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Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by Bones, Dec 8, 2015.
+1. Agree 100%.
Hard to argue with anything in her letter.
When you do check out (no matter how) the legacy and memory left behind with the family tells the truthful story - this is a sad tale.
This is pretty much how I read it.
Good timing on the letter, I think. Get it out while the news is hot. I can only image the pain and strife Scott, his ex-wife and kids have gone through. The problems that can come to the famous, I don't ever want to deal with. It is sad what is left behind. It need not be this way, however some poor decisions were made along the way. The good news is the kids were given life. They can make their own choices some day. To write their own history. May they find peace, happiness and joy in life someday.
As to "why would she knowingly go into a relationship with someone like that," addiction is always obvious and neither is metal instability. Staying in the relationship once the facts are known is likely linked to affections developed when they weren't fully known, and coupled with the hope of helping a loved one overcome their "demons."
Ms.Weiland's essay was a painful read for me, because I know first hand what it is like to be romantically linked to an addictive and mentally unstable person.
I'd rather live in a world without brain surgeons than a world without garbage men.
When I look deep into my heart, I must admit that I do not think everybody's opinions are equally valid.
Being the spouse or child of a substance abusing rock star is not a good thing. Ive read many bios and auto bios of our famous rock stars. It is bizarre how similar the lives of rock stars are if they are addicted to drugs. All the stories are identical. It is a lot of fun to be a rock star but being a spouse or offspring of theirs is hell on Earth. If you read one bio of an addicted rock star you have read them all. They all lead the same exact life. They are single mindedly devoted to their drug of choice. Their families are of no matter.
Kids are proud of their parents talents, even when they're disappointed by personal stuff. All of our children look at us as their parents, not their "rock star" parents, or whatever your job is.
We will remember him for his music. That won't be the first or even second thing his children will remember him for.
That letter made me want to cry. I never, ever, put anything above my kids, quite unlike my parents. At least I know that when I'm gone my kids will know that I loved them unconditionally.
Rolling Stone magazine, which at one time was actually decent, published this spiteful letter from his ex (who still kept his name, oddly, even after he remarried) too soon. His death surprised no one, but smearing him so soon stinks.
Weiland a bad parent? No surprise there - junkies rarely are. Weiland not wanting to go to mass or watch football? Pass the barf bag.
Weiland POd a lot of people really bad: band members, fans, DJs, wife, kids...did I leave out anyone?
I've never heard any artist being dissed like this......ever.
It doesn't have to be the stage for parents to fall into
the neglect trap.
Many parents who are career driven, or own their own small business
have the very same issues when parenting kids. Their objectives can be
decisively disguised as "doing it for the good of the family".
So mom or pop works 12 to 16 hours a day to give the kids a better
lifestyle, when in reality they might just want a stable home with
dinner at 6:00pm and an evening of normalcy and ordinary.
That woman, that letter.....she's a mom that has two kids
that are devastated. She is acting every bit like a mother would
to protect her kids. Yeah she's angry, let her vent and stay
out of her way.
Some people are only validated when they are on stage.
The low self esteem draws them into a role that's larger than
their hurt and childhood pain. The lights and sounds drown out
the suffering even if just for a little while. The stage becomes like
a sedative, a drug in itself.
Watch the Howard Stern interview above.(the 1st video I posted)
Weiland discusses the endless touring he needed to do to make money after the record market collapsed. I don't get the feeling he wanted or needed to be on stage at all. I think he despised being on stage. He called it "punching the clock".
I've known a number of musicians who didn't do drugs but put music above all else and hardly knew their kids due to being out on the road or in the studio more often than not.
Yeah, that's always another possibility.
I wasn't specifically saying Scott was any of the above mentioned
people. Only that there are varied scenarios out there.
It's not exclusive to Rock Stars and their vices.
I think she had every right to post what she did. Living with an
addict is a quagmire that will swallow you & everyone you love.
I find her frankness & candor quite refreshing in these dark
How sad. An appropriate reality check from the mother of Weiland's children.
I'm of the opinion that addiction is a disease (I know some will disagree).
I'm equally of the opinion that disease does not provide release from the responsibilities attached to behaviour (I know some will disagree).
Any kid who has suffered parental abuse in any shape or form can either break or sustain the cycle when they grow up and become a parent.