@NateD81 You are not alone on that. Reading your post I even felt a bit strange: My wife and I have been a couple for a decade, she’s 32 and I’m 39, like you I’m a teacher and we have a four-year-old... And like you, our couple is going through a challenging period, except it’s me having more doubts. That being said, every relationship is different, but beyond the various and personal mutual criticism, raising a child can be most challenging for the couple itself, as well as for each one of you. Especially between 3 and 5, children try to push the limits, and they need to feel they are at the center. Raising them is a beautiful thing, but it can compromise the balance you had found in your relationship, and sometimes even in your personal life as a whole. Talk, talk and talk again with your wife, with your kid, and as a family. Being open is key. But try and keep more time for your couple alone, to remember indeed why you started this relationship. I wish you the best, sincerely.