The OP seems to have changed somewhat since I first read it, now it's a much broader question. Don't talk to anyone about this situation. Whoever unveils the truth, whether it's common knowledge or not, is going to have to buy a saddle because they'll be known as a horses rear forever! Everyone who likes either the mom, the dad, or the kids will think you should have minded your own business. I'm minding your business, but you asked.
