Ran into a very very old GF at a party last week. one strange encounter

[jimd]

I went to a high school reunion after a friend of mine would not let up with the guilt trip. He knew/remembered everybody. I didn't know who 75% of the people were. Some of them came back to me after being told who they were. But, all-in-all it was a waste of time. It is still hard to believe that the OP's former girlfriend, no matter how short lived it was, didn't remember him at all.

 

[Preacher]

I dated this gal steady for about four months. I was a freshman in college, she was a senior finishing up HS. Came up to Prom season in a month and one of the guys asked me if I was taking her. I told him I assumed that I would and he said I had better check with her. ;-)

So I ask her and she tells me that a sophomore at her school had asked her to go and she agreed. I gave her the " are you nuts? " look and she says, "I knew you would act like that. It is nothing, he just likes me and I agreed to go."

I gave her a shoulder shrug and told her it was fine and I made up my mind we were through.

So the weekend rolls around and I went out with some buds to pick up chicks. A couple of my ex-girlfriend's friends see me and a friend with these two great gals and tells on me to the ex.

This was before cell phone days so when I get home there are a half dozen messages for me to call her. I ignored them and only saw her when I went into work three days later (we worked at the same place) and she was waiting for me. She tells me that she couldn't believe I was seeing other girls.

I laughed in her face and mentioned her "Prom date" and told her to get lost. She told all of our friends that I was immature and possessive and she could not understand why she could not go to prom with one of her friends and why I was making a big deal about it. BTW all of our friends were telling her she was making a mistake.

BTW her prom date almost got himself killed as he came up to me as I was sitting in my friends car a few nights later. He was all of 5'6" and a hundred fifty pounds while at that time I was 6'3 and 210. He came up to the window and started talking crap about how I had hurt her feelings. I told him it was fine and that she deserved his scrawny behind and to go ahead and date her. Then he threw a punch at my face through the open window. I was ready for it and caught his fist before it got to my face and pushed his arm up into the front crook of the window. I then told my friend to drive and he started letting the car roll forward in the parking lot we were sitting in. The kid was pretty frightened as I kept telling my friend to go faster and soon we were moving across the parking lot with this kid hanging out of the window screaming for help. We did stop and I told him if he made another swing I would get out of the car and drop him. He retreated back to his friends on the other side of the parking lot.

I get a message at home that my ex gave to my dad that I had beat a kid up half my size the next day. I had to relay the story again to my Dad about what happened.

So this gal and I never did get back together. I went onto other things and eventually got married to someone else and had a great life.

I ran into the ex about ten years later at Wal Mart of all places. She had put on some weight (but so had I LOL) and looked like she was fifty years old when she was all of 28. She asked how my life was and I went on about my wife, my kids and how grand it all was. I asked about her life and she said it was "good".

Then she asked if I ever thought of her. I gave her a quizzical look, she then said, "well we were pretty serious back in the day."
I laughed loud enough that a number of Wal Mart people started watching us.
When I quit laughing I said, "when we were serious? Like when you went to prom with someone else?"

There were audible "oooohs" from the crowd.

She blushed and then said she that "she thought of me a lot over the last years".

I laughed again and said, "I haven't thought of you in ten years."

Again audible "oooohs" from the crowd.

She looked around realizing this was not going her way and said, "we should get together some time."
I laughed again at her and said, "not on your life. See ya." I left the building leaving her standing there.

I ran into another friend of ours about three days later and mentioned running into her.

He said, "oh, she is out?"

I said, "what do you mean, out?"

He said, "well she went to prison for forging checks a few years ago."

"you don't say?" I said and forgot about her again until I need a good story to tell.

I haven't seen her in twenty five years and I still am thankful that we broke up or I would have never met my wife.

 

[OmegaWoods]

we dated in the late 70s for a few months. We were still in HS.
she moved shortly afterwards to AR and haven't seen or heard from her since.
we still have mutual friends in town who are in touch with her and her name comes up once in awhile

after a friend pointed her out to me
we got to talking, she said she came back for a visit.
the kicker is she said she didn't remember me.
i tried to jog her memory
I gave her details about her parents names, friends names and where she lived and school teachers names.
appeared not to have a clue about me.

I was with Mrs BP so it was not like i was coming on to her where she had to be alarmed or stay distant.
i was sober and in decent clothes.

not sure what went on there. I cant see her not remembering me.

I don't remember you either, if it's any consolation.

 

[boris bubbanov]

Glad you got away from her, Preacher.

Otherwise, likely you'd have been doing the time - instead of her.

 

[BFcaster]

Okay, all of you that have posted before me-

You are all destroying the dream that is a Hallmark movie.
I hope you are all very happy now (sob...sniff).

 

[bowman]

This stuff happens. A friend of mine from way back just sent me an obit for a woman he’s mentioned a couple of times in our conversations. We all went to high school together, and I remember her name, but I cannot recall a single thing about what she looked like. She’s probably someone I saw in the hallways every day, but I just don’t remember her.

 

[lammie200]

My father died 13 years after I graduated from HS. The funeral director was a man in my class. We played on the same baseball team for like 6 years in a row. He was a very weak hitter. When I brought up that we played on the same team he mentioned that he hit 3 or 4 home runs back then. Didn’t happen. Not even close.

 

[Trenchant63]

I doubt dementia. More likely it was not nearly as meaningful to her as for OP so she retained no special memories. Not meant to be an insult OP - I’ve been there myself at high school reunion. The best times I had there was meeting folks I was aware of in HS, but did not hang out with not on purpose, just wasn’t in their circle of friends - they were a blast. The nicest people and tons of laughs. Many of the folks I knew in high school were mentally checked out, still hanging out in their HS pubs with the same HS folks, couldn’t remember anything and boring AF. Back to OPs dilemma - a girl I dated was at a reunion and she definitely was not suffering from dementia. In front of her HS clique, she acted like she didn’t know me. But certainly she knew me on social media. Totally weird and comical!!

 

[Toto'sDad]

I dated this gal steady for about four months. I was a freshman in college, she was a senior finishing up HS. Came up to Prom season in a month and one of the guys asked me if I was taking her. I told him I assumed that I would and he said I had better check with her. ;-)

So I ask her and she tells me that a sophomore at her school had asked her to go and she agreed. I gave her the " are you nuts? " look and she says, "I knew you would act like that. It is nothing, he just likes me and I agreed to go."

I gave her a shoulder shrug and told her it was fine and I made up my mind we were through.

So the weekend rolls around and I went out with some buds to pick up chicks. A couple of my ex-girlfriend's friends see me and a friend with these two great gals and tells on me to the ex.

This was before cell phone days so when I get home there are a half dozen messages for me to call her. I ignored them and only saw her when I went into work three days later (we worked at the same place) and she was waiting for me. She tells me that she couldn't believe I was seeing other girls.

I laughed in her face and mentioned her "Prom date" and told her to get lost. She told all of our friends that I was immature and possessive and she could not understand why she could not go to prom with one of her friends and why I was making a big deal about it. BTW all of our friends were telling her she was making a mistake.

BTW her prom date almost got himself killed as he came up to me as I was sitting in my friends car a few nights later. He was all of 5'6" and a hundred fifty pounds while at that time I was 6'3 and 210. He came up to the window and started talking crap about how I had hurt her feelings. I told him it was fine and that she deserved his scrawny behind and to go ahead and date her. Then he threw a punch at my face through the open window. I was ready for it and caught his fist before it got to my face and pushed his arm up into the front crook of the window. I then told my friend to drive and he started letting the car roll forward in the parking lot we were sitting in. The kid was pretty frightened as I kept telling my friend to go faster and soon we were moving across the parking lot with this kid hanging out of the window screaming for help. We did stop and I told him if he made another swing I would get out of the car and drop him. He retreated back to his friends on the other side of the parking lot.

I get a message at home that my ex gave to my dad that I had beat a kid up half my size the next day. I had to relay the story again to my Dad about what happened.

So this gal and I never did get back together. I went onto other things and eventually got married to someone else and had a great life.

I ran into the ex about ten years later at Wal Mart of all places. She had put on some weight (but so had I LOL) and looked like she was fifty years old when she was all of 28. She asked how my life was and I went on about my wife, my kids and how grand it all was. I asked about her life and she said it was "good".

Then she asked if I ever thought of her. I gave her a quizzical look, she then said, "well we were pretty serious back in the day."
I laughed loud enough that a number of Wal Mart people started watching us.
When I quit laughing I said, "when we were serious? Like when you went to prom with someone else?"

There were audible "oooohs" from the crowd.

She blushed and then said she that "she thought of me a lot over the last years".

I laughed again and said, "I haven't thought of you in ten years."

Again audible "oooohs" from the crowd.

She looked around realizing this was not going her way and said, "we should get together some time."
I laughed again at her and said, "not on your life. See ya." I left the building leaving her standing there.

I ran into another friend of ours about three days later and mentioned running into her.

He said, "oh, she is out?"

I said, "what do you mean, out?"

He said, "well she went to prison for forging checks a few years ago."

"you don't say?" I said and forgot about her again until I need a good story to tell.

I haven't seen her in twenty five years and I still am thankful that we broke up or I would have never met my wife.

Are you sure you're a preacher?! Today, I'm going to be reading from the book of Oryctolagus cuniculus concerning the original Bunny that laid candy eggs and how that relates to the present-day Eveready Bunny who produces fully charged batteries. Any of you clowns who interrupt, might consider how you would feel if I wrapped your arm up in a car window and gave you a few laps around the parking lot. Now...

 

[rodger]

Growing up, the guy (George) who lived across the street was my softball coach. We won the city championship one year. He was also later my HS English Lit teacher. He was friends with my mom.

Fast forward many years, a co-worker went to the same HS I did. He brought in the alumnae book his sister had. I looked my self up. "Whereabouts unknown. Presumed dead." Of course, George was the editor of the book. All he had to do was walk across the street and ask my mom.

I can see that he wouldn't know where I was, but my mom lived across the street from him for 25 years. And, I won him a championship!

 

[dlew919]

’Women have forgotten the last kiss while men are still savouring the first’

 

[BlackASATClassic]

"He came from somewhere back in her long ago..."

 

[Skydog1010]

You did say very very, very old GF
70's was only 50 years ago
A lot of water makes it way into the ocean in 50 years.

 

[flathd]

I've met some people from the past that I didn't recognize, until they told me who they were. Also, some people just have bad memories.

When I was a teenager, I went with some friends on the MN river with a small fishing boat, and we were almost hit by a barge. One kid was kind of a daredevil (stupid) and went too close to the barge and it pulled us in and almost capsized the boat, and we got spun around behind the rudder. I still see them both once in a while 50 years later, and one guy doesn't remember the incident with the barge at all. I asked him, how could you not remember that? He just shrugged, and said he has no memory of it.

 

[goonie]

The late 70's was a long time ago.

At this point in time... does it really matter?

imo.

Ah shoot so we have to confine our threads and comments to stuff that really matters?

This could be the death of tdpri.

 

[Midgetje94]

Had kind of a similar experience once. Back in 2011 I dated a gal briefly who was several years older. If I recall correctly I was 18 she was 26 getting out of the Airforce. Idk how real it could have been with that difference. Especially at that time. But I got her a dog for her birthday. We eventually stopped talking. She moved to Illinois.

Several years back she popped up as a suggestion on a Facebook account. Kinda odd since we had no Mutual friends. But I reached out. She had since married and had kids. Survived breast cancer. She had no memory of me. But remembered the dog unfortunately when her first child came around Stella (the dog) wasn’t so fond. And had to be rehomed.

But like you said. I feel like I should have been remembered lol

 

[P Thought]

Thank you for posting this. I went to three different high schools, plus college, had favorite people at all of them, and sometimes I think I ought to go to a reunion or two. Your story reminds me not to do that.

 

[Chester P Squier]

This thread reminds of 20 years ago. My wife and I were in church. The sanctuary was fan-shaped, and we were close to the side. Toward the middle of the sanctuary I saw a woman and her husband walking in. She was someone I had had a few dates with over 30 years earlier, and I had been rather smitten with her. I don't think she liked me too much.

I would occasionally look out the corner of my eye to see her, and sometimes she would be looking and me and look away when she saw me looking at her. And vice-versa. I didn't tell my wife I had seen her, but I would have said "She looks very elegant. She doesn't look like that book we saw at the zoo applies to her." The zoo's gift/bookstore had a children's book called Everyone Poops.

I'm glad I didn't say that. During the preacher's sermon, he asked "Guys, were you ever so madly in love with a girl you didn't think she ever went to the bathroom?"

I didn't even acknowledge to my wife I had seen the woman. Middle-age was rather becoming on her. I wanted to go over and speak to her, but my wife had fallen and hurt her ribs and wasn't as mobile as normal.

 

[P Thought]

I had cause to phone my ex-wife a few months ago. We haven't spoken in years. It went like this...

"Hello X"
"Who's that?"
"It's me Y"
"Y who?"
"YY"
"Oh. Hello"

We were married for ten years.

Yeah. No hard feelings, but I ain't calling her either.

 

[Blackmore Fan]

I just asked my wife what she thought of your story...

The wife called BS, the GF remembers you.

That was my thought as well. I ran into a girl I had gone out with...some 20 years after I went out with her. She seemed non-plused. The feeling was mutual. That moment, too, was awkward.