People in healthy marriages appreciate the different phases of life: Young Love careers Children Home buying Mid-life Crisis Grandchildren Health Issues Family Hobbies and Vacations Divorces often happen when one of the partners lives like a teenager. Or the other immediately goes from Young love to Grouchy old ogre with zero sex appeal) When you're married: marriage comes First. (You buy a guitar - You check with your spouse). (You go out with the guys - you check with your spouse). It's YOU and your SPOUSE against the World. That's never boring.