Guy wants guitar back, how to say no, or not?

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  1. Brian J.

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    it is your guitar tell him NO
     
  2. 24 track

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    this is only mynopinion but

    its your guitar to do with what you want, the market value has gone up on that guitar , I'd let him know that when you are ready you will give him first crackat it, but for now its not for sale.
     
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    No problem at all, I was just wondering about the best way to say no thanks. I had not even thought about politely declining but adding that if I ever want to sell, I'll give him the first chance at it. That was a nice little addition to my response. So the thread was a big success.
     
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    This is not your problem to solve....why are you taking it on?

    I'm a decent, polite, ethical and fair minded kind of guy BUT I have no clue how you arrive anywhere near the idea that you somehow have any obligation to re-unite the guy with YOUR guitar. Why would you even think it should be you who goes looking for a replacement? Sorry, but that's just weird.

    Here's something interesting to me...even the title of your post doesn't refer to the guitar as 'yours'...it just says "Guy wants guitar back....." Why do you not call it 'my guitar'? Do you not feel like this is really your guitar in some way? Sorry, but I pay attention to these sorts of things in communication.... :)

    Look, if you can hunt for a replacement so can he....and that's how this should go. You should be polite toward him of course, I mean, he's only asking and not demanding it would seem.
     
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    Although I already declined his offer, I can add that the $1,400 was not the going price of a 1980 Firebrand, but the cost to me of finding a guitar I like as much as this Firebrand. The main issue is that this one is 7lbs 5oz which most are 8-9 lbs. Also, he had replaced the pickups with ones I prefer to the original T-tops. I did find a 2003 Les Paul Special that was on the lighter side, but then swapping pickups and getting a similar case would have cost $1,400. That is where I got the $1,400 figure. A typical Firebrand goes for about $1,000 these days.
     
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    I chose my title simply to get people to join the discussion. For an evening, it was kind of fun to just consider the decision I made a year ago. I sometimes have buyers remorse, but not this time! I never felt any obligation to seriously consider this, but I try to make it a policy to follow the golden rule and not be a jerk. I'm glad I asked as it was a nice and fair (although I realize unnecessary) addition to tell him I'd give him right of first refusal if I ever decide to sell it.
     
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    Just nope. Don't ignore, but respectfully point out that the transaction was consensual. Sorry, but no "backsies".
     
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    Such is life. Caveat venditor.
     
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    This idea, of making up weird explanations for why the guitar can't go back, really confuse me.

    If you're straight about it, the guy will get over it. If you mess with him, he'll vandalize your truck when he's passing through your town. Just be honest.
     
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    It's good you took the high road. Nothing wrong with the seller asking and what would be the point of you being a dick about it? Has anyone NOT sold a guitar they wish they could buy back? Well done!!
     
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    Tell him it fell of the stand & the headstock cracked. That's fairly believable.
     
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    Too bad so sad for him. I certainly have been in his position. That being said its not your problem. If you like the guitar, then no price is right for you to not have it.

    I used to have a 79 Firebrand. Awesome guitar. Didn't really like the Original pickups or fret wire so when I needed cash to help out with house expenses I sold it. I certainly didn't get what it was worth then, & now it's worth more.

    Last week I bought one that someone else had basically destroyed. Crap re-fret, missing electronics, painted & then stripped.

    Keep that guitar as long it's working for you.

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    I wish I could find the guy who has my Casino...
     
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    Is the one in the family portrait the renovated one? Too bad about the bad refret. At least the solid body is relatively easy to re-re-finish!
     
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    Might be kind of like the guy who had a really hot wife, she would do anything for him, they were very happy together. Then one day her husband showed up, and took her home.
     
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    Nah, the one in the family portrait is my old one. It was in fantastic shape. One of the nicest necks I've ever played.

    The "new" one I just bought less than a week ago. It's still in its bare wood & gutless state. They've done some irreversible contour shaping at the neck joint so there's no way to ever "restore" the guitar. This leaves me free to do whatever I wished had been different with my first one (frets, pickups, a posible change to the control layout). Part of me wants to refinish in the Pelham Blue some of the deluxes came in but I think I'll tire of that color eventually.

    I'll probably try a Tru Oil finish.
     
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    I think it's admirable that you would consider selling it back. He should expect a decline from you or be willing to pay current market price or above to reacquire the guitar. Consider that he may be playing on your emotions to get the guitar back, just so that he can resell it at the current $1500.00 rate.
     
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    We all want to do the right thing, and part of us would like to give the guitar back if we knew he was genuine.
    But as Totsdad has said above, I think this is probably more likely the reality.
    I decided to weigh in here because only a few days ago my wife came across some vintage furniture on gumtree where the seller decided he wanted more $$ for it than what was advertised because he realized he was selling it undervalued. She told him where he could "shove" that said furniture.
     
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    Their re-fret job had elements of knowing how a re-fret should be done. I'm assuming they didn't have any of the proper tools. They had a lot of chip out which they filled with something rosewood coloured. Hopefully it can be stained.
     
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