Okay gang, share the brutal breakups you have gone through OR put someone through.
Don't be kind, be honest.
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I will share one at some point.
Don't be kind, be honest.
Annnnnnnnnnd, go-->
I will share one at some point.
I was stalked by a woman when I was in college. Stopping that was brutal for everyone involved. What even made me think about it was recently she sent me a message on Facebook announcing her divorce and asking what's up. I was mortified. Extra mortified by what I saw.
I don't have one of my own but I did get to witness a friend's devastating, unexpected, break-up. If I want to get in the frame of mind to play some blues, I just have to think about this one.
They had been dating for about two years and living together in a house they bought for about 6 months. Both were doing quite well in their jobs although she was doing better, having just gotten a promotion to a middle management level position at a major software company. She had flown out to San Francisco to the corporate HQ for a two week training session.
Back in those pre-cellphone, expensive long distance calls, days, my friend had only talked to her once while she was gone. He missed her terribly and was looking forward to her return. He had bought a dozen dozen (144) roses and put them throughout their house as well as "Welcome Home" balloons and banners. I had helped him pick them up and get them setup. Then, just as I was about to leave, he got "the call" from her.
She called him from the airport and told him that she wasn't coming home. Instead, she was going to stay a day or so at her parents' house before flying back out to SF. She said her brothers would come by to pick up her stuff the next day and he shouldn't be there when they do. He asked her, "Why?". She told him that she had fallen in love with her boss while she was at the meeting and she stayed at his house most of the time. She was going back there to live with him. That was perhaps the most devastated I've ever seen anyone where there wasn't an unexpected death in a family.
The experience messed him up emotionally for about a year.
that is pretty brutal... the no warning thing is brutal... it must mean he was missing signs along the way, right?
I think there were warning signs from the beginning and even mentioned them to him at one point but he was oblivious to them and dismissed them.
I don't have one of my own but I did get to witness a friend's devastating, unexpected, break-up. If I want to get in the frame of mind to play some blues, I just have to think about this one.
They had been dating for about two years and living together in a house they bought for about 6 months. Both were doing quite well in their jobs although she was doing better, having just gotten a promotion to a middle management level position at a major software company. She had flown out to San Francisco to the corporate HQ for a two week training session.
Back in those pre-cellphone, expensive long distance calls, days, my friend had only talked to her once while she was gone. He missed her terribly and was looking forward to her return. He had bought a dozen dozen (144) roses and put them throughout their house as well as "Welcome Home" balloons and banners. I had helped him pick them up and get them setup. Then, just as I was about to leave, he got "the call" from her.
She called him from the airport and told him that she wasn't coming home. Instead, she was going to stay a day or so at her parents' house before flying back out to SF. She said her brothers would come by to pick up her stuff the next day and he shouldn't be there when they do. He asked her, "Why?". She told him that she had fallen in love with her boss while she was at the meeting and she stayed at his house most of the time. She was going back there to live with him. That was perhaps the most devastated I've ever seen anyone where there wasn't an unexpected death in a family.
The experience messed him up emotionally for about a year.