Interesting; some of the most trollish characters online (I am NOT referring to you) self-espouse those exact same traits, even using them as justification for their various critiques.
This is really great place and I enjoy coming here. Of greater concern to me is the world at large, our country particularly. Unfortunately, largely due to a few very prominent public figures, it has recently become acceptable to be rude, belligerent, insulting, and even violent with someone without provocation just because they are different. The concepts of civility and courtesy are lost on a growing portion of our population. Thankfully, not here.
It's changed that's for sure, the other day we'd just been food shopping at the supermarket and we loaded up the car and got in and just over the way there was an old lady who was clearly struggling to get her shopping into her car and hang on to the trolly .. um, 'Grocery cart' I think you call them (the car park is on a bit of a slope) anyway I get out of the car and go over to ask if she needs some help and would she like me to hold the trolly for her while she puts her stuff away. She was very thankful and told me she was struggling because she was 'waiting for a new knee', she must have been at least in her 80's. anyway to cut a long story short... I don't say this to big myself up, it was nothing, but it was Saturday, it was busy and you don't need me to tell you how many people completely ignored her situation... or likely not even aware of what's going on around them.
It's little things like this that make me really concerned for the future.
"Assuming good intent" is a slogan someone suggested to me a while back and I've found it to be a useful tool to use the moment I start reacting to something that rubs me the wrong way. For the people that clearly demonstrate that good intent was never intended, "...just walk away Renee" is usually the way to go. While lowering the hammer can feel like the right thing to do it usually just leaves me with an emotional hangover. Life's too short.My approach is to try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Even if they don't deserve it, perhaps.
It's those little thing that cost you nothing but mean a lot to the other person.
I'm more optimistic about the future. I see the good in people and good all around me.
I'm older than you.Coming from the older generation, I agree all the sentiments expressed here except "grow a thicker skin". The "ignore" feature can make your forum experience much more pleasant. I've only had to use it a few times and not in quite awhile. Ah, if only the real world had an ignore button.
I try, I really do.
I think most people are good, I just think many are disconnected in some way. The last couple of years haven't helped that... along with self service checkouts and all that stuff. It's all very depressing to me if I'm honest.
There will be books written on 'the lost art of human interaction' at some point I expect!
"Assuming good intent" is a slogan someone suggested to me a while back and I've found it to be a useful tool to use the moment I start reacting to something that rubs me the wrong way. For the people that clearly demonstrate that good intent was never intended, "...just walk away Renee" is usually the way to go. While lowering the hammer can feel like the right thing to do it usually just leaves me with an emotional hangover. Life's too short.
I think the past two years of the thing we can't talk about may have isolated people, but people are snapping back, if that's the right metaphor (checks... not it's not). My gauge is talking to people while I'm walking Harley. Not on the street, where's it's busy, but on the trails above my neighbourhood:
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People are friendly and chatty! I recognise people from other walks and even if we don't know each other, they are always polite. Maybe we should all get dogs!