Saying goodbye to a friend

Milspec

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As a letter carrier, I see the same dogs on my route for many years. Unlike some carriers, they all seem to become my friends and are found patiently waiting by the window or door for me to pass by. The encounters are short, but always a pleasant exchange and despite being against regulations, I always have a treat available.

It is an interesting policy, when I began the route years ago, every dog in the neighborhood would bark constantly and some were even rather aggressive as I passed by. Once I started carrying treats, it was only the matter of a few days before they all became vastly different. No more barking, no more aggressive behaviors...just sitting there wagging their tails when I approach. I find that to be a far better way to go so I violate the policy.

Anyway, there is one dog on the route that was a rescue dog. The owner told me that they saved it from a shelter in the neighboring city where it was abused by the letter carrier on its route for over a year. The carrier was captured on camera throwing rocks and even pepper sprayed him almost on a daily basis (yes, that carrier was fired right after). As a result, the dog was not a fan of the uniform and really hated the hat.

With the owners permission, I gave the dog a stuffed monkey the next time I passed the house. He didn't seem interested in it at first, but after several weeks of me speaking to him friendly and tossing him a treat, he changed. He would always fetch the monkey and bring it to me when I delivered the mail. We would spend a few seconds just playing a bit and continue on my route. Every day, he would be either in the window on cold days or outside with that monkey in his mouth waiting for me to pass on by.

Today, it was a bitter cold day. We had high winds pushing wind chills into the single digits making for a long and miserable day. As I passed this house, I was surprised to see that dog waiting outside for me with the monkey in his mouth and his owner standing on the porch. I watched as the dog shivered and then limped over to me, tail wagging the whole time. His eyes were not right, the whites were pink and he clearly was struggling to move his back legs, but he was otherwise friendly and offered the monkey up for me to tug at like always.

Then the owner told me the bad news. He was diagnosed with cancer in his hip and they were taking him to the Vet soon to have him euthanized due to the pain and no chance to recover. They decided to wait until after I passed by for our daily ritual since it always made the dog happy and to give us a chance to say good bye.

I only got to see the dog for about a minute each day, but he became a buddy just the same. Sorry to see him go, he was always a positive part of the day in what can otherwise be a difficult job. Glad the owners chose to wait and let us get one last visit...thanks for the memories Bandit.
 

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so sorry man. loss is real. we make connections, in fact, we are connections making machines. I'm always grateful for making friends with people, animals whatever.... and the ache when they are gone is just a signifier of how good that connection was.

That pup felt the love and you did too.. and somehow we are all better for all the connections.
 

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Oh Milspec, I'm so sorry. @getbent probably said it better than I ever could. I know you are a tough-guy Marine who has served honorably and worked a number of physically demanding jobs, but in the end you have a heart of gold. And I admire that. I'm sorry for your loss. Please know that you make the world a better place just by being you. And you made the world a better place for Bandit. People who care for animals have a special place in this world. Don't ever stop being you,
 

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As a letter carrier, I see the same dogs on my route for many years. Unlike some carriers, they all seem to become my friends and are found patiently waiting by the window or door for me to pass by. The encounters are short, but always a pleasant exchange and despite being against regulations, I always have a treat available.

It is an interesting policy, when I began the route years ago, every dog in the neighborhood would bark constantly and some were even rather aggressive as I passed by. Once I started carrying treats, it was only the matter of a few days before they all became vastly different. No more barking, no more aggressive behaviors...just sitting there wagging their tails when I approach. I find that to be a far better way to go so I violate the policy.

Anyway, there is one dog on the route that was a rescue dog. The owner told me that they saved it from a shelter in the neighboring city where it was abused by the letter carrier on its route for over a year. The carrier was captured on camera throwing rocks and even pepper sprayed him almost on a daily basis (yes, that carrier was fired right after). As a result, the dog was not a fan of the uniform and really hated the hat.

With the owners permission, I gave the dog a stuffed monkey the next time I passed the house. He didn't seem interested in it at first, but after several weeks of me speaking to him friendly and tossing him a treat, he changed. He would always fetch the monkey and bring it to me when I delivered the mail. We would spend a few seconds just playing a bit and continue on my route. Every day, he would be either in the window on cold days or outside with that monkey in his mouth waiting for me to pass on by.

Today, it was a bitter cold day. We had high winds pushing wind chills into the single digits making for a long and miserable day. As I passed this house, I was surprised to see that dog waiting outside for me with the monkey in his mouth and his owner standing on the porch. I watched as the dog shivered and then limped over to me, tail wagging the whole time. His eyes were not right, the whites were pink and he clearly was struggling to move his back legs, but he was otherwise friendly and offered the monkey up for me to tug at like always.

Then the owner told me the bad news. He was diagnosed with cancer in his hip and they were taking him to the Vet soon to have him euthanized due to the pain and no chance to recover. They decided to wait until after I passed by for our daily ritual since it always made the dog happy and to give us a chance to say good bye.

I only got to see the dog for about a minute each day, but he became a buddy just the same. Sorry to see him go, he was always a positive part of the day in what can otherwise be a difficult job. Glad the owners chose to wait and let us get one last visit...thanks for the memories Bandit.
You might like this story:

Our basset-Labrador Rupert was a very friendly guy and loved going out to meet the postal workers, the UPS and FedEx people, etc. I enjoyed watching many of those people petting Rupert and slipping him treats. One day I was raking leaves on our rural lot and the UPS man showed up. He walked up our long driveway and I took the package and went back to work. A bit later, though, I noticed Rupert was absent. He tended to roam a bit, so I wasn't too concerned.

But a little while later, the UPS truck showed up again, and I figured the deliverer had discovered another package addressed to us. And indeed he had, as Rupert hopped out of the truck wagging and smiling. He'd climbed up into the truck and was checking out the cargo during the previous stop and had been a stowaway for the next few deliveries. The driver was laughing out loud. Rupert was a funny boy.

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What a wonderful tribute to the dog, it's loving owner and his daily friend, you. Think you for sharing. My pup is getting close to the end and though your story reminds me of the inevitable, it also makes me proud to love dogs and people who love them.
 

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great story - thanks

Last fall, while at a gathering of chosen family Carkeek Park, we watched a couple gently assisting an obviously senior doggo into the rear end of their SUV.
I always ask "How long has she been with you?" - they replied:
" . . . this is her last day, so we're going to the park, then to her favorite burger place, then to the vet clinic. We wanted today to be a great day for her."

And, I think it was.

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