How much time to bond with a guitar?

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  1. BrettFuzz

    BrettFuzz TDPRI Member

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    I have these two guitars that I keep playing the same amount of time as my other guitars hoping I'd bond with them but it just seems like it's not happening. I did the usual fret dressing, setup, change pickguard, etc. routine (more because I wanted to do it than because they needed it) but I still feel relieved when I switch to one of my other guitars. And it's not the comfort or the guitar style/type or the sound. There is just no spark, lol.
    I've had them for a few months and I wonder how long I should keep trying. How much time do you give a guitar to bond with?
     
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  2. Ebidis

    Ebidis Friend of Leo's

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    I'd say if you've had them for a few months and it's not happening, then it's probably not going to.

    For me, I pretty much know right away if it's happening or not.

    Sometimes it just happens that certain guitars don't have the spark for you.
     
  3. saleake

    saleake Tele-Meister Silver Supporter

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    It took me a year to bond with the Custom Shop Telecaster I bought in 2019. I don’t like rosewood fretboards on Fender guitars, but I wanted the color and pickup combination. I kept at it and now it’s my number one.
     
  4. Matthias

    Matthias Friend of Leo's Gold Supporter

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    A year in the case with little play = find someone who’ll love it.
     
  5. Chiogtr4x

    Chiogtr4x Doctor of Teleocity

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    I'm not kidding,

    With guitars, effects, amps, strings - if I don't like the way things sound or feel... ( like string tension, or wrap on acoustic strings; neck shape, body weight on guitars; ease of use of controls/sound of amps/pedals)
    ... right away, within minutes, I move on. Just no patience for a learning curve.

    Part of my opinion I guess, comes from the moments when I have instantly bonded with gear ( which I own and love)
    So when you know that situation is possible, you know it can be repeated, and look for it again

    I know other folks ( DIY/handy types, NOT me!) can 'hammer' ( figuratively), replace parts, or engineer something to make it better or more suitable for them, which is great, if you know how.
    But that's never been me.
     
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  6. TN Tele

    TN Tele Tele-Meister Silver Supporter

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    My wife gave me a beautiful American Deluxe Strat for my birthday 15 years ago. It has spent its life either on the wall or in its case while I played every other guitar I own. If it wasn't for the fact that it came from her, I would have sold it long ago. Since you are not in that position I would say sell them. Either you bond with the instrument or you find another that creates that bond.
     
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  7. Alex_C

    Alex_C Tele-Holic

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    If I don't bond with an instrument instantly, I move on. There are too many choices to settle.
     
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    Ricky D. Doctor of Teleocity

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    You can’t make your heart feel what it won’t. Women, guitars, same principle applies. The spark is there or it isn’t.

    All the positive elements are enjoyable, but negatives disqualify.

    Listen to your gut. It has been telling you to walk away, and you aren’t paying attention. There are a lot of guitars out there that you can love, spend your time with them.
     
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    KokoTele Doctor of Teleocity Vendor Member

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    Everyone’s different. Some people need to bond right away or they’ll never feel it, some people let things grow in them.

    if you can identify something about these guitars that you like and is unique to them (tone, look, feel, whatever), then keep at it for a while. If there isn’t something, then you’ve likely waited long enough and should move on.
     
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    It's like getting married different dance same song , "getting to know you " la la lalala la
     
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    Eight years and counting


    There’s nothing wrong with the Gretsch. It requires equalization and is more limited in its range of tones.
     
  12. Si G X

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    3 chords and I've usually made my decision.

    .. I might pretend it took longer, but it didn't.
     
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    Gardo Friend of Leo's Silver Supporter

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    Sometimes bonding is just a mod away.
    I have a Vintage brand thinline that has always been a looker but not quite there as a player. Then I put a set of 11’s on it and fell in love.
     
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    You’ll never love it more than the second you pull it out of the box and put hands & eyes on it: Seems to hold true for me, whether it be lots or a little…
     
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    Stanford Guitar Friend of Leo's

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    37 minutes and 19 seconds
     
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    Like others here, I pretty much know if it’s a good fit within a couple minutes of picking it up.
     
  17. Lone_Poor_Boy

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    For me, if it is setup well, I know pretty quick. Like within 1 hour. If not setup well, I need to get that done or just return it asap if a setup isn't worth the trouble.
     
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    First chord , when I get that buzz in the middle of my head. Like when you are tuning a guitar just when its hits the pitch, and it is in tune. Or is that just me. Something else did
    you try lighter strings?
     
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  19. Blackguard53

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    I give it a couple of weeks to settle into a good setup and make small changes, play it in a band setting and in multiple venues or rooms to figure out how the guitar needs to be EQd to its purpose. After that, meh.

    If it's more than an electronics swap I'm out.
     
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  20. telleutelleme

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    Sometimes it is within a few days. I've held some for a long time and finally decided it wasn't for me. I admit to having a couple that just look nice but are not enjoyable for me to play but I still have them. I bought a 12 string acoustic once and unloaded it the same day.
     
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