Guy wants guitar back, how to say no, or not?

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  1. beyer160

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    That's it in a nutshell.

    Two weeks ago I bought a partscaster- the seller used all kinds of weasel words to describe it- "I think the pickups are Duncan antiquities, I'm pretty sure the neck is a Warmoth," etc. It played nice though, so I made him an offer based on it being a well done partscaster made of imported parts. He hemmed and hawed, but took the money.

    30 minutes later I had it on the bench, and whaddaya know- he was telling the truth. Not only that, but it had a $100 Staytrem bridge he hadn't even mentioned. I almost felt bad for lowballing him, but it'd only taken me a couple of minutes to disassemble the guitar to check what was under the hood- if he'd done the same, he could have included pictures in his ad and I wouldn't have lowballed in the first place.

    A week later I get a text that his buddy that built the guitar for him wanted to buy it back for more than I'd paid. I wasn't interested in selling, so I never responded.
     
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  2. Daytona.57

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    I had a similar experience, when I was living in a small town.

    I traded guitars locally, the same make and model, only the color was different, mine was red and his was blue, with an individual. I was collecting all of the different colors of this particular model of Pro Tone Strat.

    The next day, he contacted me and said that he wanted his guitar back. He was extremely irate because his tech advised that the pickup wiring was not soldered but held together with electrical tape. If this was the case, I had never checked, the tech could have soldered them when the guitar was apart.

    I gave him back his guitar because I was living in a small community and I didn't want my reputation tarnished for future trades.

    I also experienced problems with the local mom & pop music store, when they turned my young son, 9 yrs old, away from his guitar lessons for non payment. I had to go to the bank to obtain a copy of the cashed check, for proof of payment.

    YMMV
     
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  3. Ron R

    Ron R Friend of Leo's

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    Yeah sorry, no do-overs on a sale, especially when selling to a stranger.
    I mean, I'd be polite about it and all, but he'd still be outta luck.
     
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  4. Rockinvet

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    The instrument title has passed, its yours and you shouldn’t feel guilty about not selling it back. But that says a lot about your character. Your a good person just for thinking about it. Keep it. There are others out there for him to purchase.
     
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  5. hdvades

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    I would have said $1600+100 shipping and it's yours...if it was me.
     
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  6. Texicaster

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    No big deal asking to buy back... I've done it a couple times and been pleasantly surprised the buyer was willing to sell back for what he bought it for!

    All part of the grand game of gear and money and fun!
     
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  7. brookdalebill

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    In the course of my guitar-life I’ve given guitars to friends and deserving people.
    I’ve given guitars I liked, and valuable guitars away.
    Stuff is stuff, it’s everywhere.
    I like guitars, but they don’t (totally) rule me.
    OK, enough of my dime-store Zen wannabe philosophizing.
    I’ve owned a perhaps sinful number of guitars.
    It’s my “bad” habit.
    I only want one back, my 1963 Epi Texan.
    If I found it (highly unlikely), I’d ask the owner for the ability to buy it back IF they ever wanted to sell it.
    I would never whine, needle, or bully said owner.
    If you don’t love/need/want the guitar in question, sell it back to him, perhaps for the same money.
    If you you sell it back, perhaps consider making a “first right of refusal” offer to the guy.
    Or not.
     
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  8. GGardner

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    I don't think the guy's out of line for asking. For all he knows, you may have buyer's remorse. And a courteous, "No, but you'll be my first call if I ever want to sell it"--as many have suggested--strikes me as a perfect reply.

    On the other hand, I'm very pleased to hear that a '80 Firebrand can fetch $1,500. I had never heard of a Firebrand before your post. But it bodes well for my '70s Gibson.
     
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  9. Charlie Bernstein

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    Good question, lots of good answers. My humble:

    Yes, I'd answer the seller's query. It's a reasonable one. Now the ball's in your court.

    If it was an online sale, you could just say you've already sold it. You'll never hear from him or her again.

    I do that all the time with scammers, but it works just as well with civilians.

    If I wanted to sell it back, I'd offer it at something near Reverb's average price. Maybe a little less, if the seller were tugging my heart strings.

    Is $1,400 Reverb's average sale price, or are are you looking at asking prices? Reverb's average selling prices are usually less than the posted asking prices.

    If I wanted to keep it, I'd say sorry, it's not for sale, but thanks for asking.

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    Oh. You already took care of it. Well done!
     
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  10. P Thought

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    I'd tell him that if I grow tired of the guitar, I'll sell it back to him for the price I paid. Then I'd play the guitar until I was tired of it, and sell it back to him.
     
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  11. tery

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    It sounds like the previous owner found someone else who will pay him more for the guitar than you paid for it . . .
     
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    C’mon, OP!
    My wife told me “it’s me or the guitar”, so I reluctantly put it up for sale.
    Then, she left me for the bass player anyway.
     
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    And I'd add for $1400 bucks ....

    Bust a deal, face the wheel..
     
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  14. boredguy6060

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    Don’t be a sap, it’s your guitar, keep it and enjoy it.
     
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    This story reminds me of the movie “Father Of The Bride” and the scene where Steve Martin tries to buy back the family home that he sold.
     
  16. memorex

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    Just to chime in with what others have said, you owe the original seller nothing. If you like the guitar, keep it. If you want to sell it, sell it at the price it's worth now. Not what you paid for it a year ago.
     
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  17. ElJay370

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    I've had seller's remorse far too many times. But I've never had the nerve to contact the person I sold a piece of gear to in an attempt to get it back. I dunno..there's something inherently tacky about that to me. Business transactions should be very upfront, professional, and the terms 100% agreed upon. If I sell something I go into it with the understanding that I'll never see the thing or the person I sold it to ever again. If you're not mature enough to deal with the finality of that, then don't sell it. I agree that you should politely decline his offer, but calling someone and asking "Uhhh...can I have my guitar back?" is just lame.
     
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  18. mrmousey

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    Tell him you really like it but if you decide to sell it you'll contact him
    That is certainly a reasonable response, and you are under no obligation to do any more than that
     
  19. MilwMark

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    Why is this any sort of dilemma?

    It’s your guitar.

    Sell it at the price you’d want if you are open to selling.

    Don’t if you are not. No need for excuses or elaborate stories.

    Simple.
     
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  20. Toto'sDad

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    Even nicer, Dude, I flipped that smoke wagon two days after I bought it, DOUBLED MY MONEY!
     
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