Spending time with my Dad is priceless..

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  1. jannodude

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    My wife and I decided to visit my Dad today. We’ve been planning to visit my dad for the past few weeks.

    There is something unexplainable when I’m with my Dad. Talking about random things and watching UFC/Bellator is priceless. Definitely worth the one and half hour drive each way!

    He is getting older and I plan to cherish the moments I have with him..

    Edit: Picture of my Dad, using his “Amazon Alexa remote”. He was happy explaining how he can request songs and have it played on the T.V.
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  2. Ron R

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    Enjoy it while you can. My last really good memory with my Dad was just chilling and watching a Pirates game on tv (and I hadn't cared about baseball for 25 years, but Dad still loved to watch them). I'm glad we got that time together. Coming up on 4 years since he passed. :(
     
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    What I'd give for a few more minutes with mine.
     
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    I'm sure he enjoyed your visit, as well... :)

    I got on well with my Dad and helped care for him through his last days... something I always swore I would do when I was a teen... look after mum and dad when they get older...:)
     
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    Good for you! There is truly no time like the present. No one is promised tomorrow. You’re a good son!
     
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    I’m glad that you have a relationship with your parents where you want to look after them.
     
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    Agree. We had transferred back east to N.C. and at the last moment my wife said, “why don’t you drive up home to Pittsburgh and watch the Steelers in the Super Bowl (against Seattle) with your father?” I did and have forever been so grateful that I did.
     
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    Awesome wife!
     
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    My dad and I worked and talked all day today.
    We ate a late lunch afterwards.
    I told him he was my best friend. He is.

    Ed: spelling
     
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    @jannodude - it's a good practice to make time to hang w/ papa.
    In my case, we did it @ motorcycle shows, long after either of us owned a bike.

    Even though I made a point of stopping in regularly, up to his final week, now that he's actually gone, there are additional questions I wish I'd gotten around to asking.

    You're doing the right thing.
    Peace - Deeve
     
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    Good for you. My dad was my picking buddy. He and I would play along to his Flatt and Scruggs records for hours picking and singing a little out of tune but it was a blast. Enjoy the time you have.
     
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    Enjoy the time, it really is priceless.

    I'd give anything for a few minutes, let alone a day with mine. I lost him when I was in my mid 20s about 15 years ago, he was 57. I often think about what he'd have thought of his grand kids and stuff like that.

    There was just so much we never talked about. My wife lost her father the same year I lost mine, she is 5 years younger than me so she was about 20. She says the same.

    Really do cherish the days!
     
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    Loved my moments with my father...we talked books, heard music, made food together, took long walks, stayed up late and talked more, called him weekly for many years too... I miss him badly...
    But I try to do the same with my kids, just to keep the spirit alive :)

    And the kids seems to enjoy the time we spent together as well....so something good was passed on..
    But yeah it was precious times....
     
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    good for you and your dad.
    life can be so time consuming, demanding, that real gems off life vanish.

    Larry Norman wrote a song with this in it
    there is no use dreaming off a perfect future ore regretting a troubled past, it's only today that counts, life it like it might be your last, cause it might.
     
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    My dad passed away when I had just turned 13, so I didn’t have a chance to get to know him as an adult.
    But he had 8 brothers and two sisters who step into his shoes and gave me all the love and care that anyone would ever need.
    I was close to most of them until they one by one passed away, there’s only one left and he’s 88 and not in the greatest health. I speak to him regularly. I’ve known him and been close to him since I was 7 years old, soon to be 62 years ago.
    It has been said in my family that losing my parents by 13 years old was a tragedy, but the truth is, if I had never got to know my aunts and uncles, that would have been the tragedy.
     
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    I missed a lot of years that would have really counted with my Dad...too busy with career and family a long distance away--excuses. But looking back with regret salves little. When I retired, I let Mrs. choose where we were to live, since my career had driven us for so long. We ended up in the same smallish town as both our kids and five grandkids (plus two thru marriage...so seven). It has been great and I have been able to spend a lot of time with my son...comparatively less with my daughter, but Mrs. does many things with her, and we get everyone together at least every two weeks. In addition, we were blessed to have a day care arrangement for the three youngest girls for three to four years each---just a great time to have them around and priceless in terms of memories and family ties.
     
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    Good on ya’!
    I miss my folks.
    I was very lucky to have such loving, capable and sane parents.
    Enjoy your family!
    There is so much I wish I could talk to and ask my parents.
    Too late now.
     
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    Amen to that, just to hear his voice one more time.
     
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    Yes, you are. Keep it up.
     
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    I’m lucky that I not only had a plain old good guy as a father but that I got to spend a lot of time with him the last 30+ years of his life. Those were also the years where I really got to know the wonderful man who’d previously just been “my dad”. I still miss him nearly eight years after he left us. I’m glad you are able to spend time with your father.
     
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