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Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by imwjl, Nov 20, 2019.

  1. BigDaddyLH

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    Parents may not be affluent -- could have bought the boys a crappy car.
     
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    Sounds like the kids might be the intelligent creative types. Or they might just be slackers that would rather not go to school. I don't blame them for skipping classes. The education system can be painfully boring and tedious.
     
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    Like @Kitarkus I was a slow-learner and passed up many great opportunities.

    In spite of that, a woman eventually agreed to become Mrs Deeve.
    And many years later, an adopted daughter arrived.
    That girl has continually astounded us w/ her diligent effort as a student, musician, coder and citizen.

    I finally got to find out how cool high school and college could have been if I was paying attention.

    Peace - Deeve
     
  4. imwjl

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    We're late age parents so it's all fresh with us. We have an old Camry for kids but the kids need good grades and a job to use it.

    I was no angel but I had consequences for stuff like that.

    This struck me because I'm not that smart
    I'm probably with you in this case. Immigrants from Venezuela where the mom is an attorney and dad entrepreneurial. People who came with assets and skills.

    Regardless I always like seeing where we get it and miss it as parents. I'm hesitant to make too many judgements on how it used to be. We've been homo sapiens a long time.
     
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    Sounds like the kids are in a garage band. That’s why I cut school.
     
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    I grew up in a farm town and pretty much all of us kids got up and milked cows and fed the chickens/pigs etc. before school. Everyone showed up to class with manure on their shoes including the teacher :lol:
     
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    Reflection of the parents and life at home. The kid is a victim here. Treat it as such.
     
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    Skyline High? ;)
     
  9. imwjl

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    There are lots of times I think all we can do is try to steer and hope for good luck. Strict is interesting. We're not traditional or religion strict but for all the slack what makes my wife a good teacher has a fair amount of strict going on. Well timed strict?

    I'm very thankful to have 3 kids all doing better than I was at same ages and hope it stays that way. Also very glad to have kids when I feared it for years.
     
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    Funny. You made me look it up on Google Maps. My high school was a 2 mi walk from home and it's the same for my kids.
     
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    I used to call my wife's kids 'free range' kids. They had a leash a mile long, knowing that all consequences were theirs to live with. Yeah, they got in trouble, but they're both lawyers now. I guess I'm saying it can get even worse. ;)
     
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    If they're old enough to drive it's already too late for behavior changing incentives. My advice to all new parents - unconditional love without question and spending a lot of time together as a family for as long as they live at home.
     
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    my wife went to Skyline! alma mater to Tom Hanks, Gary Payton, Brian Johnson, and current mayor Libby Schaaf! (among a ton of others)
     
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    to quote the great maxwell smart: "the old mom is an attorney from venezuela and dad is entrepreneurial thing, eh"

    When I lived in New York, I had a neighbor and friend from Colombia. Juan was a very earnest and good dude, one night (like many) we were very drunk and Juan told, 'You know, my father is a very wealthy banker.' I nodded 'ahh is that so," then Juan told me how he impregnated his families housekeeper when he was 14. She was fired and sent away. and again at 16, 17 and 19... and then he was sent to the US.

    He told me this the way I might recount changing the oil on a volkswagen bug.

    the clash of cultures can be stark.
     
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    The Venezuelans are here as political refuges and my wife's take in these recent years is many spent or lost much of their wealth for the freedom. Some are quite middle class and some talk about the horses and multiple homes they no longer have. She was not sure this family was or is that high end but quite a few of the ESL students are outside of some common stereotypes.

    Thing is here is I have a sibling and friends who would do that and not all of their kids are or have done so well. I'm thankful for every day that works in my life. My they've been hard lately.

    :)
     
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    You're not helping me watch new TV shows there. You just illustrated what I tried to say in the other post on knowing what comes next and the superb timing still makes you laugh.
     
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    No discipline at home = no discipline anywhere else.
     
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    does this mean we get a safe word...?
     
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    I don't think kids had near as many baths back in the day either. We had a kid named Ronnie that was kind of chubby who if he was around, it didn't take you long to figure out you'd better stay up wind of him.
     
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