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I'm mentally not on this planet today

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by 24 track, Dec 28, 2020.

  1. 24 track

    24 track Doctor of Teleocity Ad Free Member

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    we have allways been a close family and as a force of habit ensure we end every coversation with I love you ,
    As I told my kid I do that because , foregoing any thing happen to me during any time , My last words to them will never be in anger and they will know my true feelings
     
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    The good news is that you can still feel, seems like these days that is less and less common, or else feelings all come out as anger.

    Edit: I'm sorry you lost your brother, and in an infuriating situation.
    Medical facilities seem to be a wreck right now, maybe not there in BC, but it's a mess to stumble into it seems. Almost like living a crap shoot hoping to not roll the wrong numbers...
     
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    24 track Doctor of Teleocity Ad Free Member

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    Thank you
    its silly because from what i see the nursing staff are dynamite and are true angels , it the admin and ward co-ordinators are the ones making bad decisions ( just how it appears to me anyway) , A difficult job for them daily and sympasize with them but on a personal level one bad descision affects the one that need help the most

    I could not do that job on a daily basis .
     
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    tap4154 Doctor of Teleocity Ad Free Member

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    I'm so sorry about losing your brother, but am so glad you were able to at least be there for his last moments.

    I've lost my middle sister 20 years ago, was in the hospital room when she passed, and my dad, and my mom, both while in home hospice.

    Me and my older sister were in the room when my middle sister passed, and after we walked out of the room and left her with her husband, and we suddenly were so cold we could not believe it. We were both shivering sitting in a small room, and we both became euphoric. We drove from the hospital in separate vehicles to tell my mom and dad, and all the way home both of us were in our vehicles just yelling at her how much we loved her and that she's free now. We both exchanged those stories after we got together at my mom's and dad's house. I truly believe her spirit was surrounding us. My older sister, who is a teacher, said that her Hispanic students told her that when a spirit inhabits a room, it becomes very cold.

    By the way, she passed the day after my birthday. We were all sitting in the hospital room with her on my birthday, and about a half hour after midnight is when she took her final breath. My older sister said she was probably waiting till the next day. And that's the kind of person she was.

    I know the next day I felt kind of lost like you did yesterday, but it gets better, and you just remember the good times. And there will always be days many years down the line where you think about him, and a smile comes across your face.
     
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    beautiful story and great you felt her there with you,

    when My other brother passed , I was the ICU with him for 3 days whilst was he comatosed until the very end he was not going to be alone , about a month later I was visiting my wifes brother in Toronto , one night while sleeping my brother appeared to me and said "thank you" then disappeared and i was good with that
     
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    Peace and Blessings to you at this difficult time.
     
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    All the good vibes pointed your way.

    I hope you find peace.
     
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    Very sorry for your loss.
     
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  9. Recce

    Recce Friend of Leo's Silver Supporter

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    Keep everything as normal as possible. Talk to your wife or a friend about where you are. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Work through this with someone you trust. Remember although everyone is separated right now you are not alone.
     
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    telestratosonic Friend of Leo's Silver Supporter

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    Sorry for your loss, 24.
    Jim
     
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    thank you , I have strong family ties us siblings are close , very close and as I told my sisters "there are only three of us left now , we need to look after each other"
     
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    Condolences
     
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  13. Blue Bill

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    24, I just got the news, so sorry for your loss. A brother is a special thing. I've been away for a couple days; my 91 year old Dad somehow crashed into my 90 year old Mom, and they both ended up in the hospital. They will recover OK, but the virus scare has made complete chaos of medical treatment, so frustrating, as you know. You have my best wishes for the Happiest of New Years for you and yours.
     
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    These are beautiful words, 24 track. I may have to quote you with my family– We're spread out, don't get to see each other much. I admire close families like yours. In our family, we know we all love each other but don't often say it.

    Your loss, your story have struck a chord with me. I'm not a religious man, but I believe in spirits and in souls and I believe your brother is with you. I'm glad you were there with him and for him.

    (I want say, 'Take care, my friend' but I don't even know you except for your posts the last few weeks. But yes, take care my friend.)
     
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    I am deeply sorry for your loss. By now you know nothing helps. It's sounds tired but time is the only thing that helps. You never get over the loss, but time somehow makes it bearable. I wish there were a magic wand that you could wave and make you all better, but there isn't. It is good you have memories to fall back on. They are all we have left those of us who remain. Again, my deepest condolences. It's funny, when we're kind of in the middle of the movie, we have no inkling how fleeting life is. A big chalk board should pop up when things are going famously, that says, this is as good as it gets, enjoy it extra special!
     
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    with my brother's situationsI know I did all i could to be a great friend and little brother to him through out his deteriorating illnesses, the strokes were the worst , I am at peace with this ..... and I know he ,as I would not want every one being sad and grieving for him , he was a happy guy and funny as hell , he and I used to regale my daughter with some of the goofy antics we got into in our respective youths ( tons of history here)and a lot I cant share on the forum. I am glad he shared his last moments with me , that is magic and will always be apart of me , I was sidetracked for the day feeling no direction but I've come through OK and i will be fine . thank you for the kind words!
     
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    Best to you my friend, grief is the one emotion we all share that we know exactly how the other person is feeling. I hope you mend, you will but it will take a while.
     
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    I wish your parents the very best ,I hope and sincerly wish you the very best , its scary when parents get up in years , surviving the worst that time has to offer only to break down with age , I believe the older you get the healthier they should be , in a perfect world please do me a favor the next time you see them , give them a hug from me , to make it past 90 is wow a beautiful thing!
     
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    Hey bro! I don't know you or what has been happening. But l dig your posts and threads. For you to come out and say how you're feeling is better than bottling it up. Wish I knew what it is your going through. Either way, keep your head up man. Sometimes it's hard. Remember, tomorrow is a new day. I've had 3 near death hospitalized situations in my life.Not to mention my other head games! Everyday now is a good day! Be f.....n strong! You have the choice, the power to do it. My heart is feeling for you. I could keep on but maybe I should not without knowing what is. Be good. Be tough, and fight the good fight. You will come out better than before. Keep on pickin!!! Happy New year!
     
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    Sympathies sent.

    You and your family are experiencing shock.....as the poster above, tap4154, did.
    It's normal and will pass, but it takes time. The grieving takes longer, but it WILL be in the past sometime. Irrational guilt often is part of the grieving process as well. Expect it and go easy on yourself.
    Ask for help when you need it. That's important.
     
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