I'm not much for holding a grudge

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  1. dlew919

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    A Baptist minister once told me I had to forgive him for the wrong he’d done to me.

    that conversation did not end well for him.
     
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    Well, The Beatles have been around since 1957 so maybe it's time to let go of that one.....just sayin'.
     
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    I like everyone, until they prove me wrong.

    It's a nice way to live.

    I'd rather be occasionally disappointed than constantly bitter.
     
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    Texicaster Friend of Leo's Ad Free Member

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    There's plenty of people I have limited trust with based on past behavior.

    But I won't waste time keeping score and will try to give as my abilities warrant.
     
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    I'll always remember my baseball mitt being stolen in 1972, I was eight years old. It was a Spalding. I hope to someday meet the person that stole it. Hopefully they are still alive.
     
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    Today I turned down a project because it would have required me to work closely with someone who pissed me off twenty years ago. Grudges? Yeah, I got some. :)
     
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  7. blowtorch

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    20 years isn't really all that much time
     
  8. LutherBurger

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    Amen, brother.
     
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  9. markal

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    Interesting choice of avatar for a guy that doesn’t hold a grudge!
     
  10. blowtorch

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    Huh?
     
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    I had someone steal my nice McGregor mitt. Saved up for almost a year to buy it. That was in 1953. Someone stole it from me at the post office. SO FAR, I haven't gotten in back.
     
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    You know since thinking about this thread, I realized I've outlived everyone I could possibly have held a grudge against. Most of the one's that would have any reason or interest in holding a grudge against me are gone too. That just leaves you guys! :D
     
  13. telemnemonics

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    Circa 1965 I got my first jack o lantern, helped my mom carve it and we put it on the front step with a candle inside.
    Pretty epic for a little kid and it was my birthday too, so big symbolic event.
    The next morning of course, it was gone.
    Out in the street though, there was the remains of my beloved.

    Fast forward some decades and Billy Corgan sings I used to be a little boy.
    I strongly disliked him because of the name of his band, and because of that I could not hear what he had to say. I suppose his voice took getting used to but there was a ridiculous association in my memory, with anyone who would smash a child's pumpkin.
    Not really a rational thought process, just associated with the bitter memory of when I first came to know that humanity uses cruelty for our own amusement.
    Pretty good chance we know ourselves less well than we assume.
    Course i barely know me so how can I know YOU?
    Can we all chip in and buy you a new glove dear?

    Maybe 2015 or so I started to really love the smashing pumpkins.

    Effing hilarious, poignant but hilarious.
     
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    Given the proper occurrence, I'll never forget and hold a grudge forever. This "forgiveness" thing is a bunch of crap.

    I now feel this more than ever.
     
  15. MickM

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    Doesn't it depend on the perceived slight? You're more likely to hold a grudge against somebody who does bodily harm to a family member than somebody that steps on and blackens the toe of your shiny new white sneakers. (unless you're a sneaker guy)
     
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    I guess I got a couple still; actually picked one up this winter...I don't think that one'll be a long-termer, so we can just say I'm still pissed for now.

    I don't actively stew on 'em, because I generally arrange my life so those few people aren't in it anymore.
     
  17. blowtorch

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    And then there is the perceived slight.

    Some folks are very open to assuming the worst, and taking personal offense, when the most likely scenario is that none was intended

    But that's a whole 'nother...
     
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    There no reason to forget. Plenty of reason to consider what those memories mean to you. Holding a grudge is, ultimately, optional.
     
  19. That Cal Webway

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    I never cared much for grudge music.

    I figure if Karen Carpenter never dabbled in that direction, that genre needs no visiting.
    jussie testifying here thats all!
     
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    If something gets said or done that’s taken the wrong way or a mistake, I can let it go. But if you purposely go after me personally or professionally, I will not let it go.
     
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