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Parents-Do you curse around your kids?

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by blowtorch, Apr 24, 2020.

  1. Harry Styron

    Harry Styron Friend of Leo's Gold Supporter

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    Verbal abuse and ridicule of others by adults can be damaging to children, as well as other adults.

    Swearing is a part of spoken language that is more or less appropriate or not according to context. Kids learn to code-switch by the examples of their parents and by participating in the rich culture they live in.
     
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  2. blowtorch

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    That just goes to show, you can't tell what a person's like from online stuff ;)
     
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    No and no! Not how we roll.


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    I've lost my cool on a few occasions and let some choice words loose in front of my son. Then I apologize, tell him Dad was wrong to say those things. I've never cursed at him, mostly dealing with poor customer service over the phone.

    But as a rule, I try not to curse no matter who I'm around.
     
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    You do until your 5 year old spouts out at the dinner table: "This F'ing chicken is good!" :lol::rolleyes::D:)
     
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    My 'kid' is now 36 and now we live in his apartment, so yup, a lot of cursing, from me, my wife, and son (mainly, over a not -allowed- here subject)

    But I had a pretty bad mouth around my boys, once they hit say, 10 years old. Since it was never directed at them, they thought it was funny, to hear me go off; and I enjoyed making them laugh with my oratory, I'm sure.

    I'm a good dad ( I think) with a dirty mouth!
     
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    There’s a difference between saying a word and yelling it a somebody in a fit of rage. I think the later is worse, curse or not, than hearing a parent say the occasional bad word.

    I’d argue that this is much, much worse. Don’t poison kids to backwards ideas.

    years ago I was super embarrassed when a family member said some really offensive racist stuff about our waitress at a restaurant. They were being loud to make sure their opinion was heard. A few years later when I had kids I sat down and had a discussion with that person that they wouldn’t be allowed to see my kids if they couldn’t keep that crap under control.
     
  8. beyer160

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    Dunno about swearing more, but profanity is just another tool in the linguistic toolbox than can be used well or poorly-

    Taboo word fluency and knowledge of slurs and general pejoratives: deconstructing the poverty-of-vocabulary myth
    https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S038800011400151X

    I'm not sure what you're saying here, are you conflating profanity with racism and hate speech? Those things aren't even remotely related, the most hateful and racist things in history have been communicated without any profanity at all.
     
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    the racist words are the true profanity
     
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    My kids are grown now, but I avoided cursing around them when they were growing up. "Do as I say, not as I do" never worked and never will.
     
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    The couple across the street go ape-sheet and cuss at each other every few weeks in the warm weather. The local cops have to come by and make them stop. I think they both have serious mental problems.

    I worry what the kids will be like when they grow up.
     
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    It's not that important Imo. They're just words. Far more important *how* we speak to them.

    That said, it's easier to get ahead in life probably if one isn't a potty mouth.
     
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    I did, my wife didn’t. My kids do. My parents did.
    If certain four letter words were eliminated from language I might be mute.
     
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    I remember once cussing in front of my kids and my wife got really upset. I said, "Talk about the pot calling the kettle black." She said indignantly, "I NEVER use curse words. EVER." I said, "Kids, who curses more, mommy or daddy?" Without skipping a beat, they replied in unison, "Mommy!" Still a moment I cherish.
     
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    I'm sure that cost you though!
     
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    Never did. My kids are all grown now, they are all college grads, and are all doing well.

    Nothing worse than parents or (?) saying the f-word in front of kids.
     
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    The Navy taught me a vocabulary of 200 words. 195 of them contained only 4 letters...
     
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