry you lost your dear Granny.

 

[twangking]

Beautiful flowers. Sorry for your loss.

 

[Toto'sDad]

I try not to get to personal but I’ve posted a time or two previously with my grandmas struggles, the struggle we as a family have had to do to help her which we collectively were more than were happy to do.


We spent Christmas in the hospital last month and got her home a few weeks ago. She had been doing better than her previous returns from the hospital but still required 24/7 care with my uncle pulling all week since he’s retired and my mom pulling weekend duty. Mom being a nurse she really got on her about doing better which was working.

I went to the store after work yesterday and had a random thought, I’m going to buy grandma some roses since I recall those being her favorite. Why? It just crossed my mind then and I can’t tell you why. I gave them to mom last night before she went up for weekend duty and granny loved them.

9:30 this morning I got the call you never want. My mom was in a hysterical mumble I couldn’t make out and heard sirens in the background. All I remember was you better get in your truck and hurry, I’m a half hour away. Twenty minutes later I got the second worse call from my uncle, we lost her.

Mom is kicking herself for not doing something sooner when she had a feeling something was off but went into action and did her part until ems arrived.

She was 87, you’re never ready for this despite knowing her age and the recent history she’s had. She was my second mom spending the summers with her growing up. The sweetest lady everybody loved. She was a big baker throughout her life and love dishing everybody cookies and goodies for ages. The memories from being kids and she loved Walmart runs and would give my brother and I each five bucks to buy whatever we wanted. All the movie nights with sleeping bags on the floor and her awesome meals. I could write a book but I’ll spare you but needed to vent.

There’s a huge hole in my heart, I’m still trying to wrap my head around it. I’m trying to wrap my head around the random idea of buying her the roses and the timing of what’s happened. Mom said their next move after getting ready this morning was taking a picture of her holding the roses I got her but they didn’t get that far.

Miss ya granny

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My sincerest condolences sir, you are going through a tough time. I hope all of you will be able to put the horror of death behind you and enjoy the great memories you have of your Granny.

 

[blowtorch]

grandparents are so very precious

 

[Lou Tencodpees]

I only knew my paternal grandmother and she lived with us my entire life. She was an extension of the parental unit and lived into her 90's, passing when I was 31. It was my first loss of a family member and a difficult time.

Condolences to you.

 

[Tone Quest]

So sorry for the loss of your grandmother. Prayers are up for you and your family.

 

[robt57]

In time the pain you feel will be superseded with fond memories and your feelings will be heart warming once again.

I wish this time passes quickly for your heart.

 

[Tricone]

My condolences to you and your family. May your grandma Rest In Peace.

 

[idjster]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences.

 

[Gimble]

My condolences.

 

[johnny k]

hang in there.

 

[telleutelleme]

Prayers for you and your family. I hope whenever you see a rose it will bring a good memory for you.

 

[Twofingerlou]

Thanks everyone!

 

[HootOwlDude]

I try not to get to personal but I’ve posted a time or two previously with my grandmas struggles, the struggle we as a family have had to do to help her which we collectively were more than were happy to do.


We spent Christmas in the hospital last month and got her home a few weeks ago. She had been doing better than her previous returns from the hospital but still required 24/7 care with my uncle pulling all week since he’s retired and my mom pulling weekend duty. Mom being a nurse she really got on her about doing better which was working.

I went to the store after work yesterday and had a random thought, I’m going to buy grandma some roses since I recall those being her favorite. Why? It just crossed my mind then and I can’t tell you why. I gave them to mom last night before she went up for weekend duty and granny loved them.

9:30 this morning I got the call you never want. My mom was in a hysterical mumble I couldn’t make out and heard sirens in the background. All I remember was you better get in your truck and hurry, I’m a half hour away. Twenty minutes later I got the second worse call from my uncle, we lost her.

Mom is kicking herself for not doing something sooner when she had a feeling something was off but went into action and did her part until ems arrived.

She was 87, you’re never ready for this despite knowing her age and the recent history she’s had. She was my second mom spending the summers with her growing up. The sweetest lady everybody loved. She was a big baker throughout her life and love dishing everybody cookies and goodies for ages. The memories from being kids and she loved Walmart runs and would give my brother and I each five bucks to buy whatever we wanted. All the movie nights with sleeping bags on the floor and her awesome meals. I could write a book but I’ll spare you but needed to vent.

There’s a huge hole in my heart, I’m still trying to wrap my head around it. I’m trying to wrap my head around the random idea of buying her the roses and the timing of what’s happened. Mom said their next move after getting ready this morning was taking a picture of her holding the roses I got her but they didn’t get that far.

Miss ya granny

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Sorry for your loss, man. I know the pain is real. She had a long life and that is meaningful. Hang in there!

 

[posttoastie]

So sorry for your loss. Remember the good times.

 

[dougstrum]

A good relationship with grandparents is special.
Sorry you lost your grandma.

 

[Alamo]

My uncle had been with her all week, mom went up last night and they had a good dinner ect and a good time but losing her happened on moms watch this morning. I’ve had to call and talk to some close friend to tell them the news that loved granny too. One buddy said well maybe she wanted to see your mom once more and knew she would be in good hands with her being a nurse.

This stuff makes me think bud but maybe I’m overthinking it.

I regretfully have the tie tack in my Possession which I haven’t opened yet.

When my mom passed in hospice, my two sisters were always at her side.
I traveled 600 km to see her, she passed two nights after seeing each other.
I believe it was her only wish to see me once again. then she could let go.


hang in there, friend.
So sorry for your loss.