NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS 2023

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My New Year's Resolution:

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Like many have said, I'm not one on NY Resolutions because I feel one should change what needs to be changed when it needs to be changed, not once a year. Besides, most NY Resolutions are doomed to fail.

That said, there are some things I've been thinking about a lot lately that I definitely want do differently going forward, so turning over a new year number is as good as an excuse as any.

1) I mostly want to work on my self-defeating mentality. Get out of the mindset that I'm a complete failure in every life aspect I can name. I've had the crap beat out of me by this script for decades, and I think it's a self-fulfilling, downward-spiral sort of thing. I'm miserable because of the station I'm at in life compared to others, but at the same time I feel like I deserve to be here because I'm such a bad person.

2) Also get out of "the ship has sailed" mindset, and convince myself that not all opportunities have passed me by in life just yet. It's not time to just throw in the towel and give up because I'm edging close to 50. It is indeed too late for some things, but not for all. It's time to stop saying "well, everthing's effed and I lost out, so I'll just drink".

3) Stop being so selfless. There have been many opportunities in life where there was a single goal or 'reward' I was after, but so was someone else. The 'goal' would be it a job opening, item to purchase, trip to something fun, ticket to a show, ride in the cold, or whatever that only one of us could have. And in every single case, I gave up my chance because I thought they were a better, smarter, more worthy person and/or deserved it more than I did. Even if it was a fair 'best man wins' or random pick, I gave up right away because I'd feel guilty as the victor.

4) Work on self-confidence and self-worth. In my youth I was fired up to take things on. If I wanted to do a skill or learn something I understood that it would take time and work and it would have risks too, but I wasn't deterred at all. I'd just do it. Now I look at things and my first thought is "well, I wouldn't be any good at that so there's no sense in trying. I'd just fail at it like I do at everything else".

There are more but you guys get the gist. I have no idea how to do any of this stuff, but I'm at least aware of it.
 
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cometazzi said:
My New Year's Resolution:

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Like many have said, I'm not one on NY Resolutions because I feel one should change what needs to be changed when it needs to be changed, not once a year. Besides, most NY Resolutions are doomed to fail.

That said, there are some things I've been thinking about a lot lately that I definitely want do differently going forward, so turning over a new year number is as good as an excuse as any.

1) I mostly want to work on my self-defeating mentality. Get out of the mindset that I'm a complete failure in every life aspect I can name. I've had the crap beat out of me by this script for decades, and I think it's a self-fulfilling, downward-spiral sort of thing. I'm miserable because of the station I'm at in life compared to others, but at the same time I feel like I deserve to be here because I'm such a bad person.

2) Also get out of "the ship has sailed" mindset, and convince myself that not all opportunities have passed me by in life just yet. It's not time to just throw in the towel and give up because I'm edging close to 50. It is indeed too late for some things, but not for all. It's time to stop saying "well, everthing's effed and I lost out, so I'll just drink".

3) Stop being so selfless. There have been many opportunities in life where there was a single goal or 'reward' I was after, but so was someone else. The 'goal' would be it a job opening, item to purchase, trip to something fun, ticket to a show, ride in the cold, or whatever that only one of us could have. And in every single case, I gave up my chance because I thought they were a better, smarter, more worthy person and/or deserved it more than I did. Even if it was a fair 'best man wins' or random pick, I gave up right away because I'd feel guilty as the victor.

4) Work on self-confidence and self-worth. In my youth I was fired up to take things on. If I wanted to do a skill or learn something I understood that it would take time and work and it would have risks too, but I wasn't deterred at all. I'd just do it. Now I look at things and my first thought is "well, I wouldn't be any good at that so there's no sense in trying. I'd just fail at it like I do at everything else".

There are more but you guys get the gist. I have no idea how to do any of this stuff, but I'm at least aware of it.
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Carol Dweck's mindset writing helped me a lot with some similar stuff. I've also enjoyed "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a [redacted]".

As far as my resolutions, I'm gonna eat more brie. That stuff is delicious.
 
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Nah, for me it's the usual:
Eat better, move more = feel better.
Make music more, instead of "preparing" to make music, which means GASsing and reading / watching stuff about how to make music
Do some grown up stuff - clean up the garage, look into LTC insurance, maybe make a will
Be more empathetic. I feel like I'm fairly empathetic already but it doesn't hurt to gain new perspectives
 
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Wound_Up said:
My New Years Resolution is the same as its been for the last 3 years. And no, I don't care that it's not original. It's one of, if not THE best I've ever heard, from the greatest guitar player I've ever heard: Duane Allman.

Taken from this article written on this day a few years ago, by the Goddaughter of longtime Allman Brothers Band drummer Butch Trucks. Her name is Kendall Deflin.

Today, Kendall runs a Non-profit Organization called Backline that provides mental health wellness and resources for the music industry. It's not directly stated anywhere but I don't doubt that her own experiences with Butch and him taking his own life a few years ago inspired her to help others. I believe it's free to those in the music industry, IIRC. Link below:

http://Backline.care

Anyway. Here it is. Duane Allman's New Years Resolution from 1969, straight from his day planner. It'll be mine, too, until the day I'm no longer walking this earth. I've even got a Duane Allman t-shirt with him on front and this quote on the back, in his handwriting from the day planner. I wear it all the time and will be wearing it later today, as well.

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Read Duane Allman's New Year's Resolution From 1969

Duane Allman didn’t just inspire people musically, but on a human level too. Read his hand-written 1969 New Year's resolution here.
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“This year I will be more thoughtful of my fellow man, exert more effort in each of my endeavors, professionally as well as personally. Take love wherever I find it, and offer it to everyone who will take it. In this coming year I will seek knowledge from those wiser than me and try to teach those who wish to learn from me. I love being alive and I will be the best man I possibly can.”

And the shirt. You can still buy them, thankfully. I may need a new one soon.

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That’s amazing to me that he wrote such a thoughtful resolution on the last year of his life
 
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