If someone gives you a line about their neediness, and you give them money, but it turns out you were conned; Does that go on the positive or the negative side of things? Nothing that's happened on this board, but I know through the years I have probably been conned by people asking for money. Recently, I had posted about taking banana as a kid from behind a grocery store. One of the posters suggested that I do something for someone else as a way of making amends, and that I would know it when the opportunity presented itself. So, recently I had lunch with a couple of old pals, as I was entering the restaurant, a guy hits me up for money. He isn't dirty, he's carrying a cane, and has a vet hat on. I walked right by him, and as soon as I walked up to my buds in the waiting area, I could see the line in my mind's eye from the poster about playing it on, so I said hang on a minute, I'll be right with you. Then I went back outside and gave the guy a few bucks. When my friends asked me what I was doing and I told them I went back to give a guy some money. One of my friends thought it was cool, the other actually got pissed and it took a while for him to cool down. He went on a rant about the jerks hitting him up for money every day etc. I finally smoothed his feathers and lunch was a success after a rocky start. Now I wonder, I helped one guy, pissed the other off, where was the gain?