Ostomy , does anyone here have an Ostomy?

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    ping-ping-clicka Tele-Meister

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    Hi, I've had and ostomy since August (2019). I admit that I am very angry about having an Ostomy. Accepting Cancer was really ba breeze, acceptance of cancer was a piece of cake maybe because the the parameter were so clearly defined and the possible outcomes were limited to only two options, live or die.

    yeah the Ostomy procedure saved my life and for that I am grateful. I just not used to having to deal with my own pooh this way. I was so well adapted to a life of normal that particular bodily function.
    :cry: oh wow is me, poor little me .... boring!
    later;)
     
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    I would have a hard time dealing with that as well. I feel bad for anyone in that situation.
    I’m sorry that I don’t have much to say, at least you’re alive and kicking and can poo.
     
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    I do. I’ve had it for 21 years now. I got when I was 30. Ulcerative colitis is no joke.
     
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    thanks, I hear that it's real handy when snow camping....
     
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    Body Image Disturbance is what they would call your care plan, Ping.

    But guess what? We are all imperfect. Some of us have glass eyes, or premature baldness or cancer or autism or etc.

    So the question really becomes why do we compare ourselves with each other anyway? If aliens were to visit i think this is the first thing they would notice about us. Which makes me think that the universal problem with the world is a question of identity. Do we get it from others around us or from somewhere else?

    But back to you.

    I deal with my imperfections by trying to losing myself in other people's lives as opposed to pondering mine.

    Hope this helps with your anger issue.
     
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    I used to work for a cancer non profit and you're absolutely right, most people have an easier time dealing with the diagnosis than with the ostomy. It takes time but it'll get easier as it becomes as routine as anything else. Best of luck and congrats on being a survivor!
     
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    My dad always tells me that getting old is hell. I just didn't know how many directions it can go.

    Congrats on being a survivor. Focus on that as you adjust.
     
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    I'm stay connect to my feelings about my life. Acceptance is the first step for me .
    my home care nurse told me that my feeling depressed (anger turned inward My words ) is a normal response to my surgery and the outcome.
    I tend to be able to be authentically intouch with my feelings about my experience and work through the knots that arise.
    Knots R.D. Laing
    "If the human race survives, future men will, I suspect, look back on our enlightened epoch as a veritable age of Darkness. They will presumably be able to savor the irony of the situation with more amusement than we can extract from it. The laugh’s on us."
    https://www.amazon.com/dp/0394717767/?tag=tdpri-20ng.
     
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    Thank you for responding. I don't hear anyone laughing.
    There a millions of ways to suffer in this life , my refusal to accept what is so, the way things really are , rather as I desire them to be is probably the actual cause of all of my suffering. maybe .
     
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    thank you for your clarity and taking time to respond.
    I'm 71 years old now, I am working on seeing the broken bones, cancer, alcoholism, drug addiction, PTSD, as road ware, meaning that's what happens sometimes , rotate the tires, change the oil fill the tank up and get behind the wheel and enjoy the ride while I can.
     
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    it just takes time... sometimes lots of time. Acceptance is next. There may even be a self pitying time in there somewhere too.
    You’re going to be fine.
     
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    sucks man...im glad youre here to tell us you dont like it
     
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    thank you for your kindness.
    I can assure you ostomy, is a hell of a lot better than having a broken heart , at least it my preference between the two.
    reminds me of cake or death , starts at 05.25
     
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    Old age is a privilege denied to many.
     
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    there is an observant bit of travel information, thank you
    try this one cake or death.....;)
     
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    Family friend had one in his late 40' s.

    About 10 years later he had a heart attack also, and surgery.

    Around 5 years or so later he was offered surgery to reverse his use of the bag, as new advances made this possible.

    He refused because he did not want any more surgery.

    He is now 86, and was recently at my parents house, and I saw him and he looks great.

    He doesn't seem to regret the decision.
     
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    Love Eddie Izzard!
     
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    how about...death by cake!
     
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    If it's anything it's anger , which morphs into depression.
    I think that there may be a difference treating oneself, in a situation like this with kindness and compassion, which is different from self pity.
    as my A.A. friends taught me o_O poor me, poor me , pour me another drink.;)
     
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