Guy wants guitar back, how to say no, or not?

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  1. mistermikev

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    if the guy asked you for both kidneys what would you feel like? Would you feel obligated? Why is there any difference? IMO if someone asks for something and isn't willing to accept a no, then they weren't really asking were they? Repeat after me "it's ok to say no".

    $50, that's kind of an insult imo. what is my time worth to me and how much time does it take to box up a guitar and go to the post office? not to mention potential for him to get the guitar and say "hey there's a scratch here that wasn't there b4... you need to give me $100 back".
    furthermore, there is a good chance he's found someone willing to pay $1400 for it and regrets selling it to you.

    the smart thing to do is to politely respond with "sorry, not selling. here's a link to a few on reverb that I found, perhaps you can live with one of those" and not get involved.
     
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    I sold my first guitar to my brother for $20 (Sears and Roebuck 3/4 sized Eddie VH special with one humbucker) when he expressed interest to play. I had already moved on to a Fender P Bass and a Epi Les Paul.
    Ten years later I am helping my brother move and we unearth (and I mean unearth as it was buried in the bottom of the closet under some clothes, boxes and other junk) said guitar.
    I pick it up and strum it and it was way out of tune, which was not unusual for that guitar. It had a few more nicks and scratches than I remembered but I got nostalgic. So I asked him, "Do you want to sell this back to me?".
    My brother had graduated to 7 string ESPs and a Fender Strat by this time so he says, "Sure, what did I pay for it?"
    I replied, "I sold it to you for $20."
    He grins and says, "Yeah, $20, figuring inflation and such I think it would be worth $20.22."
    I was like, "what, where did you come up with $20.22?"
    He grins again and said, "it just sounds right."
    I had a twenty in my pocket but he made me go out to my truck and dig $.22 cents out of my console so that I had $20.22 for that guitar.

    I still have it and it hangs in a prestigious place in my shop. And it still won't stay in tune.
     
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    It appears that both parties acted in good faith, and in accordance with Reverb's standards for Buyers and Sellers, so...

    I would politely decline. Doing so not only honors the terms of your "quid pro quo" transaction, but also provides a valuable, "teachable moment" for the Seller.

    Let your 'yes' be 'yes'...
     
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  4. telemnemonics

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    Wow
     
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    Just say sorry it's not for sale.
     
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    Yeah, and I want to be a Porn Star,,, not happening:(
     
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    Well, if it was me that had your old D-18 and it wasn't my most favorite guitar but I did like it and wasn't in need of the cash, I would still consider selling it back to you given your longing for it.
    Probably discuss what a fair price would be though, not $50 over the original low sale price!

    As far as obligation, there is none.
    But lots of guitars sit unloved in collections.
    I sometimes look at a nice guitar and regret not loving it or playing much, but keep it just because I hoard guitars.

    I hear you not wanting to hope in a hopeless situation though, I think you might still ask if it came into your view.
     
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  8. getbent

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    I think sell it back to him but, cover your shipping both when he shipped to you and back to him plus... 100.00

    Why not make a lifelong connection here? Tell him if he grows tired of it again, you get to buy it back at the ORIGINAL price and you get first right of refusal. (maybe he lives up to it, maybe not)

    it is just a guitar and if you DID do that... well, it would be pretty cool and something that would be cool pretty much forever...

    All the dodging and 'winning' answers are too easy (I think that is why you posted) why not give somebody something they really want (or think they do) you'll totally get over it and move on...

    I say go for it (giving it back)
     
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    Oh you are not thinking this through.. my guess is that some bear videos or a snuff film could work for your skill set.
     
  10. telemnemonics

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    Full moon mercury in retrograde feelin' bad askin' for moral support?
     
  11. DekeDog

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    Tell him he can buy her back after you’ve used her up.
     
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    Add in that you shot your dog for breaking your favorite first guitar and the story of woe is complete.
    Maybe mention that your new dog is talking to you about your next homicide assignment.
     
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    Blow his mind. Tell him that you gave it to a blind, homeless man busking for tips downtown to stay out of the homeless shelter or jail. ;):D
     
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    As Tom Waits sang: "Wish I had all the money I spent on dope".
     
  15. Dan German

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    Actually, mine was a true story (well, I haven’t been looking really hard for a Firebrand, but if I saw one, I might be interested...) I do like the “new dog talking to you...” embellishment, though.

    As a side note, I sold a guitar to a member here a number of years ago. When it became surplus to his needs, he contacted me to see if I wanted to buy it back. Sadly, I couldn’t, but the gesture was appreciated. I doing the reverse is in any way inappropriate, as long as it’s just a “would it be possible” and not pestering. I wouldn’t be offended, and I would simply say yes or no.
     
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    I’d settle for half.
     
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    Truth be told, I did spend a lotta money on dope and sold or pawned all my guitars and amps to get that money.

    So I'm uniquely qualified to want all those guitars back!
    If I saw one I might mention that "I restored that guitar and put ABCDWXYZ parts into it before refretting the neck, best Strat I ever owned", followed by "wanna sell it?".

    We really don't own any of our "stuff".

    We do however own the consequences of our actions!
     
  18. GuitarKid

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    No thanks
     
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    Yeah, just a very brief declination letter.

    Look. If you somehow get drawn into a conversation with this guy, let him know you're recording with the instrument. If his interest in the guitar (not the price differential) is honest, he'll respect IMO leaving things as they are. If there was a guitar I was interested in getting back, I'd back off if I knew it was being used in a "Higher Order" of this type, by the current owner. I could be the only person feeling that way, but I doubt it.
     
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    I noted this spring while touring the famous guitar exhibit at the MET in New York in a display of instruments belonging to the Who was an Epiphone Wilshire with the note Daltry sold this guitar to Townsend.

    Guys been in a band their whole lives together but if you want to play my guitar, you buy it and keep it.
     
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