How did/do you discipline your kids?

[Beachbum]

Growing up my two Daughters were perfect or at least Mom never advised me otherwise. I also hear from my Daughters that my four Grand Daughters are perfect as well. What can I say. I'm outnumbered.

 

[teleman1]

I have no kids, did some Niece raisn a bit. But My Dad? A very tough guy from the streets of Chicago. He was around when Capone ruled Chicago. My brother was 15 & 1/2 years older than me. He told me once that he thinks the reason My Dad rarely hit me was because he beat the daylight once out of my Brother. He said that a couple of years later, he told my Dad how much he hurt him and my Dad realized, he made a big mistake.
I was crazy about my Dad, but if I was out of line, he would look at me with the most Po'd look on his face and I would burst into tears. I would have preferred watching scary monster movies then to catch his anger so thick you could cut o piece of it from the air between us.

 

[Stubee]

Kids need a heap full of love but also some direction, guidance and consistency in my opinion. The biggest challenge may be consistency.

 

[Maguchi]

Don't worry, folks, this is a safe place. No child protective services will hunt you down. Tell me, how did/do you discipline your kids? What worked, what didn't, any memories stick out?

 

[teleman1]

A song Framptonless, with pics of Frampton

 

[chezdeluxe]

I used the carrot and stick method.

First I beat them with the carrot and then I beat them with the stick.

 

[CalebAaron666]

 

[monkeybanana]

Kids will mimic, often unconsciously, how their parents act and behave far more often than what they are told to do. Modeling is paramount.

Or they are repulsed by their abusive father and vow never to lay a hand on their significant other(s) or kid(s). Typing for a friend.

 

[Maguchi]

A song Framptonless, with pics of Frampton

Generally I like vids with a little bit of action rather than just a static pic of the album cover. Didn’t look that closely at the vid, and probly couldn't of recognized Frampton if I had.

 

[getbent]

Lots of love, lots of down on the floor time, lots of listening to them, lots of reading stories, and car trips with long stories. Lots of visits to things big and small (little places and big places) lots of playing catch. lots of cooking together and cleaning together and working on things.

Lots of 'sayings' like 'the first rule of sales is you have to stop selling when the customer says yes.' or 'leave it all on the field and there are no regrets' or 'getting up early gives more opportunities for great things to happen'

We emphasized that we all have jobs and responsibilities, theirs was to do well in the classroom, be respectful of others, try your best always and be kind.

I never spanked, hit or belittled my children, ever. Not one time. I raised my voice with them on 3 occasions, twice with one child, once with another and never with one.

Most of the parenting was done by me (sadly) my first wife was kind of half baby sitter half, I dunno, kid or something. But, the children have all grown up to be adults who have careers, educations, good friends and we have a good, friendly and loving relationship. If anything, our kids over share a bit. But, we feel lucky and grateful. We see so many of our friends (and theirs) who have lots of misgivings about their childhoods.

Lots of ways to do it well and successfully. The key is love and communication and respect for each other and lots and lots of love.

 

[TomBrokaw]

If they misbehave, I roll em on their backs and tell them NO a couple of times, and then continue on. No point in staying angry. If they do well, they get a treat and butt skritches. Seems to work pretty well. Consistency is key - let them know that they made a mistake but that I still love them. I don't think it makes too much difference that they have four legs and a tail, the principle is the same.

 

[Nightclub Dwight]

I don't have kids, but my parents had a very interesting method depending on which one was in charge of it.

My Mother would assign you a VERY boring task and sit there with you giving a lecture on what you did wrong. Her favorite method was canning green beans. Sitting there cutting the stem ends off and then dicing into thirds for hours on end was something Dante would have been proud to witness. Then, in winter, while being served those same green beans, she would bring up what stupid thing you did just to drive it home once more.

My Father had a different method (2 of them actually). When we were teens, if one son screwed up, he would take another one on a long drive. During that drive, he would go to great lengths explaining how stupid son number 1 was for what he did. He never confronted the one that actually did wrong, he would address it with the other son instead. It was then up to the one to translate the lecture to the one that the lecture was about in the first place. I think he did that simply as a way to control his anger since my father was a gorilla that could press 500 lbs. and was on heavy steroids for a medical condition...ie quick to rage.

Now, when we were still kids, Dad had a different method. If we screwed up, he would tell us that he would be placing a monster in our closet for a week. Then he would hide in the closet and make noise until we finally fell asleep hiding beneath the covers. It sounds so stupid, but for about 14 years, it really worked because we were petrified of that monster and would very rarely risk making such bad decisions again.

A wise man once said: A youth learns more from a good scare, then a good lecture.

I thought I favored your mother's approach until you explained the monster in the closet. It sounds like you were lucky to have two excellent parents who creatively figured out appropriate methods to raise good kids.

 

[Tonetele]

Talking. Never hit my kids . Talk to them and get them to realise whatever their wron doing was/is. Sometimes this provokes tears but that's them realising what they did or do is not right to others. No need for smacking.

 

[gimmeatele]

Never really had the chance, wife deemed me surplus to requirements

 

[Nightclub Dwight]

Gosh, I wish I had some of you guys as a parent. My dad rarely hit us. Just a few times, that I can remember, classic spankings. Probably 3 times as a kid. He thought that withholding physical violence was important, but he made up for it with psychological trauma, which can be nearly as bad.

I just have a cat. We let her do whatever she wants, within reason. When she doesn't behave we hold her on our laps petting her, which seems to be worst punishment that she could ever imagine. She is mostly a very good cat.

 

[Uncle Daddy]

Rolled up wet towel; doesn't leave any bruises.

 

[Mike Eskimo]

1.) Get a regular 2 prong extension cord

2.) Cut the female end off

3.) Get your kid/kids

4.) Throw the cord in the garbage and just be there.

Every day.

Day after day.

And fer chrissakes don’t lose your mind/act like a maniac.

 

[blowtorch]

your parenting is a reaction to the parenting you yourself received

 

[Guitarteach]

Empathy, love, clear advice and explanation, if needed.

Never ever hit them. Rarely had to raise a voice to them. The only downside of all the talking is that they are now educated as better debaters than us, so we lose every argument to them now

I never heard my father or mother raise their voice once to me and my sister.

 

[oatsoda]

Just kidding.

My wife died 6 years ago when the kids were 13 and 11, and I had to take over everything. I know I made a lot of mistakes, and if I could go back would make some better choices. Like most parents, I tend to beat myself up about that stuff a bit too much. You just do the best you can, and thank God when you wake up in the morning and get to try again. Also I have been very fortunate that the kids were never as bad as I was, and a lot of that is probably because of how amazing a mother they had, even if for far too short a time.