"Mandatory" Office Party

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  1. Boil

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    As I get older I find I don't want to waste what little time I have left doing things that I don't want to do, I do not go to out office Xmas party.
     
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    In these cases I'm all smiles and "sure, sounds like a great time". Then I don't come. Excuse later if necessary! Unless you really love the people at your company and want to go to something, I'm right there with you. PASS!
     
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    For me it's not about liking coworkers and much as it is rude to demand people show up (unpaid) to work. Forced cohesion is always uncomfortable for me regardless of who it is.
     
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    Speaking of that...

    #metoo is supposedly culling many office parties this year.

    Apparently alcohol + the average hemmed-in/unfulfilled sexually frustrated office drone = lawsuits.

    Happy Holidays !
     
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    Go the party and be "that guy"..lampshade, 5th of jose and all.... SEE YOU AT DA PAHRTY RICTAH 2ac75861dcdc5c421fb86070434a984f.jpg
     
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    Is it very close to the 25th? If so that would make it worse in my book. I love my job and I truly appreciate my co-workers but I would never (as a company executive) screw with employees' Christmas time.

    We have a summer family party in a large park with lots of catered Barbeque and games for the kids and live music. The office execs serve the food and drinks. It's nice and it's certainly not mandatory. If you don't want to come we would never expect you to attend. We usually get about 200 co=workers and their families.

    Our kids come home from school at Christmas and we get to be a family for 2 weeks. If the company created a mandatory Christmas event near Christmas I would be very cross.
     
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    I'm an unapologetic drinker, but do not drink at work parties. That's a recipe for disaster so I hit the ginger ale. I'd rather hear about stupid "goings-on" than stare at my shoes Monday morning.
     
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    question? How can it be manditory if you dont go?

    and when asked about it after the fact thell you boss you had an allergic reaction to 5 bottles of wine you drank to get warmed for the party to meet this lady your boss wanted you to meet, you were sick as a dog!
     
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    Thats the thing, these parties sre still considered to be a place of work. Folk have been sacked for getting drunk, fighting, having sex at these things.
    If you dont want to go, dont go. Stick to your guns - she will respect you for it albeit grudgingly.
     
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    The beatings will continue until morale improves!

    I'd take scooby poo bars. Look them up on YouTube.
     
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    If you don't like your job, you definitely won't like the office party
     
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    Sounds like you hate your job in general.
     
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    If it's mandatory it needs to happen during working hours.

    I would just say fine, kick in my 20, and e-mail in sick on the day.
     
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    Make an appearance and tell her Merry Christmas then split .
     
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    In your shoes, I wouldn't go either with her demanding attitude, especially as she's calling 20 bucks. If the company were paying, it would be another ball game. Absolutely no obligations outside of work.
    I don't usually attend these sort of things but this year the Christmas venue is fifteen minutes walk from where I live, those on shift can leave work early to attend, everyone can claim £30.00 towards a taxi home/hotel and the buffet is free. What's not to like!
    (Well, a floor show would have been nice. :D )
     
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    I have problems with mandatory anything in the workplace, especially mandatory activities after hours. My employer deserves the best job I can do, nothing more. My personal time is mine.
     
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    If you say it's mandatory, you're paying me.. period
     
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    Wonder how 5 lbs of sugar free gummy bears would be for a dessert....
     
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    "I refuse to participate in Pagan Rituals" - Spoken by Dr. James Holt, then a 7th grader wishing not to dance with a girl selected by the Dean of Girls on a rainy day in the gymnasium of Borel Junior High in 1960. Imagine if you will a line of girls on one side of the gym and a line of boys on the other. A small record player up on the stage. Song playing, no one dancing, the Dean first grabs a girl and pulls her to the middle of the floor. Then she grabs Jim at which time he jerks loose and shouts that line.

    I give you this option even though Jim was severely chastised at the time. However, he went down in history and for those of us who knew him this action surpassed any other achievement throughout his life.
     
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  20. Big_Bend

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    Is she the boss? Can she affect your job or career? Will the real bosses be offended if you are not there? If so, you need to suck it up buttercup and go... or find a new job. The cost of doing business.

    If she has no say, then just tell her "No thanks" and leave it at that.
     
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