Speaking from experience (divorced after 18 year marriage), I would highly recommend working on communication. My fiance' and I were both previously married. The best thing that we have done is to read some quality books on relationships and communication. Not to get all Oprah or Dr Phil on you, BUT... I highly recommend the "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" series by Dr John Gray. Its very eye opening on how the sexes see things completely differently and hear two completely different messages from the same sentence! Another good book was called "His needs, Her needs" (can't remember the author's name, I think its Harley or something). I think its very good at educating both sexes on what's important to each other. Yes, our priorities are different. We both read whatever book we've chosen and then discuss it with each other. I look at it as an investment, so as not to repeat the same mistakes again, as in my first marriage. I hate to admit it, but I really learned alot! Plus, you earn major points in her "love bank" (you see?- this stuff really can sink in) by being willing to spend time improving your relationship, unlike "most" men. Most important of all, it makes my life easier by gaining some insight into what women need and how they view the world (and its definitely different from how WE see it!) She makes me happy...so if I can do the same for her, its definitely worth a little bit of time away from playing my Telecaster. Hopefully you can both give it a try... if a 20 year Marine Corps veteran (me) is willing to do some touchy-feely things, then you can too. Good luck.