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My Mom passed away yesterday.

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by Brad Pittiful, Apr 17, 2016.

  1. Blue Bill

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    Brad, such sad news. Sorry for your loss. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
     
  2. bullfrogblues

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    So sorry to hear. Condolences to you and your family.
     
  3. Beaker

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    Very sorry to hear. You are in our thoughts.
     
  4. telleutelleme

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    Sorry for your loss. Prayers from my family to yours.
     
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    BP, you took good care of her and it was clear by your posts you loved her as much as a son could possibly love his mom. You did good buddy....So sorry to hear she's gone.
     
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    I am sorry for your loss Brad. Prayers for you and yours.
     
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    Peace and comfort to you and your family Brad .
     
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    Condolences; stay strong.
     
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    So sorry about your loss Brad. I lost my Mom in 2013. It's one of the toughest experiences that life throws at you. Hang in there bud. My sincerest condolences.
     
  10. telemnemonics

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    It took me a while to get over the fact that she died on my watch, as I (along with with my wife) was her live in caregiver for the last few years.
    I still apologize now and then for not being able to protect her from her own frailty.
    Crazy stuff to think like this.

    Hang in there with the letting go...
     
  11. Mike Eskimo

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    That's extremely tough when it's sudden like that.

    Peace to you, your family and your mom.
     
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    Sorry to hear about your loss lost my mother to cancer 3 years ago time heals emotional wounds eventually deep sadness is replaced by good memories
     
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    Very sorry, Brad. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
     
  14. Brad Pittiful

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    thanks everyone...much appreciated

    this sums me up totally...i feel i failed her...it will take me a long time to get over that...everyone says do not think like that..but how cant i...as a kid we were close and then life happens and we became less close with life going on

    as i began as her caregiver and as it progressed we became close again...i know with her dementia she would be different in closeness as that was beginning...but i wouldnt be...i was honored to be able to care for her and not have her in a facility with me only to have short visits...i was with her all day and night

    as she lay there in the hospital i held her hand all day hoping she felt some comfort in her semi conscience state...if she didnt feel the comfort...i sure did...i will need to remember how her hand felt in mine to carry me to the end of my time on this planet

    thanks again everyone
     
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    Brad,

    I'm just now seeing this.....I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom. :( My prayers go out to you, fellow TDPRI friend.
     
  16. mountaineerhugh

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    So sorry to hear man! My condolences go out to you!
     
  17. Mbechmann

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    So sorry for your loss.
     
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    So sorry, buddy. It's never easy, that's for sure.
     
  19. telemnemonics

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    Aaaarrrrgh, dementia...
    Man, what a lot of hurt from there, being a loved one trying to make her comfortable and safe. It was probably an impossible task you took on, with all your heart, and for me it seemed like all I could do was fail because she only got worse, and my efforts became mixed in with her illness, trying to get her to take her meds and put on clean clothes and such, I was a daily PITA.
    Docs were saying "time for assisted living".

    Anyhow, I know that hurt you're feeling.
    You just have to trust that you did more than was required by taking care of her, provided more real comfort than a locked dementia ward ever could, and that somewhere inside she knew and was massively grateful to have you there.
    I needed help from others including her doctors to know that I had been a good son and not failed her. Crazy to feel this way, but it's more common that you might think.
     
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    Brad , really sorry to hear this for you and your family our thoughts are with you Bud, Make sure you take the time you need to heal
     
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