Sounds like she has some unresolved regret with quitting her own music path, and might have some resentment that you are pursuing your own. That needs to be addressed ASAP. Whether or not she enjoys music anymore (have no idea how that's even possible), she should be supportive in your endeavors. That's part of marriage. If it's your passion, don't let anyone take that from you or (speaking from experience) you'll find yourself 20 years later kicking your ass because you listened to the wrong people and are now playing catch up for all those years you let your music passion take a back seat. Talk it out. See a couples therapist, whatever. But resolve it or it will be a point of contention that just grows as years go by. Guaranteed. Good luck.