I think we were typing at the same time as I didn't see your post until after I posted. True about sobersex! Glad you're doing well too. You could easily be on of the lucky heavy drinkers who are not alcoholics, just got into a bad habit etc. Let's hope that's the case! Note though that not experiencing withdrawals is not at all related to being an alcoholic. This is confusing to the whole issue, and maybe even more so to opiate addicts, though of course society tends to put more of a stigma on using opiates for fun than on social drinking. The thing about withdrawal is that both opiates and alcohol are physically addictive if used in large enough amounts on a daily basis. But it is possible for a non alcoholic to drink daily and suffer withdrawal when they stop, but then have no symptoms of actual alcoholism. Likewise some alcoholics have little or no physical withdrawal if binge drinking was their way. Similarly millions of patients are put on morphine or other opiates for surgery or accident recovery. The physical addiction doesn't distinguish between addict and non addict. But the non addict will feel like they have the flu, be unable to sleep, experience muscle spasms, chills and sweats. The difference is that if you ask them if they want more morphine, they ask why they would want to keep taking that stuff! Of course with drinking we associate socializing and places to go with the drink, so a "social drinker" is more likely to feel like having a beer than would a post surgery patient feel like having a shot of morphine. Yet physically, the addiction to alcohol and opiates is the same basic physical event where the body gets sick when a daily addictive substance is stopped. The physical addiction is not the same as the "disease of addiction", which does not depend on a physical addiction at all. Medically there are food addicts, gambling addicts, pot addicts, and even video game and shopping addicts. Those are all now recognized as medical conditions, and the condition has the common core of addiction where the afflicted cannot stop and stay stopped on their own.