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Is it true.... is a guy as faithful as his options allow?

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by Colo Springs E, Feb 8, 2015.

Is a guy (girl?) only as faithful as what his options allow for?

  1. If you're faithful, you're faithful. Makes NO difference who comes on to you!

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  2. I would say that there is a large % of guys who would (almost) never cheat.

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  3. Hmmm... I think if I had hot chicks hitting on me all the time, it would be tempting.

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  4. Dood, seriously? Guys are DOGS. It's all about what your options are.

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  1. kelnet

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    Is anyone in this forum really going to admit to cheating?
     
  2. boredguy6060

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    I was married for 8 years and cheated many times.
    I've been single for over 35 years and have had over a dozen girl friends and cheated on them too.
    I like the newness of a relationship, when the fire is gone, so am I.
    I'm not advocating my lifestyle, but I'm not apologizing for it either.
    I have lived a great life, and wouldn't change a thing.
    To each his own,
     
  3. Flat6Driver

    Flat6Driver Friend of Leo's

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    The premise of this thread is flawed. "Hot" women throwing them selves at you... If in a dedicated relationship that seems to be far easier to resist or outright laugh at than an average woman/friend coming on (or creating such a situation) when in a period of instability.
     
  4. hotpot

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    I've been married to my wonderful wife over 41 years, I've never cheated on her & never would. I'm a man of my word & have principles, My brain is in my head & not in my pants. I've seen so many of my workmates & friends lives turn into absolute train wrecks for the sake of an affair/one night stand with scant regard to what happens to the children of these marriages.
     
  5. Colo Springs E

    Colo Springs E Doctor of Teleocity Ad Free Member

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    Fair enough.... I guess what I was trying to present was, while I've been faithful, I can't really recall a lot of circumstances where an attractive woman was actively showing interest or a situation lined up just right at a time when my wife and I were in a funk or whatever.

    We often read about celebrities cheating. I think there are likely a million reasons why it happens and no two situations are exactly the same... but at least one thing you have to consider is the fact they often have a lot of options available to them/they are in situations that lend to it.
     
  6. maxvintage

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    If cheating is a guy thing, who are all these hetero cheaters cheating WITH?

    I'm pretty sure cheating or not cheating isn't gender specific.
     
  7. Colo Springs E

    Colo Springs E Doctor of Teleocity Ad Free Member

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    Very next post after yours! :)

    Agreed.

    In addition to concerns about disease or pregnancy, part of what has kept me faithful is the whole 'Fatal Attraction' theme.

    Yep, that'd be just my luck :lol:
     
  8. Mike Eskimo

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    There is a double standard when it comes to such things.

    Right ? Wrong ? Doesn't matter - just is.

    So, at least they've got that going for them.:lol:
     
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    I was married twice and didn't cheat on either. If either marriage had lasted for 20 years or so, who knows? I've always been monogamous minded.
    Women have always let me know they were interested, but while married it was pretty easy to dodge any advances. I may have had some weak days when I was lucky that the right women didn't hit on me at the right time.
     
  10. Tinman46

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    Agreed. Especially when it comes to the kids who get wrapped up in their parents stupidity. If you have a spouse and kids you aren't just cheating on your spouse.
     
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    Cheating while married is failure of basic decency as a human being.

    Having said that, plenty of folks out there , men and women, lack basic human decency.
     
  12. unixfish

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    Chris Rock. Now there is someone I would take life advice from. :rolleyes:

    Finding someone physically attractive is one thing. Doing something is another.

    I used to work with a guy who was always getting bothered about waitresses. He would go on and on about how hot they were and since he's married he can't do anything blah blah blah blah. One day I told him "Dude! Just go talk to her!" He hemmed an hawed a bit, then went and spoke to her.

    He came back a few minutes later and said "You were right. That ruined the allure." No more obsessing.

    I saw quote on the interwebs once - I will paraphrase to make it gender neutral. There was a picture of a very attractive person in suggestive dress, and the caption said "No matter how good they look, someone, somewhere, is tired of dealing with their [poo]." Very true.

    Commitment takes commitment.
     
  13. knopflerfan

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    I agree with moosie and hotpot - cheating is cheating and faithful is faithful. Trust is very hard to find in any relationship - we should hold it near and dear to the heart.
     
  14. rebelwoclue

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    :lol: No.
    Pleading the 5th...
     
  15. Mike Eskimo

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    It was a bit.

    He wasn't giving advice.

    He wasn't necessarily even being serious (you know how seriousness and comedy might just be at odds ? Yeah - that.)

    We live right now in another golden age of comedy but w/ a populace seemingly lacking in discerning what is a joke and what is something they should take umbrage at...

    Political correctness and sacred cows = death of anything funny.

    I choose to laugh.

    Y'all cheaters do what ya want :lol:
     
  16. drmcclainphd

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    What guy?

    All those options and more are valid for some guys, and as many reasons to stick with one or the other as their are guys.

    I looked around for a relative quote, and found: "The man of science is a poor philosopher." -- Albert Einstein. But at least the man of science admits to this. The comedian doesn't say it, but he shouldn't have to. He's a comedian.
     
  17. Colo Springs E

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    What advice did he give?
     
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    No, that statement is not true. I was always faithful to all of my wives although the options were generally endless. I have many other regrets as well.
     
  19. Wrong-Note Rod

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    I cant speak for anybody but me.

    I've never cheated on anybody, ever.

    And I've had plenty of opportunities.
     
  20. Thorby Bislam

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    ditto
     
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