Ran into a very very old GF at a party last week. one strange encounter

[teleman1]

I dated this gal steady for about four months. I was a freshman in college, she was a senior finishing up HS. Came up to Prom season in a month and one of the guys asked me if I was taking her. I told him I assumed that I would and he said I had better check with her. ;-)

So I ask her and she tells me that a sophomore at her school had asked her to go and she agreed. I gave her the " are you nuts? " look and she says, "I knew you would act like that. It is nothing, he just likes me and I agreed to go."

I gave her a shoulder shrug and told her it was fine and I made up my mind we were through.

So the weekend rolls around and I went out with some buds to pick up chicks. A couple of my ex-girlfriend's friends see me and a friend with these two great gals and tells on me to the ex.

This was before cell phone days so when I get home there are a half dozen messages for me to call her. I ignored them and only saw her when I went into work three days later (we worked at the same place) and she was waiting for me. She tells me that she couldn't believe I was seeing other girls.

I laughed in her face and mentioned her "Prom date" and told her to get lost. She told all of our friends that I was immature and possessive and she could not understand why she could not go to prom with one of her friends and why I was making a big deal about it. BTW all of our friends were telling her she was making a mistake.

BTW her prom date almost got himself killed as he came up to me as I was sitting in my friends car a few nights later. He was all of 5'6" and a hundred fifty pounds while at that time I was 6'3 and 210. He came up to the window and started talking crap about how I had hurt her feelings. I told him it was fine and that she deserved his scrawny behind and to go ahead and date her. Then he threw a punch at my face through the open window. I was ready for it and caught his fist before it got to my face and pushed his arm up into the front crook of the window. I then told my friend to drive and he started letting the car roll forward in the parking lot we were sitting in. The kid was pretty frightened as I kept telling my friend to go faster and soon we were moving across the parking lot with this kid hanging out of the window screaming for help. We did stop and I told him if he made another swing I would get out of the car and drop him. He retreated back to his friends on the other side of the parking lot.

I get a message at home that my ex gave to my dad that I had beat a kid up half my size the next day. I had to relay the story again to my Dad about what happened.

So this gal and I never did get back together. I went onto other things and eventually got married to someone else and had a great life.

I ran into the ex about ten years later at Wal Mart of all places. She had put on some weight (but so had I LOL) and looked like she was fifty years old when she was all of 28. She asked how my life was and I went on about my wife, my kids and how grand it all was. I asked about her life and she said it was "good".

Then she asked if I ever thought of her. I gave her a quizzical look, she then said, "well we were pretty serious back in the day."
I laughed loud enough that a number of Wal Mart people started watching us.
When I quit laughing I said, "when we were serious? Like when you went to prom with someone else?"

There were audible "oooohs" from the crowd.

She blushed and then said she that "she thought of me a lot over the last years".

I laughed again and said, "I haven't thought of you in ten years."

Again audible "oooohs" from the crowd.

She looked around realizing this was not going her way and said, "we should get together some time."
I laughed again at her and said, "not on your life. See ya." I left the building leaving her standing there.

I ran into another friend of ours about three days later and mentioned running into her.

He said, "oh, she is out?"

I said, "what do you mean, out?"

He said, "well she went to prison for forging checks a few years ago."

"you don't say?" I said and forgot about her again until I need a good story to tell.

I haven't seen her in twenty five years and I still am thankful that we broke up or I would have never met my wife.

You have half the plot of a good movie here.

 

[edvard]

This stuff happens. A friend of mine from way back just sent me an obit for a woman he’s mentioned a couple of times in our conversations. We all went to high school together, and I remember her name, but I cannot recall a single thing about what she looked like. She’s probably someone I saw in the hallways every day, but I just don’t remember her.

Same. Back when I was on Facebook, an old girlfriend messaged me that a mutual friend had passed away. I remembered the name, I remembered she was in the same circle of friends, but I don't recall ever talking to her for any reason at all in all that time, and her face in the obituary didn't ring any bells either. Memory is a weird thing...

 

[flathd]

You have half the plot of a good movie here.

Or a pretty decent Jerry Springer show.

 

[dlew919]

I was with a friend of mine and a woman came up to him and said ‘hi’. There was then one of the most awkward conversations I’ve heard, in which it transpired she had never married or had kids. My mate had done both. Turned out they used to go out and had broken up because he didn’t want marriage or kids.

I sat quietly contemplating the notion of life choices and changing your mind.

 

[MarkieMark]

I had been rather smitten with her. I don't think she liked me too much.

I definitely know that girl...

You have half the plot of a good movie here.

A plot filled with kindness and understanding.

I can tell you there are multiple women I dated in the 70's who I would never recognize if we crossed paths now. And who's name I would have no possibility of recalling.

But on the other hand:
I did go to a class reunion {over 20 years ago) for reasons that later caused some self evaluation. It's not like me, but I had gone through some stuff and was in the middle of a "life reset" and kind of exploring where I had been/how did I get here. I generally dont care to re-live the past.
But the story is that upon arrival, before I even entered the auditorium where the initial event was taking place a woman I had dated some 30 years prior and had no contact with since, came rushing out and up to me gushing "I heard you were here!" ETC. Apparently one of here friends had seen me walking up the sidewalk from the parking lot.
A little weird for a moment, but I quickly found she was just as nice as I remembered, and it wasnt even awkward when I accepted an invite to lunch with her and her husband and young son. It was actually pleasant. I also chatted with a couple of people I knew since early elementary school. It was a small community.
It was nice. But after giving it a lot of thought I would be unlikely to do it again.

In fact, another reunion occurred nearby about six or eight years later and I ignored it. They got together at a restaurant/bar about a mile from my house.
About 1AM my doorbell rings. Mind you, this is a worknight with an alarm set for 4:15AM...
I am met by about a half dozen semi intoxicated old "friends" in my front yard. I was not pleased. When one said he had feared I might answer the door with a shotgun, I answered straight-faced "you should have been"
I shood them off pretty quickly, coming just short of a "get off my lawns" moment.

Another story-
About 15 years ago I was in the grocery store with my wife.
I went down an aisle in search of an item and came across a woman I recognized as someone I had dated in the 70's as she was struggling for something just out of reach while talking on her phone...
I grabbed it and handed it to her mid stride, said "goes well with rice" or something and kept walking, as I heard her say "Oh. My. God!" and the phone dropped to the floor.
In the next aisle, my wife, who didn't even see it, asks, "So what was THAT all about?"
"nutthin!"

 

[Toto'sDad]

I'm absolutely certain after reading this thread, that the first half of life seems to be a whole lot more fun for most people, than the second half is.

 

[thunderbyrd]

I dated this gal steady for about four months. I was a freshman in college, she was a senior finishing up HS. Came up to Prom season in a month and one of the guys asked me if I was taking her. I told him I assumed that I would and he said I had better check with her. ;-)

So I ask her and she tells me that a sophomore at her school had asked her to go and she agreed. I gave her the " are you nuts? " look and she says, "I knew you would act like that. It is nothing, he just likes me and I agreed to go."

I gave her a shoulder shrug and told her it was fine and I made up my mind we were through.

So the weekend rolls around and I went out with some buds to pick up chicks. A couple of my ex-girlfriend's friends see me and a friend with these two great gals and tells on me to the ex.

This was before cell phone days so when I get home there are a half dozen messages for me to call her. I ignored them and only saw her when I went into work three days later (we worked at the same place) and she was waiting for me. She tells me that she couldn't believe I was seeing other girls.

I laughed in her face and mentioned her "Prom date" and told her to get lost. She told all of our friends that I was immature and possessive and she could not understand why she could not go to prom with one of her friends and why I was making a big deal about it. BTW all of our friends were telling her she was making a mistake.

BTW her prom date almost got himself killed as he came up to me as I was sitting in my friends car a few nights later. He was all of 5'6" and a hundred fifty pounds while at that time I was 6'3 and 210. He came up to the window and started talking crap about how I had hurt her feelings. I told him it was fine and that she deserved his scrawny behind and to go ahead and date her. Then he threw a punch at my face through the open window. I was ready for it and caught his fist before it got to my face and pushed his arm up into the front crook of the window. I then told my friend to drive and he started letting the car roll forward in the parking lot we were sitting in. The kid was pretty frightened as I kept telling my friend to go faster and soon we were moving across the parking lot with this kid hanging out of the window screaming for help. We did stop and I told him if he made another swing I would get out of the car and drop him. He retreated back to his friends on the other side of the parking lot.

I get a message at home that my ex gave to my dad that I had beat a kid up half my size the next day. I had to relay the story again to my Dad about what happened.

So this gal and I never did get back together. I went onto other things and eventually got married to someone else and had a great life.

I ran into the ex about ten years later at Wal Mart of all places. She had put on some weight (but so had I LOL) and looked like she was fifty years old when she was all of 28. She asked how my life was and I went on about my wife, my kids and how grand it all was. I asked about her life and she said it was "good".

Then she asked if I ever thought of her. I gave her a quizzical look, she then said, "well we were pretty serious back in the day."
I laughed loud enough that a number of Wal Mart people started watching us.
When I quit laughing I said, "when we were serious? Like when you went to prom with someone else?"

There were audible "oooohs" from the crowd.

She blushed and then said she that "she thought of me a lot over the last years".

I laughed again and said, "I haven't thought of you in ten years."

Again audible "oooohs" from the crowd.

She looked around realizing this was not going her way and said, "we should get together some time."
I laughed again at her and said, "not on your life. See ya." I left the building leaving her standing there.

I ran into another friend of ours about three days later and mentioned running into her.

He said, "oh, she is out?"

I said, "what do you mean, out?"

He said, "well she went to prison for forging checks a few years ago."

"you don't say?" I said and forgot about her again until I need a good story to tell.

I haven't seen her in twenty five years and I still am thankful that we broke up or I would have never met my wife.

wow, Preacher. i guess you really showed her.

 

[MarkieMark]

I'm absolutely certain after reading this thread, that the first half of life seems to be a whole lot more fun for most people, than the second half is.

Well maybe in some ways.
If I shared the better details of the story of my high school prom, I would probably get a long suspension from the TDPRI...

 

[McGoldTopp]

 

[Toto'sDad]

Well maybe in some ways.
If I shared the better details of the story of my high school prom, I would probably get a long suspension from the TDPRI...

If you shared the details of your more recent escapades, they'd probably involve trying to find the best price on cargoes! Safe right there.

 

[Preacher]

Are you sure you're a preacher?! Today, I'm going to be reading from the book of Oryctolagus cuniculus concerning the original Bunny that laid candy eggs and how that relates to the present-day Eveready Bunny who produces fully charged batteries. Any of you clowns who interrupt, might consider how you would feel if I wrapped your arm up in a car window and gave you a few laps around the parking lot. Now...

LOL I was not always a preacher! I always tell people I was raised by an alcoholic father and a mother who was always trying to put a good spin on anything.

Sometimes when I would run into people from my past and they found out I was a preacher they would say, "you?"

I am retired now so I can strongarm people once again!

 

[Blues Power]

i bet if i had a Bentley out front instead of my 07 Silverado should would have remembered me or at least faked the memory
I gave her enough info where she could have rode with it for a while. lol

 

[tfarny]

Look on the bright side - there's a country song somewhere in the story!

 

[colchar]

i mean no disrespect to you, but both my mother and my wife have dementia and though that doesn't make me an expert, i can say that it affects long-term memory in a big way also. yes, the older memories are more "embedded", but are often distorted. there are a lot of very important things my mom can't remember at all, most of the time.

My mother has dementia so I have learned a lot about it over the last couple of years. I did not say long-term memory was not affected, I said it was affected less than short-term memory is, and that is a fact.

Look at the first symptom listed here:

What Is Dementia?

Get information and resources for Alzheimer's and other dementias from the Alzheimer's Association.

www.alz.org

And here:

Memory loss and dementia

Memory loss is a distressing part of dementia, both for the person with the condition and for the people around them.

www.alzheimers.org.uk

Short-term memory is impacted by dementia more than long-term memory is.

 

[Preacher]

Seriously, I have very little interaction with those that I went to high school with. We were together because the state made us lol.

I think I have gone through about three or four seasons of life where my "daily" friends have changed, but I have a few "lifetime" friends who will remain lifetime friends.

Sometimes it is funny how you don't chose your friends, they choose you.

 

[GGardner]

Old girlfriends who don't remember you are the best kind! When my wife and I hadn't been married very long, a man and his wife showed up with a little girl they wanted to adopt. They explained that the man's sister had abandoned the child with them, and she had told them I was the father. They were looking to have me sign off on the adoption paperwork.

My wife and I actually went outside and had a conversation about the child. I confessed that I had indeed had an affair with the woman before we started dating, but that we had been apart too long for the child to have been mine. I thought it through and decided the child would be MUCH better off with someone who actually wanted her.

I signed the papers, (They gave me a signed order stating they accepted ALL financial support for the child) the couple adopted the child, the child would now be pushing sixty years old, and everything worked out. I actually casually knew the brother, and that he had a good job in Los Angeles, and had been with his wife for several years, but she couldn't have children. Seemed like the perfect solution for everyone's problems.

Wow, you kept that story in the holster for a long time.

 

[jrblue]

Let it go. There are many possible explanations -- most of them utterly benign and trivial -- and you'll never know, or even need to know, which may apply.

 

[Blue Bill]

Fun thread. It makes me feel better about steering clear of all the ex and all GFs.

The one time I tried to contact someone I used to date, I got freaked out. I had found something on E-bay that made me think of her, and i thought it was a valid reason to track her down and reminisce a bit. We only went out a few times, but I really liked her. She was friendly and fun and really beautiful, a Kate Hudsen type. I guess you could say she was out of my league.

It took some doing to find her, I went on FB and finally found her sister and e-mailed her, she gave me her email address. We spoke breifly on the phone, she politely thanked me for thinking of her, but there was no sparks of any kind.

Then, I finally found a photo of her on the web, yikes, the years had been unkind to her; I would not have recognized her if she slapped me in the face. It was a real shock, the contrast between the picture on FB and the one in my mind.

 

[Toto'sDad]

Wow, you kept story in the holster for a long time.

Things were a little awkward around the old home twenty for a while after the visit from the couple adopting the little girl. My wife though is a very levelheaded woman and came to the conclusion that the little girl was probably in the best place possible. I wish I knew how things turned out for her, but there's way too much water under the bridge for that now.

 

[dkmw]

I dated this gal steady for about four months. I was a freshman in college, she was a senior finishing up HS. Came up to Prom season in a month and one of the guys asked me if I was taking her. I told him I assumed that I would and he said I had better check with her. ;-)

So I ask her and she tells me that a sophomore at her school had asked her to go and she agreed. I gave her the " are you nuts? " look and she says, "I knew you would act like that. It is nothing, he just likes me and I agreed to go."

I gave her a shoulder shrug and told her it was fine and I made up my mind we were through.

So the weekend rolls around and I went out with some buds to pick up chicks. A couple of my ex-girlfriend's friends see me and a friend with these two great gals and tells on me to the ex.

This was before cell phone days so when I get home there are a half dozen messages for me to call her. I ignored them and only saw her when I went into work three days later (we worked at the same place) and she was waiting for me. She tells me that she couldn't believe I was seeing other girls.

I laughed in her face and mentioned her "Prom date" and told her to get lost. She told all of our friends that I was immature and possessive and she could not understand why she could not go to prom with one of her friends and why I was making a big deal about it. BTW all of our friends were telling her she was making a mistake.

BTW her prom date almost got himself killed as he came up to me as I was sitting in my friends car a few nights later. He was all of 5'6" and a hundred fifty pounds while at that time I was 6'3 and 210. He came up to the window and started talking crap about how I had hurt her feelings. I told him it was fine and that she deserved his scrawny behind and to go ahead and date her. Then he threw a punch at my face through the open window. I was ready for it and caught his fist before it got to my face and pushed his arm up into the front crook of the window. I then told my friend to drive and he started letting the car roll forward in the parking lot we were sitting in. The kid was pretty frightened as I kept telling my friend to go faster and soon we were moving across the parking lot with this kid hanging out of the window screaming for help. We did stop and I told him if he made another swing I would get out of the car and drop him. He retreated back to his friends on the other side of the parking lot.

I get a message at home that my ex gave to my dad that I had beat a kid up half my size the next day. I had to relay the story again to my Dad about what happened.

So this gal and I never did get back together. I went onto other things and eventually got married to someone else and had a great life.

I ran into the ex about ten years later at Wal Mart of all places. She had put on some weight (but so had I LOL) and looked like she was fifty years old when she was all of 28. She asked how my life was and I went on about my wife, my kids and how grand it all was. I asked about her life and she said it was "good".

Then she asked if I ever thought of her. I gave her a quizzical look, she then said, "well we were pretty serious back in the day."
I laughed loud enough that a number of Wal Mart people started watching us.
When I quit laughing I said, "when we were serious? Like when you went to prom with someone else?"

There were audible "oooohs" from the crowd.

She blushed and then said she that "she thought of me a lot over the last years".

I laughed again and said, "I haven't thought of you in ten years."

Again audible "oooohs" from the crowd.

She looked around realizing this was not going her way and said, "we should get together some time."
I laughed again at her and said, "not on your life. See ya." I left the building leaving her standing there.

I ran into another friend of ours about three days later and mentioned running into her.

He said, "oh, she is out?"

I said, "what do you mean, out?"

He said, "well she went to prison for forging checks a few years ago."

"you don't say?" I said and forgot about her again until I need a good story to tell.

I haven't seen her in twenty five years and I still am thankful that we broke up or I would have never met my wife.

Re the prom thing, I had kinda the reverse experience. I had this bad case of unrequited love, and didn’t even want to go to the prom unless it was with that girl. I was talking about it with one of my friends and his older sister overheard us. She came over and said “I’ll go to the prom with you“.

She was smokin‘ hot and 20 years old, plus she drove one of those early seventies mustangs that had the nearly horizontal rear glass. So we caused quite the stir at the prom and 17 year old me had a night I’ve never forgotten lol.