Say a coworker put their hands on you in a threatening way...

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  1. blowtorch

    blowtorch Telefied Ad Free Member

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    I get what you're saying. I don't go to work to make friends...or enemies. I go there to get work done.
    I really wish none of this had ever happened.

    (sidenote, this is the five-hundred-first post on a thread with now over 10K views. Wow, Bad Dog.)
     
  2. soulgeezer

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    It seems strange to "like" this post, so I'll just quote it and say... Yeah.
     
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    Mr. Blowtorch........I do see your dilemma and I sympathize. I wouldn't be able to advise you on which action to take. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. HR is really only concerned about the position of the company and view you as expendable. I am sorry for being blunt, bur HR is also employed by the company and will not stick their neck out too far or bring hardship to the company.
     
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    That must be some IT shop. I've been in IT for 35 years - never witnessed a choking. :)
     
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    HR isn't employed by the company; HR is the company. And, the company's only interest is in protecting itself. Everyone is expendable, period. Hell, Apple even fired Steve Jobs!
     
  6. Owenmoney

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    Truer words were never spoken, and for what it’s worth, the PC world has created more problems than it solves. Confrontations happen, people are different, and react differently. The fake let’s all get along PC attitude isn’t real. How many people get along with every member of their family ?
    Maybe the deck him attitude is t right, but if nobody goes to the company about it, it never happened. He may even gain more respect for you by not letting him push you around . Bullies only get away with being bullies until the get bullied back. They only get away with it if you let them.

    It’s funny, not ha ha funny, but I don’t get in fights, I don’t bully anybody, I’m not big and tough , I’m 5’10” tall and 155 pounds but for some reason I’ve never understood people don’t give me a hard time. So for all the digs about testosterone levels, there’s something to be said for standing up for yourself and not letting people walk on you.

    Good luck with this situation Blow Torch, I hope it works out well for you and your family.
     
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  7. blowtorch

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    There was no choking. There was a hand on the side of my throat, but I was not choked.

    Maybe just a matter of semantics, but maybe not.

    Although I've been very clear and precise in my description of this, this thread has taught me to make sure and continue to do so, and I've been reminded how the human brain fills in possibly inaccurate details based on certain "trigger" words.

    So at least this thread has served, in that purpose
     
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    BT? What about simply talking to the guy and resolving whatever it is that causes two adults to do what has been done?
     
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    You need to agree a ‘safe word’ next time
     
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    So … when does this coworker get out of the hospital ?
     
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    I know, I actually read your posts - just trying to add a little humour. Choking (or "hand on neck" if you'd prefer) is way outside my experience in IT. I might have heard someone yelling once. Or not.
     
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    He apologized, as I've stated here. As far as I'm concerned the issue is over.
    It's my contracting company, and the company that I work at, who wants to make more of a "thing" out of it. And, I get that it's because I related what happened to my contracting co's rep. I also stated at that time that I didn't personally want to pursue it further.
    And, I get that what I may or may not want doesn't matter, in their eyes.
     
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    It was the side of my throat, not my neck.
    The only reason I point out that clarification is that it's caused confusion here, with other TDPRIers making the assumption that I'd said "neck" and not "throat", and then them accusing me of "backpedaling" o_O
     
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    Maybe asking them to do conflict resolution would help or possibly go totally wrong, or anger management for both of you since you did evidently piss him off with your comments to him before he touched you !
     
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    Wow.
     
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    I shoulda posted a trigger warning. :(
     
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