Ran into a very very old GF at a party last week. one strange encounter

[Blues Power]

we dated in the late 70s for a few months. We were still in HS.
she moved shortly afterwards to AR and haven't seen or heard from her since.
we still have mutual friends in town who are in touch with her and her name comes up once in awhile

after a friend pointed her out to me
we got to talking, she said she came back for a visit.
the kicker is she said she didn't remember me.
i tried to jog her memory
I gave her details about her parents names, friends names and where she lived and school teachers names.
appeared not to have a clue about me.

I was with Mrs BP so it was not like i was coming on to her where she had to be alarmed or stay distant.
i was sober and in decent clothes.

not sure what went on there. I cant see her not remembering me.

 

[Toto'sDad]

Apparently, stars didn't fall, or she'd have remembered it all. It could have been worse, I went to class reunion where an old girlfriend kept trying to latch onto me, and like you, my wife was present. My wife kept saying who is that woman? I kept saying, I really don't know, I don't remember much about her.

 

[Papanate]

we dated in the late 70s for a few months. We were still in HS

not sure what went on there. I cant see her not remembering me.

Well a couple of things - maybe it didn't mean that much to her and she wasn't that invested - or maybe she was going out with a lot of guys of which you were just one of many - or sadly maybe she's had a neural accident or drugs or drank to much for too long and her early memories a now a blob of gray.

 

[wabashslim]

Hmmm...probably not something I would have posted in a public forum...but...

Did she seem impaired? Either short-term or long-term? Some people's memory functions are atrocious, either by nature, genetics or abuse. This is ignoring any possible actions on your part back in the day that would make her block you out of her consciousness.

"couldn't have been that easy to forget about me..."

 

[thunderbyrd]

Could be early dementia. Or not. I wouldn't take it personal or even give it anymore thought.

 

[Flip G]

 

[SPUDCASTER]

Does it seem odd your thread is listed right above the "Wives and knives"?

 

[oatsoda]

not sure what went on there. I cant see her not remembering me.

Well phooey, maybe none of us posters are real, and this forum is just a hangout for imaginary friends.

I believe in you, if that helps any.

 

[Lowerleftcoast]

I just asked my wife what she thought of your story...

The wife called BS, the GF remembers you.

 

[colchar]

Could be early dementia. Or not. I wouldn't take it personal or even give it anymore thought.

Dementia affects short-term memory, long-term memory far less affected.

 

[Mike Eskimo]

Cold.

Often folks from our past who we think about regularly or mark as an important person/chapter in “our book” ?

It can turn out we made NO impact on them.

Zero/zip/nada.

Kinda cool/pretty funny and often - cold as ice.

Life : nasty/brutish/short…

 

[telleutelleme]

All my ex's don't live in Texas. Grateful for that over the years.

 

[Frank Roberts]

Perhaps a ruse, to avoid aggravating Mrs BP, who probably wasn’t pleased with your interest towards an old GF.

 

[boris bubbanov]

My brother went to his 50 HS class reunion 1.5 years ago and it was (he said) a real treat and he's been staying in touch with people I feared had come to sad ends. Yeah a few of his classmates had spouses die, but it was truly amazing how well the whole crew fared. My brother even flew cross country to attend one guy's remarriage, a few months later, in the middle of all the restrictions and etc.

But when it came my turn to go this past summer, I didn't. Because I was already off to the university by August and didn't spend the senior year on campus at all. They just held the certificate because they're only issued once a year. Well, anyway, it sounds like the people I would like to have seen and would know, were not there and I heard about names and faces that frankly, meant zero to me. Sometimes you remember a kid from school because she always mis-spelled your name, wrote bad poetry or wore some cologne or something. But most of the salient details are gone.

In the end, what happened to the O.P. is not really very strange, I don't think.

 

[Toto'sDad]

Well phooey, maybe none of us posters are real, and this forum is just a hangout for imaginary friends.

I believe in you, if that helps any.

Here, here!

 

[raito]

She had a place in his life
He never made her think twice

 

[oatsoda]

She had a place in his life
He never made her think twice

Maybe she never thought once. It’s obvious he did more than right by someone.

 

[Toto'sDad]

Old girlfriends who don't remember you are the best kind! When my wife and I hadn't been married very long, a man and his wife showed up with a little girl they wanted to adopt. They explained that the man's sister had abandoned the child with them, and she had told them I was the father. They were looking to have me sign off on the adoption paperwork.

My wife and I actually went outside and had a conversation about the child. I confessed that I had indeed had an affair with the woman before we started dating, but that we had been apart too long for the child to have been mine. I thought it through and decided the child would be MUCH better off with someone who actually wanted her.

I signed the papers, (They gave me a signed order stating they accepted ALL financial support for the child) the couple adopted the child, the child would now be pushing sixty years old, and everything worked out. I actually casually knew the brother, and that he had a good job in Los Angeles, and had been with his wife for several years, but she couldn't have children. Seemed like the perfect solution for everyone's problems.

 

[Knows3Chords]

I was getting my oil changed one time, and a girl in the spot next to me yelled out my name. She started talking to me and was asking all kinds of questions about all my friends and what I was up to. We must have talked about 15 to 20 minutes. The whole time I was sweating bullets because I had no idea who she was. I don't think I ever dated her, but she knew me for sure. After they finished her car and she said "it was nice seeing you again", and she drove off. The guys at the shop asked "was that an old girlfriend?". I answered back "I have no idea who that was". They all laughed like I must have had a lot of girlfriends in my day. Of course, I did not. To this day I have no idea who she was.

 

[Toto'sDad]

Well phooey, maybe none of us posters are real, and this forum is just a hangout for imaginary friends.

I believe in you, if that helps any.

Hmmm, you live here, and you are vouching for someone on the TDPRI?