My Dad is on his way home.

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  1. Dave_O

    Dave_O Friend of Leo's

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    My Dad, James Thomas Miles (born 25th Feb 1926) is ailing and slipping away.

    He broke his femur last week, right up near his hip. A hip replacement was the only option and while it was as successful as it could be, it seems to have been enough of a shock to begin the process of shutting down his functions. He is becoming drowsier by the hour and sleeping for 20 mins out of each 30. I was informed by his ICU Dr that he will probably not wake either today or tomorrow.
    I'm on the other side of the continent and was unable to get a flight back due to the Western Australian team being in the AFL Grand Final- all seats were taken by Fremantle supporters on their way home. I'm going back as early as I can, which will be Thursday.
    We've already looked into the "compassionate seat allocation" of all the airlines that fly to Perth, but it's an exorbitant price (around $1500AUD) and still dependent on someone failing to board. The money's not the issue- I can't spend the next 2 days sitting at the airport hoping for a flight, knowing that I will most probably miss him anyway. So I go when I can, and keeping working for my family until I do.

    I was lucky enough to recognise in my mid 20s that if I was half the man my Dad was I would be a mighty man indeed.
    He was the life and soul of our family.
    Everyone loved him, especially the kids. And the dogs.
    There was never a dog he didn't love, or that didn't love him back.

    All I ask of you, my online mates, is whatever your beliefs to spare a thought for Jim Miles today to help speed him on his way back home.

    This is my Dad and Mum at Dad's birthday in 2011
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  2. Bones

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    Best of luck to you and wishes for a peaceful journey for your father.
     
  3. DeweyPeek

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    God bless you and your family mate
     
  4. Larry F

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    Sounds like quite a guy. I'll keep you both in my thoughts.
     
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    All the hope I can muster, perhaps he can take a detour and stick around a bit.
     
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    Dave, I'm sending a prayer for his smooth passage, and will be drinking a toast to him and to you and your family.
     
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    I sure hope he rallies and comes out of it, you never know. Best of luck with the flight and keep him strong in your prayers and thoughts. He'll know it, even from afar.
     
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    All my best, too. --LP
     
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    My thoughts are with you. I'm in the same place right now. Last week, we heard that my father, who is 81, had treatable lymphoma. Yesterday, I was told he has a week to live. He's been healthy and mobile up until now, but I've been very aware the last few years how many years there were left in the best case scenario, so I'm contemplative but not distraught. It also gives me good things to say to my kids, like, "When do/don't do that, your grandfather dies more quickly."
     
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    sounds like your dad is a very good man.
     
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    All we can do is make him comfortable
    in these hours. Make sure he is comfortable.

    What you have described is one of most common
    factors of elder mortality. A broken hip, a broken leg,
    something that a younger person can fully recover from
    is life threatening for the elderly. Sorry to hear of
    his condition. It's especially hard when one day
    he's lucid and the next he's declining.

    My dad went in to the hospital for a routine surgery
    and died the night before his surgery, in the hospital!
    He was lucid and we were joking around as I drove him
    to his appointment. I dropped him off and that was the last
    time I saw him alive. It was a shock for sure.

    Hang in there Dave.
     
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    Keeping everything crossed you are able to get home to your Dad - he sounds like a wonderful man. They do say children & animals are the best judge of characters....With my very best wishes to you & your family.
     
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    Prayer sent
     
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    Sorry to hear about your dad's condition, Dave.
    My thoughts are with you and yours.
    stay strong.
     
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    You are very fortunate to have had your father in your life for so long, and very fortunate to have appreciated how awesome and special he is while he's still here. Sending good wishes your way.
     
  16. Whoa Tele

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    Prayers for peace and comfort sent. We are truly blessed to have dad's in our lives. I work in an elementary school and not all are as fortunate.
     
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    All the best to you and your family Dave at this troubling time. Gerry
     
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    Sending prayers for you and your Dad. It sounds like he had a great run, and you will have many memories to keep him alive.

    My mother in law is 85 and was in a coma for 5 days, 3 weeks ago. We were told she wouldn't make it. 4 weeks later and she has been moves to a rehab center and is awake and lucid. The ICU Drs were amazed. Praying for a miracle for your Dad.

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  19. Toto'sDad

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    I hope whatever is best for him is what happens. If he can have a little more life, and enjoy it I hope he has that. No matter how long we have someone, it's never easy turning loose. I held my mother as she died many years ago, it's something that never leaves you.
     
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    Sounds like a great dad. Good luck with everything.
     
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