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My Father-in-Law Passed

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by Troubleandahalf, Nov 3, 2020.

  1. Troubleandahalf

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    A terrible, yet not unexpected blow after a long decline of not recovering from a Stem Cell transplant.

    The funeral was yesterday; it was the most intense experience. I was asked to fold the flag with my brother-in-law, our last service to Colonel LM Rodriguez, USAF.

    My mother-in-law had asked me if I would play some music at the reception for the family. She specifically requested "Perfect" by Ed Sheeran. I would do basically anything for her, so I got down to it and learned the thing.
    I brought all the gear with me. Mixer, mics, amp, etc. my home studio equipment makes a more than passable Karaoke rig. Which is what I hoped everyone might get into, and which turned out to be a really beautiful thing ro remember him in song.
    But first I had to play.
    I'm certainly no stranger to gigs and playing in front of people. But always in a group. Never before have I found myself up there all alone. Never at all in such a circumstance, grieving, in mourning. In front of everyone I love who feels just the same.
    It was the most naked, vulnerable and raw I have ever felt.
    I began to play, a careful, hesitant beginning rapidly giving way to totally connecting with my feelings through my strings. I felt like Kurt looked on Unplugged. I poured everything I had into that song. It was one of the most powerful moments of my life.
    Mamà was in tears, I was weeping openly by the last 8 bars.
    Für solche Tränen muss man sich nicht schämen.
    (For such tears must one not feel ashamed of himself).

    Anyway, that's the story. I just really wanted to share it here, with my peers, because I think you guys are the only ones who will truly know what it mes t to me.

    Peace, and Stay Around Longer.
     
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    ping-ping-clicka Friend of Leo's Ad Free Member

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    I am sorry for your lose.
     
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    Sorry for your loss.
     
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    So sorry for you loss.
     
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    You're a good one and a real one. You did it right.
     
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    Very sorry for your loss. Your tribute must have been beautiful.
     
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    Sorry to hear of your loss. Condolences to you and your family.
     
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    My condolences. I have much respect for anyone who can eulogize or perform like you did at a funeral. I can’t ever swing myself being able to do that.
     
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  9. Ray G

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    I am very sorry for your loss. Best to you and yours.
     
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    My condolences. God bless you and the family.
     
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    very sorry for your loss.
     
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    sorry to hear
     
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    Recce Friend of Leo's Silver Supporter

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    Sorry to hear about your loss. Sounds like you did a good job of expressing your feelings with your music.
     
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    So sorry for your loss. Sounds like a wonderful tribute to the Colonel.
     
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    Condolences and good job consoling his widow with song.
     
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    very powerful tribute
     
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    Condolences
     
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    sorry for your loss, condolences
     
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    You have my deepest condolences.
     
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    I know how that goes. My little brother stepped on a rainbow five years ago Xmas eve. During his last four months or so, we were making the drive to Sacramento most weekends and I spent time playing with him - him on ukulele and me on guitar or uke (he was a former woodwind player, but lung cancer sort of nixed that). One of the number we played was the Iz Kamakawiwo-ole "Over the Rainbow". I played it at his wake and had a terrible time keeping it together. It's only been in the past few months that I even attempted it again.
     
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