I wouldn't have wanted to have missed a single day in my wife's and my continuing days of our lives' episodes. If I wasn't doing this, no telling what kind of trouble I might be getting in.
She who must be obeyed to do list.
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nvilletele
Friend of Leo's
Maybe I am not so bad off being single again . . . .
She hammered me into compliance on our honeymoon!
Not now!
I have "golf equipment money" it buys a number of different things.My wife works a 9-5 job. I work from home as I have for 25 years now.
She recently got a great new job and I can see it agrees with her.
She hardly ever gives me "Honey Dos."
She doesn't have to - I make my own list and get them done without her coaching.
I use the "Sticky Notes" feature on my PC to line out my days and plan when to get things done.
She holds up her end too - does the cooking, loads the dishwasher, and takes care of the kitties.
I do all laundry, some yardwork, and any grocery shopping we need to do outside of our weekly run.
Not to mention dry cleaning, post office, garbage detail, and all the other stuff she doesn't have time to get to.
So it has been almost 30 years with us along with raising two kids, and it seems to work fine.
She also never gripes about me acquiring guitars or guns.
That's because I have a "toy fund" disguised as a checking account, and it's separate from the one we use for household expenses so I'm never taking food off anyone's plate when I purchase something.
All the money circulates through this account, so I know what I have a budget for and don't go into debt.
Recently I took up slide, so I sold a couple guns and funneled the money into a resonator and some other stuff.
She was pleasantly surprised to see the shiny new metal body axe sitting here in my office and the noises I make.
So for all you young folks out there, the secret to marital bliss is ... separate checking accounts.
I'm sure she does, I've just never given her an order to find out!
She don't mean it!
Bring on the whip!
2HBStrat
Friend of Leo's
I would say it was a response, but not really an answer.
Now, that IS an answer.She hammered me into compliance on our honeymoon!
You may not know this but I'm really a delicate little flower on the inside underneath it all, this big body is an optical pollution,
because of my heart breaking personal tragic history having loved and lost
, booh who booh who, poor me, pour me another drink booh who
I personally find this topic very depressing.
because of my heart breaking personal tragic history having loved and lost
, booh who booh who, poor me, pour me another drink booh who
I personally find this topic very depressing.
Mr. Toto is just messing with us. He likes this situation. And the thing is, putting another's happiness above your own in a relationship is a cool move. It pays off.
Are you married or something?
putting another's happiness above your own in a relationship is a cool move. It pays off.
This is an abstract theory ? right? it doesn't really come from experience, does it?
Anyone who has been in a long term marriage or has been a parent knows this. Happiness is a brick made of empathy and sacrifice. You can't make happiness all by yourself.
El Tele Lobo
Poster Extraordinaire
Simpin’ ain’t pimpin’…
Of course, you can be right or you can be married, so there’s that…
Or you could be a lonely minimalist bachelor like me!
Somehow I get the feeling you didn’t make out too badly in the marriage lotto, though.
She’s probably just trying to keep you alive. A sedentary life is a fast road to Boot Hill, TD.
Of course, you can be right or you can be married, so there’s that…
Or you could be a lonely minimalist bachelor like me!
Somehow I get the feeling you didn’t make out too badly in the marriage lotto, though.
She’s probably just trying to keep you alive. A sedentary life is a fast road to Boot Hill, TD.
o.k. o.k. Mr Smarty pants will shut up I was just playing around, Mr Cynical, Devil Advocate, you know,....That's a bold statement in a depressing tread like this one, I mean I was married to a person with a personality disorder but I didn't know about personality disorders and I tried to get things to work and it was driving me crazy, everything just keep making left turns and I couldn't get it to work...
Years later my shrink says I wouldn't normally say this but considering that she's down for the dirt nap, I'll tell you that you've been describing a person with a personality disorder.
"OH! says I," I just couldn't figure it out. But then I'm not in the shrink business I'm in the slide guitar, restaurant worker/cook business.
I'm sorry you married the wrong person, but Mr. Toto did not mean this to be a depressing thread. He's making compromises because he likes being married. That doesn't mean he is 100% happy about all the compromises, but looking at the sum total of all the experience, it's worth it. Life is not all Telecasters and Twin Reverbs, though those are cool too.
PhoenixBill
Tele-Holic
The concept of a “honey-do” list is actually pretty logical if you think about the traditional domestic situation in which the husband goes to work while the wife stays home. She’s going to notice the things around the house that need fixing because she’s there far more than the husband. Naturally this can occasionally cause friction: he feels he’s worked hard all week while she stays home and does nothing, she feels that he’s left her home alone.
A good relationship requires compromising and traditionally the man does the compromising to please her, traditionally she is the delicate flower that needs nourishing. That’s a chauvinistic viewpoint but that was ingrained into American culture centuries ago.
The bottom line though is that we men could stubbornly draw a line in the sand and refuse to compromise but is all the bickering and everything worth it just so we can be “right”? Life’s short and now that my better half is no longer here on Earth, I realize that having a loving woman is a blessing that’s worth sacrificing my time and money. Maybe husbands wouldn’t be “henpecked” if they went overboard trying to please their wives. Single guys might say ”oh he’s …..whipped” but they’re single and alone.
A good relationship requires compromising and traditionally the man does the compromising to please her, traditionally she is the delicate flower that needs nourishing. That’s a chauvinistic viewpoint but that was ingrained into American culture centuries ago.
The bottom line though is that we men could stubbornly draw a line in the sand and refuse to compromise but is all the bickering and everything worth it just so we can be “right”? Life’s short and now that my better half is no longer here on Earth, I realize that having a loving woman is a blessing that’s worth sacrificing my time and money. Maybe husbands wouldn’t be “henpecked” if they went overboard trying to please their wives. Single guys might say ”oh he’s …..whipped” but they’re single and alone.
I like to leave one, relatively easy to do thing, at the ready.
Then, when somehow you are in deep filth (and who knows why?) you can do that relatively easy thing and you have at least gotten partway out of the mess you are in.
Don't just do honey-do things without thinking it through. They are supposed to be left undone, for a reason.
Then, when somehow you are in deep filth (and who knows why?) you can do that relatively easy thing and you have at least gotten partway out of the mess you are in.
Don't just do honey-do things without thinking it through. They are supposed to be left undone, for a reason.
