Guy wants guitar back, how to say no, or not?

Discussion in 'Bad Dog Cafe' started by etype, Nov 12, 2019.

  1. dlew919

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    Dear seller.

    I fully understand why you would want it back. It has become my favourite guitar and I cannot see myself parting with it at this stage. However should this circumstance change I will give you the right of first refusal - this means I will offer it to you doorstep, at market value or a mutually agreed price.

    I remain

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  2. Obsessed

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    Being polite about declining the offer is probably the right thing to do, but ...

    you could say, "are you kidding me, this is the finest LP that I have ever laid my hands on and I will have it in my arms when I die."

    Just a thought.
     
  3. Tonetele

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    All too true. You own it, you like it and it doesn't even warrant a reply.
     
  4. Toast

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    Any seller who did that would annoy me. A deal's a deal. I'd respond with, "Dude, I flipped it two weeks after you sold it to me. Sorry."
     
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  5. Dan German

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    Well, if it was me, I would say “are you kidding me, a 1980 Firebrand was my firstest ever electric guitar, then my dog broke it, and I’ve been looking for one ever since, so no. Just no.”

    But that’s just me.

    Stupid dog.
     
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  6. DonM

    DonM Friend of Leo's Silver Supporter

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    If you like the guitar, tell him no thanks, you’re not interested. Ignore any further contact by him and don’t look back.
     
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  7. EsquireOK

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    It’s not an odd request, nor is it out of line. I have been on both sides of the situation. Politely decline. Tell him that if you ever sell, he’ll have first right of refusal.
     
  8. Asmith

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    I dont think your under any obligation here. Even if you do decide to sell it you should sell it for what its worth not to the previous owner for half, even if that was what you paid a year ago.

    I can only think of one exception Im bound to. I bought an Epi Riviera off a friend it was his first guitar he didnt really want to sell it but wanted to fund his dream guitar purchase. I really liked this guitar having played it at pretty much every jam we did so I said I would buy it and cherish it and if I ever sell it he gets first dibs.

    Notice that even in this exception if he has sellers remorse hes not getting it back unless Im ok with selling it. But Im not selling EVER! Its my #1.

    The guitar is yours enjoy it.
     
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  9. Thebluesman

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    just say this....
    Sorry but i'm in the Bahamas now 'thanks to that guitar.'
    Sorry but if you still want it contact..'Joe@ Bonamassa.com!'
     
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  10. rolandson

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    You like it. It belongs to you. If you don't want to sell it...don't.

    Tell him it's not for sale. No apologies, excuses, reasons...it's none of his business why it's not for sale.

    If you are considering selling it, regardless of price, then this thread is what exactly?

    Put another way: It's your guitar. Do what you want with it.
     
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  11. radiocaster

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    Show him this and tell him about the mods.
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  12. 4pickupguy

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    He should have merely said “I really regret parting with that guitar, if you ever consider selling it, please call me.” Putting pressure on you in anyway tells me he wants to flip it because he realizes now, he left money on the table.
    “If I ever decide to sell it I will give you first right of refusal.”

    If he had traded it in somewhere would he now be asking the store to sell it back to him for $50?
     
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  13. Informal

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    I was in this guys shoes a few years ago.... I had a Tele with a BW bender installed that I really liked.

    But then the Crook Tele (in my avatar) came up for sale at a price I couldn't refuse.... I had both for a year or so, but played my Crook 9 out of 10 times over the BW equipped tele..... So I sold the tele.

    After Bill died, I learned that my tele was one of the last benders he did.... So I had some weird guilt I can't explain for not keeping it..... I emailed the guy I sold it to for $1200 and asked him if he would be interested in selling it back to me... He said "Sure....what's your offer?"

    I said I'd give him $1300 plus shipping

    He countered with ..... "It's a really nice guitar.... Make it $1500 and it's a deal"


    I never even responded lol.


    I'm not mad at the guy.... So my advice is throw out a number that would make you happy, the worst thing he can do is tell you to FO.
     
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  14. wulfenganck

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    Where's the problem?
    Politely decline, mentioning that you are very happy with the guitar as it is exactly what you were looking for.
     
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  15. Pixie-Bob

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    Just say "NO".
     
  16. Thebluesman

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    Refund but postage is $10000
     
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  17. bender66

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    You owe him nothing. The proper answer has been stated & used graciously.

    $50 over what you paid him for it isn't very enticing. I wouldn't insult someone with that offer over a year later.
     
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  18. BluesGuitarMart

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    I don't think it's out of line for them to ask politely. I own a few guitars at the moment, more than I want to and if any of the original sellers were to message me offering to pay what they sold the guitar to me for I'd take it in a heartbeat.

    Which shows two things:

    1) All my guitars are technically up for sale, but I hate the whole advertising and selling bit
    2) I overpay for guitars
     
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  19. Lefty Addams

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    very cheeky of him to ask. Ignore him. He's the idiot who let it go.

    A sale is a sale.
     
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  20. stormsedge

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    The unvarnished truth will set you free, and "no" is not a bad word. Telling him you'll give him first refusal to buy should you decide to sell is quite common in real estate, cars, boats and other high ticket items...why not guitars? Then set aside any lingering guilt he may have laid on you and enjoy YOUR guitar.
     
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