I've been kicked out of my band!!! :-(

[Tricone]

Same here, if only bands were just about making music

I concur with both @rand z said earlier and @ficelles statement above. There are too many politics involved with bands and I have never been a politician.

I much more prefer to perform/gig solo. Way less stressful and easier. Hassle free.

It is fun to jam with a group and improvise. I love it. Group jams are great, band gigs not as great.

I have been single most of my life though so it could just be me. I can live with that.lol

 

[Sgt Pepper]

I meant to send a text to the guitar player one day responding to his comment that the bass player we were trying had an attitude problem. I wasn't paying enough attention and replied to the bass player instead "Yeah, Dave might have a bit of an attitude but he's a good bass player". Dave got pissed but actually admitted he had a bit of an attitude about getting tight on the music. I honestly agreed with him and we got over that, but it didn't work long term anyway due more to travel time and song list than anything else. Oh well.

That pales in comparison to another embarrassing situation I found myself in. I'm a residential contractor and this woman I was buildng a house for had been a ..errr...difficult...when talking to one of my subcontractors and he was telling me about it. I said "ahhh, she just needs a good grudge (love making session ryhmes with truckin). I turn around and there she is right behind me. She didn't say a word but was very nice the rest of the time I worked on that house. Not sure if she liked the idea or was afraid it would happen with a crew of subcontractors. And yeah, she looked pretty good. Wood.

 

[PhoenixBill]

I have heard that sex with band members is inadvisable and can lead to divisions. Or, if you're lucky, a best-selling album.

No, those are just Rumours….

 

[WelhavenTW]

I was kicked out of a band once. I told the bassplayer I was going to quit. He then told «the boss», and he rushed over to my place to tell me I was fired

I once joined a band, and the singer got mad because I made some songs for us to play (I find jamming new songs a bit boring and mostly a waste of time). So she called for a band meeting where she said «it’s either him or me». She was quite pissed when she left the meeting as the ex-singer of the band.

 

[blackspider57]

Even the most seasoned band seems to be on the verge of breaking up every night.
Best to never be in the wrong band.
It never ends well.

 

[ClashCityTele]

I posted this on another thread:
'Every Xmas all my friends who are in bands get together for a gig. So some of the personnel overlaps a little.
This year it's on the 29th at my friends bar (he's also the bass player in 2 bands).
So far there are 4 bands with more to be added.'

Well...one band may drop out as they've just got a new drummer & haven't rehearsed yet.
The other guitarist in my band may be at work till 8:45 that night (he thought his factory was closed). So we go on late, or play as a 4 piece (which is becoming a regular occurrence lately). Can't reschedule as the 29th is the only date that everyone is/was free.

Ain't life grand?

 

[cometazzi]

Didn’t Dire Straits establish that the requirement is in fact that you should know all the chords??

I thought that was The Beatles.

 

[MTPoteet]

I was once kicked out of a band after about a year because the bass player would never wear shoes at gigs and I confronted him about it. (Looking back, it sure was dumb to complain about, why should I care what he wears.)The name of the band was "The Roadkings"

Fast forward another year and I'm rehearsing with another guy, trying to get another band together and I stop at a bar I gigged at frequently after rehearsals with the new guy.

The name of the band is . "Roadkill". The band evolved from the original "Roadkings" but there were no original members left.
I knew the drummer and they asked me to sit in. I had my equipment in my truck so I did. We played almost every weekend for the next five years.

The singer in that band did not want anyone else singing too much and more than once left us stranded. It was never easy with the bass player and I only having four songs a piece to sing. So I eventually decided to leave the band. I asked the singer/guitar player if we could meet and he agreed, I had not told the rest of the band of my intentions.

He invited the rest of the band to the meeting and I announced I was leaving. The drummer and bass player immediately said we're going with him.

I did not expect that, but we stayed together and changed the name to "Roadrash"

We played together a good number of years and as Roadrash and I remained friends with most of the members of all of these bands

Good times! Dumb names.

 

[Peegoo]

@teletail

We never liked you anyway.

But your girlfriend is smokin' hawt.

xoxo,
Tha Band

 

[sax4blues]

My second band hired a female singer that I felt would not fit in. Two months later we were a couple. A year later everyone else quit (just stopped showing up) because they didn't want her in the band anymore but didn't want to tell us because we were a couple. After we broke us a bunch of us got back together and continued the band.

Bro's over... uh, never mind.

 

[schmee]

I’m not sure why having one person in another band is a nightmare. When I book a gig with the other band I tell them. The BL only has to look at the schedule to see if I’m available or not.

My other band has 7 members. BL sends out an email - are you available on this date.

Yeah, I get it. The reason is that often band dates come up with only one particular date offered. "You want it or not?"

 

[Masmus]

I do hate to say this but my oldest daughter who was watching me get frustrated at trying to put a band together said that she understood why her young friends putting bands together were stupid, they were young and stupid but she couldn't understand the same problem with a bunch of 50 year olds. Hurt feelings, control of the band, get too high or drunk to play well.

 

[teletail]

I do hate to say this but my oldest daughter who was watching me get frustrated at trying to put a band together said that she understood why her young friends putting bands together were stupid, they were young and stupid but she couldn't understand the same problem with a bunch of 50 year olds. Hurt feelings, control of the band, get too high or drunk to play well.

Most musicians get older without getting more mature; about their music anyway. They are basically 13 year olds in a 50 year old body.

 

[Alex_C]

It is always frustrating when the incorrect chords are played. Tuning is ultra important. I have a sensitive ear, if someone is bending notes when playing a chord it makes my left eye twitch! I can deal with a bad solo a little more, but the 'nervous' vibrato and bends that don't quite make the note do drive me nuts.

 

[Fiesta Red]

I was invited to join a band with my cousin; I should have known better, because the two previous times we were in bands together it didn’t go well—his control-freak ego, OCD and insecurity about having anyone else get attention in his band had made me quit both times previously.

He had a (passable/good) bassist and a terrible drummer…I was a better drummer and I am a lousy drummer…so I brought a drummer I’d just starting jamming with. Everything clicked.

Originally we were supposed to be an “Arc Angels” type band, two lead singers who both played lead instruments, but backed the other one up—each of us singing, him on guitar, me on mostly rhythm/occasional lead guitar, slide guitar and harp.

Lotsa SRV and Fabulous Thunderbirds, Texas Blues/Rock and an occasional Red Dirt/Outlaw Country tune we all liked…and I brought about 15-20 originals that I knew would fit in the band (Texas Blues-style stuff).

Started rehearsing. And rehearsing. And rehearsing. And rehearsing. For eleven months we rehearsed every weekend so he could be “comfortable” with the songs.

“Comfortable” is defined as “everyone is paying attention to him and giving him sole credit for the success of the band.”

Everyone who’d come to the rehearsals agreed that the originals sounded great—so much so that it upset him that I was getting attention for the songs I wrote, even though he was singing several of them…this is when I decided to copyright my songs, because something told me he’d try to pull a stunt.

It was upsetting to him when I got applause or attention for playing the occasional lead guitar (on the songs I wrote), slide guitar (which he couldn’t do at the time) and harp/harmonica (my best instrument).

So he “adjusted” the set list by removing most of the songs I sang or played lead on, and adding other songs that he would sing instead. The songs I did take the lead on were sped up or changed to where they became messy and untenable to play live. We made some rudimentary recordings (Tascam cassette unit) and he would remove or obscure my guitar parts as much as possible, which made the songs sound empty.

This went on until I finally asked him if he’d just like me to stand behind him on-stage and wave a big feather fan, since he was the freaking Pharoah of Blues.

After three or four gigs/performances (we only got paid for one, since he refused to let anyone else hustle a gig—both the drummer and I got paying gigs for us m, but he didn’t want to play them), I had enough and I quit. They didn’t replace me. The drummer told me several of the songs fell apart without the rhythm guitar or slide lead, and that the Pharoah got mad if anyone asked where I was. He (Pharoah) started booking gigs regularly (because he was now “comfortable”—see definition above), but every gig had a major catastrophe, from PA problems (I brought—and took away—the PA) to songs falling flat and sounding empty to low-attendance or low-energy audiences to promoters not promoting to…well, anybody who’s ever been in a band understands the challenges.

These were things that were my fault when I was in the band.…but since I was gone, there was nobody to blame except himself...and we can’t do that, because he’s perfect!

The drummer did double duty and joined my new band (which started playing gigs two weeks after we formed) while still playing with the old one. That made the Pharoah mad, so the drummer quit.

The drummer and I are still playing together—in fact, we are recording this afternoon—while the Pharoah eventually became a solo artist—a kick drum at his feet, harmonica rack on his neck—so that way nobody could take attention away from him.

 

[Tuneup]

"fancy chords" what next... you'll start playing between the dots on the neck or using the black keys on the piano?

 

[boris bubbanov]

Bands...

I really don't miss them.

I enjoy playing with other peeps.

But, I really don't miss bands.

imo.

I miss bands.

What I don't miss, at all, are the audiences.

I wished for some of those "book lernin' folks" in the audience and too often, found none.

 

[boris bubbanov]

Same here, if only bands were just about making music

Yeah.

That's that world where every joint contains 25, twenty five year old unmarried supermodel-grade young women, all looking for a rustic fellow with barely enough money.

:^)

 

[Papanate]

Funny story. I've been with this band for about a year. When I joined them I told them about my other band and that gigs were first come, first serve and they said no problem. Well, my other band booked more gigs this year than I anticipated and the new band was unhappy about it. We had a few discussions and I basically said, "I can't turn down gigs and keep my calendar open in case you book a gig." We kind of left it at that, but I was starting to

I think everyone is relieved!

I play professionally and you know what? Every band is first come first serve - and no ones feeling are hurt - and I keep my Calendar full and so do the other bands when I'm not able to make their gig - all of us have a understanding that everyone gets to work as much as they can - and it's a pretty incestous situation - a lot of times I sub in for players that got more money or the Gig overlapped - and the same happens for me - don't get me wrong - everyones competitive - sometimes I've taken $50 less to get the gig - I know other guys do this all the time too.

 

[boris bubbanov]

Even the most seasoned band seems to be on the verge of breaking up every night.
Best to never be in the wrong band.
It never ends well.

Sometimes, it is the "wrong" band or no band at all.

Like skiing and riding horses, when you lay off for too long, you lose the gist of what should be happening in a band I think. That's what happened to me.