Quit drinking last weekend...

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  1. stratoman1

    stratoman1 Tele-Afflicted

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    I quit 20 years ago. Dont miss it a bit. I'll drink maybe 1/2 a beer while making dinner but that's it

    Believe me, nobody has ever regretted sobering up once it all sets in. You might feel a little off for awhile but the payoff is awesome
     
  2. telemnemonics

    telemnemonics Doctor of Teleocity Ad Free Member

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    I can’t understand why anyone in 12 step recovery bothers to tell someone who sobered up on their own they’re doing it wrong.

    We have a saying in one of the 12 step programs that if you are indeed an addict/ alcoholic and try some sort of moderation or whatever that doesn’t work out; “your misery will be cheerfully refunded”.
    You will find out if you can or can’t without program informing you!

    So those who don’t need program don’t need program, but if it doesn’t work out as planned they can come on back and nobody will mind that they gave it their best shot.
    Really every single member of all the 12 step programs did plenty of research into other ways of quitting. Nobody joins out of an inconvenience.
    Actually we find that joining and doing the work invariably requires some pretty severe losses of family, house, job or something dear to us.

    Hopefully not to many tries that burn bridges and such, but we all have to do our research and find out if we really are among those that need a 12 step program.
     
  3. Keefsdad

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    Great post. AA didn't work for me but I'm almost 5 years sober and life is great. It does work for a lot of people but it's not the only way. All the best to you, whatever your journey.
     
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  4. Keefsdad

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    Yeah, it took me over 20 years to get that through my thick skull, but now that I've got it, it's very simple and it's a great deal. As long as i don't do that one thing, i can do all sorts of other things not available to me as a drunk.
     
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    the booze finally caught up with a very good friend.64 end stage cirrohsis ,forgive my mispelling. i was an alcoholic from my first drink at 12.i was drunk every night from 15 until 25 when i quit with the help of aa.good luck op.
     
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    Hey, it's o.k. not drink, I haven't had a drink since 1983 and I doing o.k.
    Not drinking for me was my getting sick and tired of being sick and tired, Waking up in the morning and knowing who the person I'm waking up with Is sorta nice, I mean no more black out drunks, knowing I didn't kill anybody on the way home certainly helps date night

    Have fun and good luck just don't take the first drink and it's problem solved.
     
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    ping-ping-clicka Tele-Holic

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    Jeez, that can really happen? I'm gonna have to start drinking again, made I can get a felony conviction for assaulting an officer.
     
  8. Texicaster

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    Alright!

    Great to hear putting family above getting drunk!

    I know it's hard to self diagnose and AA meetings may or may not be your cup of tea. "Big Book" could be considered dry reading but I happen to like it.

    Luckily you can information remotely! Here's a cool AA speaker named Clancy. He has his detractors BUT is highly entertaining! Great story teller, and an amazing story! Not sure about this talk but I've never heard a boring Clancy talk! More like stand up comedy and not lecturing...



    This talk is self explanitory in the title!



    Best of luck!

    TEX
     
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    Put that money you are saving in a college fund for your 3 year old. In 15 years that'll be a pile of money to get him started. Good luck.
     
  10. Crafty Fox

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    I reckon I drank enough in the 20th century to get me through the 21st!
    Zero alcohol since Christmas Day 1999. So, dry for almost 20 years now. I don't miss it.
     
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    I just left the bar . Had a dozen Thai sweet chili wings and a root beer .Did I feel like going on a spree and seeing how much root beer I could drink?
    No :p
    33 or 35 yrs sober I forget which year I quit:oops:
     
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  12. Steve Holt

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    Sorry for encouraging you to buy alcohol the other day :)
     
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    Clean and sober since October 1, 1980. I wish I could say it was the smartest thing I've ever done, but I'm honestly not that smart. Thank God for surrounding me with good people who were. Best of luck to you. It can be a pain sometimes, but it's so well worth it.
     
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    Thanks SH, but nothing bothers me anymore, I'm quit!
     
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    is it generally believed that seeing your parent drunk, is bad for a child?
     
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    boredguy6060 Friend of Leo's

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    Like Ron White said, I had the right to remain silent, I just didn’t have the ability, or something like that.
    Good advice though.
     
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    I gave it up 8 years ago, felt I'd reached my life time quota. No regrets and other things are legal here now so what the heck..
     
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    You don't any part of that deal.
     
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    I quit drinking 18 years ago. If I hadn’t, I guarantee I’d be dead, or in jail. And definitely divorced. My son is now 33, and he remembers the drunk me. It took awhile to heal those wounds. Keep on keeping on, you’ll be glad you did.
    Good Luck!
     
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    The other term for that guy from AA is he was trying to reinforce his way to stop was the right way but not yours. Different things work for different people.
     
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