Lost my mom this week

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  1. boredguy6060

    boredguy6060 Poster Extraordinaire

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    Dan, you and I are only two years apart in age, yet my mother’s been gone for 59 years. So you had many good years with your mother. These are the things that you have left, a lifetime of wonderful memories of a wonderful, caring, loving mother. You were blessed with the complete circle of life, you have each phase filled with memories.
    That is what you must focus on now, not what you lost, but what you have. Believe me, those memories will sustain you, bring you joy and peace and the telling or sharing of them will heal you in time.
    May peace be with you and your family,
     
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    dan1952 Friend of Leo's

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    BeBlel

    Believe me, I appreciate the wonderful gift of having my parents this long. Thanks for your concern, and sorry you had to lose your mother so young. I can not imagine.
     
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    Sorry for your loss - condolences to you & your family.
     
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    DHart Friend of Leo's

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    Hi Dan... very sorry for your loss.

    I understand; been there myself. This is a very "defining" point in life.
     
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    My thoughts and prayers go out to you. May God bless you and your family Iin these tough times, but take consolation she's likely playing her favorite songs again and very proud of her gifted children.
     
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    Sorry for your loss Dan and doubly sad when a musician who shares passes on.
     
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    So sorry Dan, been there done that and it does leave a big hole.
     
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    I echo what everyone has said. My mom turned 94 two weeks ago, and any moment could be her last.....but I'm grateful for everything she's done for me. She, like your mom, was a great lover of music, and not only passed that love on to us, but made it possible for us to learn and develop musically.
    Please accept my sympathies.....:(
     
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    So sorry to hear of your mom's passing. A mother's loss is one of the saddest things that happens to us.
     
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    Best wishes for you and the family. Sad to hear the news. Hugz
     
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    Sorry Dan. That’s rough. Even at her age. Bless you for visiting. I work in a nursing home and it’s absolutely heartbreaking how many of the residents have zero visitors.
     
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    So sorry to hear it, Dan. I lost my mom and dad within 4 months of each other, 38 years ago. Still, not a day goes by that I don't think of them. Sounds like you've been a great son. I pray for comfort for you and your family.
     
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    Your mother will always be with you. Cherish the memories. Condolences.
     
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    I'm very sorry to hear of your loss, Dan.

    Losing your mother is about the worst thing that can happen.

    And I believe only people who have lost their mother can console someone else who has lost their mother.

    She is in a better place and I believe you will see her again.

    I lost my mother 27 years ago, and miss her everyday.

    Peace to you and your family.

    Mike
     
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    No matter if you know the day is coming, it is still a shock.
    Losing your mother is serious.
    Peace and strength.
     
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    One of the great images embedded in my mind is of my oldest son when he was a child coming three, my momma has him in her arms and they are running after the seabirds along the beach at Morro Rock. I cherish that memory, and hope I can always retain it. They are both gone now, and it gives me great comfort to catch a glimpse of them if only once in while.
     
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    Hey Dan, prayers your way God be with your Moms soul. Been through this myself
    Remember the good times!
     
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    Dan1952, sounds like your mom had a great son.
    My thoughts are with you. The pain does recede with time. So will the sadness and emptiness you are probably feeling.
    My mother passed 2 1/2 years ago. She was 84. Her mind was as sharp as always but her body just wore out.
    I miss calling her on the phone and making small talk just to make sure she was ok. And to reminisce with her. She remembered so much stuff about growing up that I'd forgotten.
    When I was growing up, all my friends called her mom too. She treated them like they were her kids, would feed them when they came over to the house, even drive us to wherever we needed (wanted) to go. She was the wheels for my first band when I was 14.
    She like to sit in the audience and watch us (me) perform at school dances and local gigs.
    I found out later on that she talked my dad into buying me my first guitar, even though they couldn't afford it. She used to watch me practice and learn songs off of records. And slip me a few bucks occasionally so I could get another album full of new songs to learn.

    When our parents get old and nearing the end, we usually know it's coming. But we're never really ready for it. It's like getting hit by a truck. I was in shock for a week or two after she passed. I couldn't taste food, was never hungry, and felt like my heart and soul had a hole in them. After a while the good memories started flooding my conscience. I realized how lucky I was to have had someone that loved and cared for me. And I feel her in my heart and soul. She is part of me. So is my dad. They are who made us and are inside of us. They'll be there till I pass on.
     
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    So sorry Dan to hear about your Mom.
     
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  20. Danny D

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    I'm sorry!
     
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