Quit drinking last weekend...

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  1. Axegrinder77

    Axegrinder77 Tele-Holic

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    After an all too common theme of my wife having to clean up my barf in the morning. This time I didn't even realize I got sick. I don't remember getting home! That scared me.

    Nope... Breaking free from the habit. No more hangovers, sick days, regretful evening moments.

    My son is almost 3. It's around the time when he starts "watching" me. My dad was a bad alcoholic. I don't think I am.. More like a habit with me. Usually in moderation, but regular. Then the occasional binge, especially if mixed with weed.

    I may allow myself the occasional weed, but not for a while. Don't wanna have a "weak moment."

    More money now for guitar gear!

    Anyways, no judgement here if you drink. If you've thought of moving on though, I encourage you to try. Feels liberating. Hopefully I stay disciplined. I love my family, my music, my job, and my health more than a night out with the boys. I'm 42 now, so it's time I think.

    Thanks for reading.

    Axe
     
  2. MisterZ

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    Good on ya!
     
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  3. Deeve

    Deeve Friend of Leo's Silver Supporter

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    @Axegrinder77 - look for some PM from others who made a similar decision.
    Coincidentally, I was same age when I made this decision and my kid was three also.
    She's in college now, and has never seen her dad drunk.
    Peace - Deeve

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  4. RhinestoneStrat

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    I have battled with alcoholism that sent me to the hospital a few times and the last visit was a week. The withdrawals felt like hell but I made it through. I've kept myself in check for about two years now. Hope you can too.:)
     
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    I've been quit for over thirty years. Never regretted quitting. Not once. Good luck.
     
  6. FenderLover

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    Good for you. Soon you'll be investing and planning your future, and telling people to get off your lawn.
     
  7. geoff_in_nc

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    Good choice, and best of luck and strength to you.
     
  8. Boubou

    Boubou Doctor of Teleocity Gold Supporter

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    Good luck to you.
    Your family, friends and your liver will thank you!
     
  9. nojazzhere

    nojazzhere Doctor of Teleocity

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    Hope you can stay strong.....I would, however, change your post title to something like, "Quit drinking to excess last (whenever)" It just depends on what you can handle. I haven't had a hangover, throwing up, missed work, lack of memory, etc in thirty+ years. I still drink a couple days a week, but not to the point that I would regret it the next day. And, if you (or anyone) CAN'T do it to that degree, I agree....JUST QUIT. Again...I'd rather have a friend or relative who quit entirely rather than drink to excess, but for some of us, there IS a "safe" middle ground. BEST WISHES!!!!!
     
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    I probably drank an entire six pack of beer between the ages of 25 and 62. Now, I'll drink 2 or 3 beers during a long evening of playing music. Adds up to maybe 6 in a week.

    I have no desire to drink alcohol in any other setting, and no desire to drink more than 3 beers in an evening. Maybe waiting until I had accumulated as much wisdom as I'm going to helped me have a different relationship with alcohol.

    Seems like most people start when they're teenagers and their brains are literally not all there yet. Probably not the best way to go.

    All the best to those who have had this problem and are dealing with it. It's one of the hardest things I've seen my friends go through.
     
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    God Bless you and give you strength.

    Suggestions: avoid the places and people that influenced your drinking, & give yourself and new addiction that you can focus your attention on...say spending time with your man child.
     
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    i wasnt able to drink in moderation so eventually stopped altogether.Best way .Now 14 years on the wagon. Good decision man ,persevere!
     
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    If you can't control it, you shouldn't do it.

    And I think my wife would have left the barf for me to clean up. :lol:
     
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  14. Toto'sDad

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    I'm coming up on 22 years in December of not drinking, and I mean NOT drinking, not once. That's the key, don't drink even one drink, if you do, you're on your way again.
     
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    I quit in September 2005. No regrets whatsoever, I just wish I had done it sooner.
     
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    Winners never quit and Quitters never win.


    Seriously though, good luck in your quest for sobriety. One day at a time as they say. One. Day. At. A. Time. I wish you the best on your journey and I'm pulling for you.

    When the urge hits, re-read your post on why you want to quit. There's no better reason than for your children.

    You can do it!
     
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  17. Toto'sDad

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    Your wife would probably have gone next door and borrowed a hand truck, and trundled you out by the curb for the trash guy to collect.
     
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    Sounds like a good plan!
    I quit at 38 and was one who couldn’t stop without meetings.
    If you can stop and be happy that’s great, but if it’s a struggle there are all different 12 step groups to try out for free.
    I missed my home group last night due to car trouble but one friend was celebrating 7 years and another celebrated 30.

    Again though, if you can stop on your own and not turn into a miserable ogre that’s great, not every hard drinker is an alcoholic AFAIK.
     
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    Too true! I don't know why she keeps me around. At least I solved the snoring thing with a CPAP machine. There was an imminent risk of pillow suffocation because of the snoring.
     
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    It feels so good when a cop is behind you, and you don't have to worry about them pulling you over, throwing you in the back seat of a cruiser, and taking turns beating all of the shilt out of you for having such a big mouth!
     
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