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Kicking out a band member

Discussion in 'Band Wagon' started by Tone Eee, Sep 6, 2018.

  1. D_W_PGH

    D_W_PGH Friend of Leo's

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    You pretty much summed it up. If you light a fire under someones' butt and their response is to not respond, then it's never going to work. Failing to respond is about as useful as being outright disagreeable, but we don't perceive it as such often because "maybe we just don't know yet, they haven't told us" goes through our mind.

    When I was in high school, I was in a band that had two gigs per month. The drummer and singer decided that we had arrived and they were going to spend their time smoking pot for half of the practice sessions. We stagnated, and I left. It sucked, but it was the right thing to do. Talented singer and talented drummer, but neither ever focused on anything again. The singer quit singing and worked construction (I guess it's easier to get away with getting high doing that because the hours are pretty set), and the drummer bounced around going through various bands, but never committed to anything.

    The odds that your current singer will suddenly become a go-getter are pretty close to zero, and if you don't draw the line, you'll be having the same discussion two years from now. The new guy could turn out to be a dud, that's also a risk. But if he is, then you can move to the next person until someone fits.
     
  2. JustABluesGuy

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    Sounds like our one time rhythm player. He just sporadically shows up.

    It seems to me he is quitting the band.
     
  3. Seasicksailor

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    That's terrible rhythm skills then. :p
     
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    I agree that's a pretty blunt and aggressive way to speak about another band member. However, I said something similar, in a MUCH more diplomatic way, when the band I was playing with was dealing with a self-centered and "angry" bass player. The other guitarist was "venting" to me and another member about him, and I said simply, "I play bass, we can go on without him if you guys want." They hesitated a little, 'cause I not only played second lead guitar, but keyboards and about half the lead vocals as well. They would lose keys, guitar, and SOME vocals....but we did it, and it worked well for a while.
     
  5. Seasicksailor

    Seasicksailor Friend of Leo's

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    Indeed, that's pretty different. Mostly because you were already in the band. That's just problem solving. ;-)
     
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    Agreed.
     
  7. Tone Eee

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    Now, the real problem is how to play n him down and deliver the news/options.
    Perhaps he will show up to practice some day to chat.

    We've only had the same practice time and day for two years lol
     
  8. JustABluesGuy

    JustABluesGuy Friend of Leo's

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    The sad part is he has a lot of talent. He just doesn’t apply it often enough. Oh well...
     
  9. Paul in Colorado

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    Fixed it! :cool:
     
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    Yes. Actually, move him to 2nd guitar as previously mentioned. He'll prob quit right there. His choice.
     
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    You gotta ask??

    Go with new guy.
     
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    Now you've gone and made MY post look stupid!....;)
     
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    Not to me it won't. :D
     
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    Yes, it is supposed to be fun. Even when it sucks, it should still be fun.
    Time to let him go and move on.

    There may be NO way to do it without hurt feelings.
    But, it still needs to be done.
    Make sure you have all of your Bandmats behind you when you do.

    I hand to Bounce-Out an unstable Female Vocalist a couple of months ago.
    It wasn't any fun.

    Best of Luck.

    -ST
     
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    [emoji121]️this!
     
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    Hmm, it seems like he's not interested in the band any longer, so that new guy sounds like the better option, BUT: did you/the band ever bothered actually asking your singer what the heck his problem is?
    Her either has something bothering him or he's an ignorant diva.
    Wouldn't it be fair to check out before firing him?
     
  17. stratoman1

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    Tell him straight up what's happening. Ball in his court. If the other guy is really ready and not just feeling you out, at least tell current guy you are ready to go on with or without him. But you will go on. Then do it
     
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    Have the new guy come out to practice get feed back from them , then when the writer shows up next have a sit down with him, watch some kind of monster about Metallica , they had the same scenario and it almost cost them the band!
     
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    I’m not sure about your new guy. Talent, connections - What happened with his band or to him by his band?
     
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