Don't worry about using the forums as somewhere to blow off steam - it's a great community here and from my own experience I know how helpful just a few words from a stranger on a forum can be. I can't claim to have any great experience, but my missus and me have been together 16 years this year, married for 5 and our little boy turns 5 this year. We've been through some tough times and things have come pretty close to ending on a few occasions, but we're still here hanging on. We fall out from time to time - disagreeing about the best way to approach parenting issues or because we're stressed and busy or because of anxiety issues (we both suffer). But the key thing is talking and listening. Most of the serious problems we've gone through have been caused by me keeping problems to myself or trying to deal with stuff on my own. I've finally realised that and begun to share the burden a bit more, which has definitely helped. However, we still have some tough times and it can be hard work keeping things going. We both work, I'm also studying for a degree, Mrs Paddy is on multiple committees, plus of course we have our little dude, too. We probably don't make anywhere near enough time for each other at the moment, but we are trying to make time for ourselves individually - I'll meet the guys for a beer a couple of times a month, I've been making a concerted effort to spend more time playing guitar. The wife plays netball, she catches up with the girls, we both go to gigs from time to time. It's not resolved everything - and we do need to learn to make more time for us as a couple - but it helps. If she's voiced doubts, then talking and listening is a great starting point. I can't comment about counselling - I've got no experience of it myself, but it could very well be an avenue worth investigating. I wish you all the best and I hope you come out the other side stronger than ever.