Long Goodbye

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by Mjark, Jan 21, 2017.

  1. RetroTeleRod

    RetroTeleRod Poster Extraordinaire

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    Sorry to hear of your loss, Mjark. Prayers sent.
     
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    Empathy, @Mjark. Lost my mother to Alzheimer's in 2002.
     
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  3. Five Fingers

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    My deepest condolences to you. Stay strong...
     
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  4. slauson slim

    slauson slim Friend of Leo's

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    Please accept my condolences. Remember the good times and the good things.
     
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  5. bettyseldest

    bettyseldest Friend of Leo's

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    I went through it myself a year ago with my dad, and whilst I know it was for the best when he went, it still hurts and I crack up whenever I read a post like this. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
     
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    I'm sorry Mjark. Prayers sent.
    As has been said before, hang on to the good thoughts.
     
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  7. Tele1966

    Tele1966 Friend of Leo's

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    I'm very sorry for you. Prayers sent.
     
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  8. Larry F

    Larry F Doctor of Teleocity Vendor Member

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    I'm very sorry to hear this, Mjark. My wife lost her mom this way two months ago. I think it is good to reflect and remember her the way you remembered her for most of your life. When the communication is diminished, it is important to remember that her silence wasn't an angry response, as it often is in people who aren't ill. Even after ten years, my wife still feels shut out or pushed away when I am going through a rough patch, pain-wise.
     
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    Mjark, sorry to hear of your loss. The emotional tug of war between sorrow of losing your mom and the relief that she's not suffering is a hard one to digest. Try to smile and let the latter help to soothe the former...you're a good son.
     
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    Mjark,
    My condolences to you and your family. There are no words at times like this. My brother-in-law was diagnosed about four years ago with Alzheimer's. He's 59 now. I feel for you man. Hang tough.
     
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  11. Mjark

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    Thanks everyone - I wasn't going to post about it but I think it helps and I appreciate your sentiments. There's a whole lifetime of good memories, my mom was a wonderful woman and mother. I'm mostly sad for my dad but he has the same lifetime and much more to reflect on. He saw her every day except for a week when we went sailing in 2015 and a couple days he was ill for the two years and 3 months she was living in the medical section of their retirement community.
     
  12. jumpnblues

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    My deepest, heartfelt, sympathy.
     
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  13. Zepfan

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    So sorry for your loss.
     
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    Thoughts and prayers for you and your family. So sorry for your loss.
     
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    Sorry for your lose man. She may not have said anything, but the heart knows. You are her son, and she loved you. That's the only thing to remember.
     
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    lammie200 Friend of Leo's

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    Sorry, man. It has been difficult I am sure.
     
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    I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother. I know that is tough no matter the circumstances.
     
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    My thoughts are with you.
     
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  19. Deeve

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    Mjark - I'm on the same track, just a few cars behind you and headed into the same station.

    My mom's most recent fall happened Thursday aft; this one landing her in hosp w/ broken ankle.

    A three year campaign by the sibs - to either to move into safer, flatter environment or to invite in-home asst @ the stair & obstacle-filled residence - wholly unsuccessful.
    I won't hijack your thread, but expect to be starting mine soon enough.

    Peace - Deeve
     
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  20. Mjark

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    It's not easy. We can't get my Dad to surrender his car keys.
     
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