deepintheblues
Tele-Meister
I know TDPRI isn’t the place for this and I’m sorry.
We lost my Father in Law in the early hours of Tuesday morning.
Although we were with him when he passed and in the hours leading up to to it, we feel it was so badly managed by the hospital.
My wife was telling him how much she loved him, how he was the best dad in the world, but she is still tearing herself apart with grief, anger at how the hospital badly managed things, guilt over things that she doesn’t need to feel guilt about, and it’s killing me watch her do this to herself. I’ve lost both my parents, I know the pain she is in and unless a person has lived it no one can truly understand it. I keep trying to reassure her he knew we were there and he could hear us. Nighttime is the worst she replays things, I’m awake with her trying to comfort her. She lost her mom when she was 3 years old, she is so close to her dad, he never remarried. She has a brother, but she worried what is going to happen with him. He never grew up, never moved out, his dad did pretty much everything, paid bills etc. now we’ve got him to look after as well. It’s not that he would be incapable, it’s almost as if someone else is about he’ll let them deal with things. He’s taken no part in making arrangements, he lives in their dads home, we went to see him, talk about things he started talking about a Football team that had been relegated, I wanted to scream at him, to help his sister, to get involved. To not just leave this to us. The funeral arrangements it’s the last thing he can do for his dad and it’s so important to get it right for his dad and for his sister, to help her, but he’s not doing anything. The day his dad died he went home and said he slept for 13 hours. My wife in her own words is utterly bereft.
We lost my Father in Law in the early hours of Tuesday morning.
Although we were with him when he passed and in the hours leading up to to it, we feel it was so badly managed by the hospital.
My wife was telling him how much she loved him, how he was the best dad in the world, but she is still tearing herself apart with grief, anger at how the hospital badly managed things, guilt over things that she doesn’t need to feel guilt about, and it’s killing me watch her do this to herself. I’ve lost both my parents, I know the pain she is in and unless a person has lived it no one can truly understand it. I keep trying to reassure her he knew we were there and he could hear us. Nighttime is the worst she replays things, I’m awake with her trying to comfort her. She lost her mom when she was 3 years old, she is so close to her dad, he never remarried. She has a brother, but she worried what is going to happen with him. He never grew up, never moved out, his dad did pretty much everything, paid bills etc. now we’ve got him to look after as well. It’s not that he would be incapable, it’s almost as if someone else is about he’ll let them deal with things. He’s taken no part in making arrangements, he lives in their dads home, we went to see him, talk about things he started talking about a Football team that had been relegated, I wanted to scream at him, to help his sister, to get involved. To not just leave this to us. The funeral arrangements it’s the last thing he can do for his dad and it’s so important to get it right for his dad and for his sister, to help her, but he’s not doing anything. The day his dad died he went home and said he slept for 13 hours. My wife in her own words is utterly bereft.
